The Mack Within

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IN THE WORDS OF A M A C K . .

Call Girl: A female w h o works t h r o u g h an agency or escort service, dealing w i t h high-paying tricks. Captain Save-a-Ho: A m a n w h o tries to earn the attention a n d affection of w o m e n by offering t h e m s u p p o r t (often financial). This t e r m derives from the h i p - h o p song "Captain Save-a-Ho" by E-40. Chickenhead: A female w h o is content to live in substandard conditions. A female with no game w h o doesn't w a n t to achieve higher learning. Dime: A female w h o is considered a ten out of ten based on physical beauty. Gigolo: A m a n w h o offers sexual gratification a n d c o m p a n i o n s h i p to square w o m e n in exchange for financial benefits.

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Hoochie: A female w h o overly accentuates her looks to the point of gaudiness. Hoodrat: A female w h o lives in a low-income, inner-city area. Hustler: A person w h o utilizes a specific gift, trade, or skill to m a k e money. Mack: A m a n w h o is motivated by knowledge a n d power and w h o u n d e r s t a n d s that once he achieves knowledge and power a n d a p plies some hustle to his game, females a n d m o n e y will come a u t o matically. Pimp: A m a n w h o is financially motivated. A m a n w h o serves as a c o m p a n i o n , boss, and m e n t o r to w o r k i n g w o m e n in the game (i.e., strippers, hookers, call girls, etc.). Player: A m a n w h o has tailored his verbal skills in order to get the largest n u m b e r of potential sex p a r t n e r s . A m a n w h o is sexually motivated. Pussy-whipped: W h a t a m a n is said to be w h e n he has taken on a submissive, subservient position w i t h a female in order to m a i n tain sexual favors. Slut: A female whose p r i m a r y desire is to receive sexual gratification from a n u m b e r of different people. Square: A person w h o is n o t in the g a m e a n d n o t a professional hustler. A p e r s o n w i t h a nine-to-five job. Stank: A female w h o provides sexual gratification for menial items (such as food, beer, weed, etc.).

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Stella: An older female w h o overtly flirts with a n u m b e r of younger m e n in o r d e r to see if she is still sexually desirable. From the b o o k and movie How Stella Got Her Groove Back. Trick: A m a n w h o pays for sexual gratification.

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KING FLEX'S TEN COMMANDMENTS OF MACKIN'

1. Mackin' is 20 percent talk, 80 percent attitude. If your game a n d your gear are tight e n o u g h , you can pull females without saying a n y t h i n g at all.

2. There are only two ways to handle any relationship situation: Like a trick, or like a mack. W h e n a relationship p r o b l e m arises, a m a n is either going to m a c k up, or trick off. You're either going to be a player or a payer. Always be a mack. 3. To be a true mack, you must have integrity. To be a m a c k is to be a boss. And in order to be a leader, you must be w o r t h y of being followed.

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4. Always qualify your females before you start mackin'. Mackin' to a female w h o isn't qualified to receive g o o d game is like speaking Chinese to a Mexican. No m a t t e r h o w tight your game is, she simply won't u n d e r s t a n d . 5. Respect the rules of the game. T h e m a c k i n ' game, on a street level, is the only hustle w i t h its o w n set of rules. Anyone can be a d r u g dealer. Anyone can be a carjacker. But you m u s t abide by certain rules to be a successful mack. 6. A mack must be tactful. A mack's g a m e should always be appropriate to the situation. D o n ' t be overly energetic w h e n you s h o u l d be low-key, a n d viceversa. R e m e m b e r that there is a time a n d place for everything. 7. A true mack must always have options. You should always be in a position where you can recruit a n d dismiss (also k n o w n as "cop a n d blow") females at w h i m . T h e day your females see that you have r u n out of options is the day you lose. 8. Never follow your woman. It's ok to get input from your w o m a n . It's even ok to get knowledge from y o u r w o m a n . But the m i n u t e you put your w o m a n in a position of leadership over you, she will lose respect for you. Never let your w o m a n d e t e r m i n e your role in the relationship. It's your j o b as a m a c k to set your o w n agenda.

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9. A mack must constantly upgrade his game and reinvent himself. Familiarity breeds contempt. You m u s t always keep your females in suspense, never k n o w i n g what you will do next. A t r u e m a c k must always have new tricks up his sleeve. 10. Require your females to bring more to the table than just sexual gratification. If you don't require your lady to bring any real assets to the table, she will assume that her sexual gratification is an asset, t h u s putting you in the position of a trick. You must let w o m e n k n o w that sex is so readily available to you that it has no value.

CONTENTS Introduction

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1 The Mack in You

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2 What Kind of Mack Are You?

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3 A Mack Must Value Himself

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4 How to Mack on Different Types of Females

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5 Rules of the Game

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6 How to Step to Females in Different Settings 77

7 Mackin' Musts and Must-Nots 99

8 Ass or Cash? Getting What You Really Want from Females

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9 Upgrading Your Game

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Conclusion

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oiling Stone recently sent a reporter w h o was a total square out here to Los Angeles to do a feature story on m e . He was looking for insight into my lifestyle, my success, a n d the whole m a c k s u b culture of the streets, but he also wanted to test me to see if I lived up to my reputation of being able to t u r n any m a n into a mack. That's right, this d u d e wanted to h a n g with me for a week to see if I could give h i m a Mack Makeover. N o w when I say this reporter was square, I m e a n he was a total square. It's easy for me to teach people in the young, u r b a n d e m o graphic, because m o s t of t h e m are at least somewhat familiar with the game. But here I was dealing with a square, middle-aged white guy w h o looked like an insurance salesman. He looked like t h e adult version of H a r r y Potter. And it was n o w my job to t u r n Clark Kent into Supermack. The first thing I needed to do was to get his tools together. I took h i m to one of my favorite clothing spots to get h i m some new

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gear. T h e whole m a c k i n ' world was so n e w to h i m that he was literally t r e m b l i n g w i t h nervousness as he was trying on his n e w clothes. Next, we rolled around t o w n while I broke the game d o w n to h i m . I gave h i m the basics of the mackin game, and he was soaking it all up like a sponge. The reporter told me that he h a d been divorced for about four years after twenty years of marriage. He admitted that he knew absolutely nothing about the current dating scene, let alone h o w to approach a w o m a n . So I schooled h i m on the rules of the game, a n d later on that night, we set out to go to the club. This club was one of the hottest spots in Los Angeles. I knew that a lot of t o p notch females liked to h a n g there, so I brought some of my best m a c k partners with us. N o w I will a d m i t , it did look k i n d of o d d to have five y o u n g black guys a n d one middle-aged white guy h a n g i n g out at the club together. We told the reporter that people are going to t h i n k that he is o u r p r o b a t i o n officer. But the vibe was cool, a n d he realized that he was in good h a n d s w i t h us. In the club, the reporter does everything t h a t I tell h i m to d o . He carries himself the way I tell h i m . A n d to his surprise, females were c o m i n g up to him starting conversations. T h r o u g h o u t the night, we saw the reporter interacting w i t h different females, exchanging n u m b e r s , the whole nine. He was shocked to see that females there were so receptive to h i m . He didn't k n o w he h a d it in h i m to pull w o m e n like that. He told me that he was n o w a believer. All I did was t a p into his m a c k within. The same game that I shared w i t h that Rolling Stone reporter is what I ' m going to share with you in this b o o k . A n d if the sprinkle of game I laced that reporter w i t h could u p g r a d e his game that

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dramatically, just imagine what a whole b o o k of the game can do for you. The Mack Within is a b o o k designed to help m e n live up to their full m a c k potential. Let's face it: Most m e n would love to have the game and confidence to get n o t only any type of female he wants, but also to achieve any goal he wants to in life. And despite the m a cho, "I-don't-need-no-help" facade that m a n y m e n hide behind, the reality is, a lot of guys are frustrated from n o t getting the results they really want out of dating. T h e first t h i n g a potential m a c k has to u n d e r s t a n d is that the m a c k i n ' game isn't about ego or e m o t i o n s . It's about logic. You have to m a c k from your m i n d , n o t from your heart. If you are the type of cat w h o is emotionally driven, a n d you insist on getting your h e a r t involved w i t h every female you meet, this b o o k isn't for you. If you are one of those masochistic guys w h o secretly enjoys being played like a sucker by females, this b o o k isn't for you. If you are one of those guys w h o is p r o u d to be a "hopeless romantic," just put d o w n this b o o k a n d go pick up The Best of Lionel Richie. This b o o k is for the guys w h o seriously w a n t to put the m a c k d o w n . Let me ask you: • Are you tired of being Mr. Nice Guy a n d getting nowhere w i t h females? • Are you tired of waiting until you b e c o m e a successful r a p per or athlete before you can get the type of w o m a n you really want? • Are you tired of tricking off drinks at clubs, just so w o m e n will talk to you?

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• Are you tired of settling for second- a n d third-rate females, wishing you could get w i t h females that look like the ones in m u s i c videos? • Are you tired of being sexually m a n i p u l a t e d by females? * Are you tired of having to spend excessive a m o u n t s of m o n e y on females just to have t h e m in your company? If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, this b o o k is for you.

Before you can soak up all the game in this b o o k , you m u s t disregard everything that you have b e e n t a u g h t about m a n / w o m a n relationships. Forget everything you were t a u g h t in the square world. This b o o k is going to give you insight straight from the street world. You will learn that the rules regarding m a n / w o m a n relationships on a street level can be directly applied to relationships in the square world. This b o o k will also give y o u i m p o r t a n t m a c k i n ' pointers on topics like: • How soon to call a female after you meet her • How much money to spend on a first date • How to mack to females at malls, bus stops, and other common spots • Which females you should avoid • How to get females to cater to your every need

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W i t h The Mack Within, I'm n o t trying to t u r n m e n into something they are n o t . There are different types of macks, a n d different levels of mackin'. I just w a n t to bring m e n to a level of m a c k i n ' that is comfortable for t h e m a n d fits their individual desires. There are a lot of guys out there w h o have the raw materials for being a t r u e m a c k , b u t they don't k n o w h o w to channel their energy. I r e m e m b e r w h e n Kobe Bryant first got into the NBA. Everyone k n e w he was a good player, b u t he a n d his t e a m weren't w i n n i n g games. Kobe was infamous for hogging the ball a n d was perceived as a self-centered player. He was a good basketball player, b u t he wasn't a good game player. So w h e n Phil Jackson came into the picture, he showed Kobe h o w to h o n e his talents, a n d to utilize his skills correctly to become a team player. And that was w h e n Kobe started to w i n c h a m p i o n s h i p s . I'll help you t a p into your m a c k w i t h i n a n d help you develop your raw m a c k i n ' skills so you can start w i n n i n g in the dating game. You can look at me as the Phil Jackson of mackin'. The Mack Within isn't a b o o k on h o w to get over on women, or h o w to deceive w o m e n . The word mack has become an almost misogynistic t e r m in o u r society today. This b o o k will also help clear up a lot of those m y t h s and misconceptions about the true essence of what a m a c k really is. W h e n you t a p into the m a c k within, you will learn to find that balance and inner peace with yourself. Too m a n y m e n are coochie-whipped in o u r society. This is frustrating t o b o t h m e n a n d w o m e n , because w o m e n eventually become frustrated w i t h m e n they can d o m i n a t e and control sexually. A lot of m e n are u n d e r the false impression that they are r u n ning the s h o w in their relationships. A n d the worst p a r t of being coochie-whipped is n o t k n o w i n g that y o u are.

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H e r e are a few signs that you are coochie-whipped, a n d you need to soak up this game: • If you and your lady go out wearing matching outfits • If your lady sends you to the store to get her feminine products • If your lady makes you hold her purse at the mall • If you had to hide this book from your lady If any of these things apply to you, it's time to learn h o w to tap into the m a c k w i t h i n .

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very m a n has the potential to be a mack. It's as simple as that. Every m a n . Yes, that m e a n s you, too. The question is, to w h a t degree? There are first-degree macks, second-degree macks, a n d third-degree macks. Let me break it d o w n for you.

First-Degree Macks W h e n a m a n b e c o m e s sexually active for t h e first t i m e , he a u t o matically b e c o m e s a first-degree m a c k . A n d after he gets his first taste of sex, he w a n t s to k n o w t w o t h i n g s a n d t w o things only: h o w to get m o r e w o m e n , a n d h o w to get better w o m e n . A n d in the m i n d of m o s t first-degree m a c k s , m o r e is better. So the first-degree m a c k spends m o s t of his time trying to figure out h o w to get m o r e and better w o m e n . Even if the first-degree

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mack settles for a subpar female, he still has secret desires to have better. W h i c h brings u s t o . . .

Second-Degree Macks Second-degree macks are guys w h o are m o r e experienced and w h o have figured out effective techniques for getting w o m e n . T h e second-degree mack's p r i m a r y focus in life is to get as m a n y notches on his b e l t — t h a t is, sexual p a r t n e r s — a s possible. These guys are c o m m o n l y k n o w n as "players." Second-degree m a c k is the highest level of m a c k i n ' that the average m a n will reach in his life. This is because the average m a n has b e e n t a u g h t to value sex over everything else. (More on that topic later.)

Third-Degree Macks T h i r d - d e g r e e m a c k s have been t h r o u g h their player stage a n d have decided to u p g r a d e their game. Third-degree macks u n d e r s t a n d that w h e n it comes to females, it's all about quality instead of quantity. T h e third-degree m a c k k n o w s w h y one t o p - n o t c h female is better t h a n twenty chickenheads. This b o o k will get you to the third-degree level of mackin'. A n d once y o u have reached the third-degree level of mackin', you have truly tapped into the m a c k within.

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The Foundation of a True Mack W h a t you must first u n d e r s t a n d about the game is that mackin' starts in the m i n d . It doesn't start w h e n you get an NBA contract. It doesn't start when you get a record deal. It doesn't start w h e n you b u y some n e w rims, a Rolex, or an Escalade. If you need material things to make you feel like a mack, what will h a p p e n if you lose those things? You won't feel like a m a c k a n y m o r e . Let's say you get w o m e n based on what your car looks like. If your car were to be repossessed or put in the shop, you wouldn't get w o m e n a n y m o r e . Or, let's say you get w o m e n strictly because you have a hit song on the charts at the m o m e n t . What's going to h a p p e n when you don't have any m o r e hits? That's right, no m o r e w o m e n . T h e same thing that h a p p e n e d to Billy Ocean, C h r i s t o p h e r Williams, Rico Suave, and the cats w h o m a d e " W h o o m p There It Is." No m o r e females are sweating them. This is why it's i m p o r t a n t to focus on having game. You can lose all of your superficial material possessions, but game can never be taken away from you. This is w h y you must u n d e r s t a n d that m a c k i n ' starts in the m i n d . Mackin' is all about h o w you view yourself. Because the way you see yourself in your o w n m i n d is the way others will eventually see you, too. If you see yourself as a sucker, or as insecure, others will see you that way, too. But if you see yourself as a boss player, people will treat you like one.

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Confidence Is a Must T h e m o s t i m p o r t a n t tool for a potential m a c k is self-confidence. W h e n you have confidence, you look like a winner. And everyone, fine w o m e n included, loves to be a r o u n d a winner. W h e n you have confidence, it shows n o t only in your words, b u t in your nonverbal cues, as well. People always come up to me asking for clever p i c k - u p lines to use on w o m e n . And I tell t h e m , it's n o t about p i c k - u p lines. It's about having confidence. I can tell some guys w h a t to say verbatim, b u t if they don't have the confidence to back up those words, they are going to get shut d o w n by females anyway. W h e n you have the confidence to back up your words, you can say just about a n y t h i n g to a female a n d look fly. You can walk up to a female a n d tell her that her weave is out of place, and she will still be feeling you. Remember, it's n o t what you say, but h o w you say it.

To Be a Mack, You Must Have Your Priorities Straight T h e top four things aspiring macks are insecure about: 1. Their occupations 2. Their cars 3. Their cribs 4. Their looks I always get e-mails from guys saying things like, "Yo, King Flex, I don't have my own place, I don't have a job, and I don't have a car.

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So what's the best way for me to get females under my circumstances?" I tell these guys to get their priorities in order, and w o r k on areas where they are lacking that m a k e t h e m insecure before stepping into the mackin' arena. If you are trying to m a c k on a female a n d you have things that you are insecure about, you m a y find yourself lacking confidence a n d focusing on whether or n o t the female is going to find out about them, rather t h a n on the quality of your game. You can't be 100 percent o n - p o i n t with your game if you are w o n dering what a female will think of you when she finds out you live with your m o m . Your game can't be up to par if you are wondering what she'll t h i n k if you pull up to her crib in a bucket. So this is w h y it's i m p o r t a n t for a p o t e n t i a l m a c k to n o t t r y to m a s k or h i d e his s h o r t c o m i n g s , b u t to rectify t h e m . A playa m u s t focus on stackin' his p a p e r first. A playa m u s t focus on i n creasing his g a m e first. If y o u have issues w i t h b e i n g o u t of s h a p e , you m u s t first focus on w o r k i n g out. Because guess what? After you get y o u r g a m e together, after y o u stack your p a p e r , after y o u get y o u r h u s t l e on, t h o s e same females are still going to be t h e r e .

Top Five Fabrics True Macks Like to Wear 1. M i n k 2. Silk 3. Leather 4. Suede 5. Chinchilla

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Top Five Fabrics Macks Do Not Wear 1. Lace 2. M a c r a m é 3. Nylon 4. C o r d u r o y 5. Pleather

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WHAT KIND Of MACK ARE YOU?

n order for a m a n to reach t r u e m a c k d o m , he has to understand what type of m a n he is. He must also understand where his level of game is, as well. Before a m a n can understand the psychological and social m a k e u p of different types of women, he has to be able to correctly analyze himself. This way he can correctly diagnose his strengths and deficiencies, and therefore make the correct adjustments a n d upgrades if need be. In this chapter I will place m e n in eight different categories. I will refer to these m e n as the They are:

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T h e S m o o t h Brother

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3. T h e Sensitive Simp 4. The Save-a-Ho Brother 5. The Sassy Brother 6. The Scavenger

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7. The Super T h u g 8. The Scrub Here's the b r e a k d o w n :

The Smooth Brother T h e S m o o t h Brother is the cat w h o has the gift of gab. He knows what to say and h o w to say it when it comes to spitting game at females. S m o o t h Brothers are very laid back and mellow with their game, a n d they k n o w h o w to talk their way out of certain predicaments with w o m e n (especially in cases of infidelity). This S m o o t h Brother usually has one m a i n lady a n d several females on the side. He also takes p r i d e in being able to juggle a n u m b e r of w o m e n without any one of t h e m finding out about a n other.

Positive Aspects of the Smooth Brother T h e positive thing about S m o o t h Brothers is that m a n y of t h e m are very charismatic a n d suave. M a n y S m o o t h Brothers also k n o w h o w to intrigue w o m e n by using their personality a n d c h a r m . M a n y of these guys are snappy dressers a n d they k n o w n o t to be t o o over-the-top w i t h their gear. M a n y S m o o t h Brothers also k n o w h o w to t u r n w o m e n on w i t h words, which is a major req u i r e m e n t for being a t r u e mack.

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Negative Aspects of the Smooth Brother On the negative side, m a n y S m o o t h Brothers are somewhat deceitful in the way they deal with w o m e n . Many of these guys are habitual liars, and they get a thrill from being able to get away with their most outrageous lies. O n e of the rules of the mackin' game is that you have to play it fair. But m a n y S m o o t h Brothers have a take-no-prisoners attitude when it comes to dealing with w o m e n . They will live a lie as long as they can get away with it. They revel in deceit. And once the w o m e n they deal with become aware of the deceptive S m o o t h Brother's lies, these w o m e n will ultimately lose respect for t h e m . A true m a c k must maintain a level of respect from his women at all times. The Smooth Brother's Game The S m o o t h Brother usually steps to w o m e n in a very laid-back manner. He has learned h o w to master the art of reaction. He knows h o w to make s m o o t h and clever responses to everything a female says to h i m . Females are usually impressed by his verbal spontaneity and quick wit. The effortlessness of his o n - p o i n t responses d u r i n g conversation is usually what lures women in.

The Serious Brother The Serious Brother is usually the n o - n o n s e n s e , suit-and-tie p r o fessional guy w h o does things by the b o o k . The Serious Brother is usually well-disciplined and w e l l - e d u c a t e d , a n d in m a n y cases he

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is very financially stable. M a n y Serious Brothers have extensive college or military backgrounds, and they take great pride in their academic achievements.

Positive Aspects of the Serious Brother T h e positive thing about Serious Brothers is that they have no time for games or half-assing. Serious Brothers are very t h o r o u g h when it comes to taking care of business. T h e y earn the respect a n d t r u s t of those a r o u n d t h e m . M a n y w o m e n find Serious Brothers desirable because these guys are usually intelligent, dependable, a n d they provide a sense of security. A n d w o m e n consider this as m a r riage material in a m a n .

Negative Aspects of the Serious Brother On the flip side of the Serious Brother, m a n y of these guys are considered assholes. Because m a n y of the Serious Brothers are welleducated a n d financially stable, they sometimes t e n d to have a h o l i e r - t h a n - t h o u attitude. Sometimes these cats are so serious, they forget that they need to loosen up a n d have fun every once in a while. Some of the Serious Brothers possess this know-it-all attit u d e that can start weighing on people's nerves after a while. A n d even t h o u g h w o m e n like a m a n w h o is well-educated a n d w h o k n o w s h o w to handle business, w o m e n also like a m a n w h o can have a little fun every n o w a n d then.

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The Serious Brother's Game T h e Serious Brother likes to use his credentials to impress the w o m e n he steps to. He likes to brag about his college and academic degrees, his worldly travels, and basically his knowledge of the finer things in life. This can w o r k two ways. It can m a k e h i m look intelligent. Or it could make h i m appear as if he's belittling the females he's trying to get with. W h e n you are trying to flex your knowledge, you have to be very subtle about it. Never bring up a topic that you just h a p p e n to be knowledgeable about out of the blue. I knew one Serious Brother w h o would get a r o u n d females and start talking about computers. He t h o u g h t showing his extensive knowledge would impress females, but the way he did it m a d e him look like an ass. Only flex your academic knowledge a r o u n d females if the conversation h a p p e n s to casually shift to that subject matter or if the female brings up the subject.

The Sensitive Simp The Sensitive Simp is the type of cat w h o loves to p a m p e r women and cater to their every need. This is the type of guy w h o likes to bring flowers and candy to a female on a first date. These guys also like to do things like send p o e m s to w o m e n , send females cute little e-mails all day, and stand outside a woman's w i n d o w with a guitar, serenading her with love songs. M a n y of the Sensitive Simps grew up in households where women were the d o m i n a n t force, so they grow up thinking that being submissive to w o m e n is the natural order of things.

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M a n y of these guys have s o m e w h a t of a masochistic desire to cater to w o m e n . The m o r e they get dissed by w o m e n , the m o r e they have an urge to cater to t h e m . These guys take the "kill t h e m w i t h kindness" mentality to an extreme level. The Sensitive Simp feels that if he caters to w o m e n a n d treats t h e m nicely, eventually he will win t h e m over.

Positive aspects of the Sensitive Simp There are times w h e n a m a n needs to s h o w some sensitivity w h e n dealing w i t h w o m e n . There are special occasions (such as Christm a s , Valentine's Day, birthdays, anniversaries, etc.) w h e n a m a n s h o u l d be somewhat r o m a n t i c to a female. As long as you are showing appreciation for a female based on the things she has d o n e for you, there is n o t h i n g w r o n g with showing your sensitive side every n o w a n d then. Just don't start simpin' right out the gate.

Negative Aspects of the Sensitive Simp The negative thing about Sensitive Simps is that m a n y of t h e m come across like w i m p y mama's boys w h o are desperate for female affection. And this usually turns women completely off. M a n y of these m e n are insecure, and women can sense this. Women like men w h o are somewhat of a challenge. And when a m a n goes out of his way to cater to a w o m a n , by chasing her and rolling out the red carpet for her too m u c h and too soon, this takes away from the challenge.. W o m e n m i g h t claim they like the Keith Sweat, Michael Bolton, or Brian McKnight type of r o m a n c e from a guy, but they say this because it's the politically correct t h i n g to say. Most w o m e n will

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claim they like a certain type of guy, b u t t h e n they will t u r n a r o u n d a n d date the complete opposite of what they claim to like. T h e p r o b l e m with the Sensitive Simp is that he actually believes w o m e n when they claim they want a sensitive m a n . True macks k n o w better t h a n to fall for the "I really want a nice, sensitive guy" script.

The Sensitive Simp's Game The Sensitive Simp usually steps to w o m e n with extreme gratit u d e . He likes to show a female h o w appreciative he is that she would take time out of her life to s h o w h i m any form of attention. T h e Sensitive Simp steps to w o m e n by kissing ass right out the gate. He likes to shower t h e m w i t h compliments a n d praise. A n d the Sensitive S i m p will get a r o u n d a w o m a n a n d agree with everything she says. He does this because he doesn't w a n t to do anything to jeopardize his chances of staying on a female's good side.

The Save-a-Ho Brother The Save-a-Ho Brother (a t e r m that comes from the '90s rap song "Captain Save-a-Ho" by E-40) is a guy w h o tries to p o r t r a y himself as a k n i g h t in shining a r m o r to w o m e n . T h e Save-a-Ho Brother likes to seek out damsels in distress or w o m e n w h o are in need of some sort of financial assistance. These m e n like to offer their financial assistance to w o m e n because this is the only way they feel that they can get their foot in the door. Save-a-Ho Brothers are the type of guys w h o like to brag about how m u c h they could do for a w o m a n financially if she were with

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h i m instead of her current m a n . And these are the type of guys w h o like to go to titty bars a n d t r y to square up strippers. M a n y of these cats feel that if all the w o m e n out there took the time to get to k n o w t h e m , they could t u r n any ho into a housewife. Positive Aspects of the Save-a-Ho Brother There's n o t h i n g w r o n g w i t h financially helping out a female, as long as you know for sure she would do the same for you. If a female has b r o u g h t something to the table for you, it's perfectly fine to help her out every once in a while. But as a m a c k , you need to "spit game a n d holla, before you s p e n d change a n d dollas." D o n ' t spend m o n e y on a female in h o p e s of trying to impress her or w i n her over. O n e other good thing about the Save-a-Ho Brother in particular is that they provide females with the m o n e y a n d material items to spend on t r u e macks like us.

Negative Aspects of the Save-a-Ho Brother Save-a-Ho Brothers use m o n e y a n d the promise of financial gain to lure w o m e n in, because they erroneously believe that w o m e n would never bite the h a n d that feeds t h e m . N o t h i n g could be further from the truth. Save-a-Ho Brothers are basic tricks. And w o m e n will accept tricks, but deep d o w n , they do n o t respect tricks. Plus, m a n y w o m e n resent the feeling of having to owe somet h i n g to the Save-a-Ho Brother in r e t u r n for h i m d o i n g favors for t h e m . Eventually that feeling of resentment t u r n s into utter c o n t e m p t . This is because people generally hate to feel obligated or ind e b t e d to other people. For example, do you ever notice h o w people act toward credit-

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card collection agencies? Credit-card companies basically front people money. A n d people are generally m o r e t h a n happy to spend that money. But w h e n it comes time to pay that m o n e y back, people start acting funky as hell. People start ducking and dodging, trying to avoid the credit-card collectors. A n d some people actually get offended that the credit-card companies want their m o n e y back. This is the same feeling that w o m e n have toward Save-a-Ho Brothers. W o m e n hate the feeling of having to "owe ass" to a guy just because he keeps volunteering to help her pay her utility bills. The Save-a-Ho Brother's Game The Save-a-Ho Brother usually steps to women with his credit card in his h a n d . His game is to simply use m o n e y to t r y to impress females. He is the kind of guy w h o will b u y drinks for a girl and all of her friends at the club. He uses m o n e y to compensate for his lack of game. The Save-a-Ho Brother will step to females a n d offer t h e m trips to the mall a n d other types of shopping sprees. If a female has kids, he will offer to take t h e m to C h u c k E. Cheese's. His game is to make the female become dependent on h i m . He feels that if a w o m a n is financially dependent on h i m , he is in control.

The Sassy Brother "Sassy" is a t e r m for m e n that is synonymous with being "metrosexual." A Sassy Brother isn't necessarily gay, but the clothes he wears tend to m a k e people think that he's "suspect." The Sassy Brother is the male equivalent of a hoochie, dressing to get attention. These are the Eric B e n e t - or Lenny Kravitz-type cats w h o you see in the club

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wearing things like see-through shirts, chokers, tongue rings, lace, toe rings, or ankle bracelets. Basically, Sassy Brothers like to wear the total opposite of what a true m a c k would wear.

Positive Aspects of the Sassy Brother T h e one good thing about the Sassy Brother is that he does take p r i d e in the way he looks. M a n y guys will just t h r o w on a n y t h i n g they've got lying a r o u n d a n d go out to the club. But the Sassy Brother takes his t i m e a n d tries to coordinate his gear.

Negative Aspects of the Sassy Brother Even t h o u g h the Sassy Brother does put t h o u g h t into coordinating his attire, he sometimes overdoes it. A t r u e m a c k has to be very careful w h e n he is coordinating his gear. Because one w r o n g accessory can m a k e a p e r f e c l y fly outfit look sassy. You can have on a mackish, all-black A r m a n i suit, b u t if you put on a pair of p i n k b o o t s w i t h it, guess what? Your ass is sassy.

The Sassy Brother's Game M o s t m e n u n d e r s t a n d that w h e n w o m e n dress sexy or skimpy they will attract m e n . But Sassy Brothers t h i n k that if they dress sexy or skimpy, they will impress women, as well. Sassy Brothers will step to w o m e n w i t h their shirts o p e n one b u t t o n too many. They will t r y to wear outfits that show off their abs. T h e y will wear o p e n t o e d shoes, etc. These guys will put on their sassy gear, post u p , a n d wait for females to c o m p l i m e n t t h e m on their attire.

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The Scavenger A scavenger, by definition, is someone w h o accepts leftovers a n d things that are undesirable. A n d there are guys out there w h o have this mentality w h e n it comes to dating. In every g r o u p of guys, there is always at least one Scavenger. We all have that one h o m e b o y w h o will b a n g anything. A n d if you can't figure out w h o that h o m e b o y is in your g r o u p of friends, it's p r o b a b l y you.

Positive Aspects of the Scavenger The one good thing about the Scavenger is that if a group of guys meets a group of girls, a n d one of the girls is a duck, you could h o o k up your Scavenger h o m e b o y with her. Whenever you meet a group of w o m e n , the least attractive ones (usually the ones no other guys will talk to) always t r y to t h r o w salt in your game. So it's always good to have a Scavenger partner with you to intercept any cock-blocking. Even in the wild, scavengers (such as hyenas a n d vultures, etc.) are essential to n a t u r e because they dispose of waste a n d b r i n g balance to the ecosystem. A n d if it weren't for Scavenger brothers, no one would be available to o c c u p y all the chickenheads a n d h o o d rats w h o slip t h r o u g h the cracks.

Negative Aspects of the Scavenger The one downside of having a Scavenger h o m e b o y is that oftentimes he will drag a "dead carcass" into your circle. Scavengers will bring a chickenhead and all of her chickenhead friends a r o u n d you and your

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partners. And this makes your clique look bad. So in some instances, you have to keep the Scavenger in your inner circle at arm's length, because a t r u e mack's game is often judged on the quality of females he can attract. And if you have a gang of chickenheads hanging a r o u n d your crew, it shows a deficiency in your game.

The Scavenger's Game The Scavenger's game is simple: He usually steps to w o m e n in the clubs that n o b o d y else wants. He keeps his standards extremely low so that his rate of rejection is minimal. Also, the Scavenger is the master of parking-lot pimpin'. Scavengers like to hang a r o u n d outside of clubs until they close for the night so they can pick up the strays. True macks try not to stay at clubs until they close, because the quality of w o m e n w h o hang around parking lots of clubs are usually n o t up to par. Quality women like to show up to the club late, and leave the club early. They usually have to get up the next m o r n i n g to do something productive. But low-budget women will literally stay at the club all night and stick a r o u n d afterward. And the Scavengers will be right there to keep t h e m company.

The Super Thug T h e Super T h u g is that in-and-out-of-jail b r o t h e r w h o only thinks in t e r m s of his survival. These are the gangsta-type cats w h o don't play by anyone's rules, a n d they are d o w n to do whatever. These are the guys w h o are involved w i t h carjackings, stickups, a n d dope-dealing. Super T h u g s have no sense of morality; therefore

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they have no remorse for the people they get over on. Now, don't confuse the Super T h u g with the w a n n a b e t h u g w h o only pretends to be gangsta because n o w it's the hip thing to do. Super T h u g s are those three-strikes, always-on-parole brothers w h o come from families three generations d e e p in the ghetto.

Positive Aspects of the Super Thug Because of their overly m a c h o , self-assured attitude, m a n y females find Super T h u g s sexually enticing, in a p r i m a l sort of way. M a n y females gleefully confess that t h u g brothers " k n o w h o w to hit it rough." A n o t h e r thing about the Super T h u g is that he always has "the h o o k - u p " on something. Whatever you need, these cats can always get it for you at a discounted rate. Super T h u g s always have the h o o k - u p on cars, clothes, jewelry, D V D players, etc. We all k n o w that one brother w h o can get a thirty-inch, flat-screen color TV for $80. If you ever want to keep an ear to the street, the Super T h u g is your go-to guy.

Negative Aspects of the Super Thug The bad thing about m a n y Super T h u g s is that they really don't have any long-term lucrative hustle. Most of these guys have a s m a s h - a n d - g r a b mentality. That's the difference between a hustler and a scam artist. A hustler tries to make continuous, long-term benefits with the least a m o u n t of risk. But with the scam artists, the negative consequences and penalties outweigh the rewards. A h u s tler will set up shop, hire the right people, bribe the right people, operate u n d e r the radar, and stack paper over a long period of time.

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A scam artist will rob a liquor store for $100, get caught, and do twenty years in prison. Unfortunately, m a n y Super Thugs have this self-defeating mentality.

The Super Thug's Game Super T h u g s usually step to ghetto girls a n d other h o o d r a t s w h o live in their n e i g h b o r h o o d s . Super T h u g s like to date w o m e n they can s m o k e weed with a n d get d r u n k with. So their game is to seek out w o m e n w h o like to get high, a n d chickenheads usually fit the bill. A n o t h e r reason w h y ghetto girls are m o r e susceptible to the Super Thug's game is because m a n y females from the h o o d grew up w i t h no strong male figure in their lives, so they have no real perception of what t r u e m a n h o o d is. Therefore, they assume that the overly m a c h o d e m e a n o r of the Super T h u g is a t r u e representation of a real m a n .

The Scrub T h e Scrub is the c o n s u m m a t e underachiever w h o never really has a n y t h i n g going for himself. This is the kind of guy w h o lives with his m o t h e r until he's in his thirties. T h e Scrub is the eternal teenager w h o never wants to grow u p . These are the type of guys w h o sit a r o u n d the house all day s m o k i n g weed and playing Xbox. Scrubs usually have very low expectations in life. Their p r i m a r y focus is when the new Jordans are c o m i n g out and what type of rims they should put on their '82 O l d s m o b i l e Cutlass Supreme.

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Positive Aspects of the Scrub T h e good thing about Scrubs is that they m a k e excellent flunkies. Scrubs are n a t u r a l followers. So if you need someone to take on menial, insignificant tasks for you, the Scrub can always be c o u n t e d on. Even t h o u g h m o s t Scrubs don't w o r k full-time jobs, it is n o t t o o h a r d to get one to do a small task for you. All they need to do is m a k e e n o u g h m o n e y to get their next bag of weed a n d they will be straight. A n o t h e r t h i n g about Scrubs is that m a n y of t h e m have no p r o b l e m putting their b i d in w h e n it comes to w o m e n . If you go to a club, the brokest Scrub in the r o o m will be the first one up in a female's face, trying to kick game. M a n y Scrubs feel that since they have no crib of their o w n , no job, no car, a n d no real m o n e y to speak of, they really have n o t h i n g else to lose by spitting game at all the females.

Negative Aspects of the Scrub M a n y Scrubs have negative, " b r o k e " energy. A n d if you h a n g a r o u n d slackers long e n o u g h , that loser energy can r u b off on you. M a n y Scrubs are haters, as well. Scrubs hate seeing other brothers doing better t h a n t h e m . This is especially t r u e if you started out in the same b o a t as the Scrub, b u t you u p g r a d e d your game. W h e n you b e c o m e m o r e p r o s p e r o u s in life t h a n your Scrub counterpart, this reinforces the loser self-image the Scrub has of himself. So in order for this Scrub to cope with his shortcomings, he has to p r o ject his negative feelings o n t o you.

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The Scrub's Game The Scrub steps to w o m e n using the slot-machine t e c h n i q u e . He simply talks to every female he sees until he hits the jackpot. Basically, his game depends on luck. T h e Scrub has no p r o b l e m being rejected by a t h o u s a n d w o m e n , as long as he gets some play from one of t h e m . His game is based on n u m b e r s a n d averages. Also, Scrubs love to h a n g a r o u n d guys w h o are m o r e financially stable or w h o s e game is tighter t h a n theirs. Scrubs like to floss in their h o m e b o y s ' cars. Scrubs like to take females to their h o m e b o y s ' cribs. Scrubs like to catch all of their h o m e b o y s ' leftover females. A n o t h e r game that the Scrubs have is the b a b y - d a d d y hustle. Scrubs like to have children by as m a n y w o m e n as possible (usually h o o d r a t s ) , so they can live off of t h e m .

What Type of Man Makes the Best Mack? You are probably w o n d e r i n g which one of these eight S's has the m o s t t r u e m a c k potential. T h e answer isn't so simple. All of the eight S's have their o w n b r a n d of game, but in order for a m a n to reach the pinnacle of t r u e m a c k d o m , he has to be a psychological shape-shifter. He has to be able to a d o p t m a n y different personality traits. He has to become what I call an Urban Renaissance Man. And in o r d e r to be an U r b a n Renaissance M a n , you have to i n c o r p o r a t e all of the positive aspects of the eight S's. You have to be charismatic like the S m o o t h Brother. You have to be able to handle your financial business like the Serious Brother. You have to be somewhat compassionate at times, like the

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Sensitive Simp. You have to be able to provide for the right female ( w h o will provide for you in r e t u r n ) like the Save-a-Ho Brother. You have to be s o m e w h a t fashion-conscious like the Sassy Brother. You have to be able to w o r k as a t e a m with other players in your entourage, like the Scavenger. You have to be able to spit game at a n u m b e r of females, like the Scrub. And w h e n it gets d o w n to it, you have to be able to get with a female a n d t a p that ass gangster-style, like the Super Thug.

Top Five Macks in Hollywood 1. Denzel Washington 2. Warren Beatty 3. Jack Nicholson 4. George Clooney 5. Bob Barker

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o be a t r u e mack, you m u s t first disregard everything your m o t h e r ever told you about dating and relationships. We are currently living in a time where m a n y of us grow up without fathers in the h o u s e h o l d . As a result, we have a generation of m e n getting into relationships guided only by advice from a female point of view. This is p a r t of w h y m a n y m e n are disillusioned by a n d bitter about d a t i n g — t h e y don't have father figures to share time-tested w i s d o m with t h e m . Now, I ' m n o t trying to t h r o w salt on the single m o t h e r s out there. I honestly believe that m a n y single m o t h e r s m e a n well w h e n they t r y to teach their sons about h o w to interact w i t h females. But m a n y of these single m o t h e r s give their sons the rose-coloredglasses p o i n t of view on dating, instead of the real story. A n d s u b sequently, m a n y y o u n g m e n are m i s i n f o r m e d about h o w to deal with w o m e n .

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How Mothers Program Their Sons to Be Tricks and Their Daughters to Be Hos Even t h o u g h there are exceptions to this theory, most m o t h e r s out there (especially single m o t h e r s ) teach their sons to be tricks, even t h o u g h m a c k i n ' is the natural instinct for men. As I've said, every m a n has a m a c k within. Every heterosexual m a n wants a variety of w o m e n or the best w o m e n . But m a n y are brainwashed from a young age by their m o t h e r s , sometimes subtly a n d sometimes blatantly, to be tricks. It starts off with m o t h e r s telling their sons that they should treat all w o m e n as special. Boys are taught that they should respect all w o m e n , that all women are a prize. Boys are taught to pull out chairs for w o m e n , open car d o o r s for w o m e n , spread their coats over puddles for w o m e n , etc. Basically, boys are t a u g h t that anyone with a vagina should be highly valued. This p r o g r a m s m e n to w o r ship female sexuality. Men are given no other reason for the necessity of their giving indiscriminate respect a n d value to females other t h a n the fact that they have different sexual organs. T h e reality is that m e n s h o u l d not be t a u g h t to respect all w o m e n , because n o t all w o m e n are w o r t h y of respect, just as n o t all m e n are w o r t h y of respect. Respect is n o t a given. It is s o m e t h i n g you earn. A n d there are w o m e n a n d m e n alike w h o d o n ' t even respect themselves, so w h y should anyone be obligated to respect t h e m simply based on their gender? M a n y m o t h e r s w h o m i s i n f o r m their sons k n o w the w h o l e t r u t h , b u t don't want to seem j a d e d by telling their sons'. But w h e n

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a y o u n g m a n brings h o m e the n e i g h b o r h o o d stank, his m o t h e r will have an attitude toward the female, a n d the son will have no clue why. T h e reality is, m a n y m o t h e r s k n o w if your wife, girlfriend, or baby's m a m a is the n e i g h b o r h o o d stank. But m o s t of the time, she doesn't w a n t to say anything, because it w o u l d contradict everyt h i n g she's already told her son about respecting w o m e n . As a result, m a n y m e n have to learn the t r u t h the h a r d way. There are t h o u s a n d s of m e n out there w h o are getting their paychecks garnished (by child s u p p o r t a n d alimony, etc.) because they chose the w r o n g w o m a n . A n d m a n y of these situations could have b e e n avoided if m e n were t a u g h t h o w to differentiate between a decent w o m a n a n d a chickenhead. In the next chapter, I will explain exactly h o w that's done.

What Mothers Teach Their Daughters As I m e n t i o n e d before, m o t h e r s often teach their sons to place u n deserved value on females simply because of their gender. This causes m a n y y o u n g m e n t o subconsciously w o r s h i p a n d overvalue the vagina. This eventually leads m e n to place a m o n e t a r y value on a w o m a n ' s v a g i n a — i n essence, t u r n i n g m e n into tricks. D a u g h t e r s , on the other h a n d , are t a u g h t the exact opposite. W h e n m o t h e r s school their daughters o n h o w t o deal w i t h m e n , the t e r m respect isn't even p a r t of their vocabulary. D a u g h t e r s are told: "You have to use what you got to get w h a t you want," " D o n ' t get w i t h a m a n w h o can't get n o t h i n g for you," "You better get as m u c h as you can while you can," etc.

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M a n y m e n have no idea that this is what m o t h e r s tell their daughters. But the w o m e n w h o are reading this k n o w exactly what I ' m talking about. Girls are t a u g h t at a y o u n g age that they should use their physical a n d sexual attributes to get material things from m e n , a n d to value a man's occupation over his character. Girls grow up hearing things like, " W h e n you get older you need to m a r r y a d o c t o r or a lawyer." T h e message this sends to a young girl is that she should offer herself sexually to the highest b i d d e r — i n other words, she should become a h o .

To Be a Mack, You Must Understand the Importance of Man To many, the mackin' game seems extremely far-fetched. T h e t h o u g h t of a m a n having his choice of a n u m b e r of t o p - n o t c h w o m e n seems incredible to the average square. The t h o u g h t of a m a n having total control of n o t only one w o m a n , b u t several w o m e n , seems even m o r e far-fetched. But a lot of rules of the m a c k i n ' game are simply based on different Eastern philosophies of dealing w i t h w o m e n . Even today, there are m a n y places in Africa where m e n live h a r moniously w i t h several different wives. In some Arab societies, m e n still have h a r e m s of w o m e n a n d are openly accepted. In m a n y Asian countries, the w o m e n are infamous for being submissive to their m e n . (This is why m a n y A m e r i c a n m e n have Asian-girl fantasies.) W h y is it that in the West, the w o m e n control their m e n , while in the East, the m e n control their women? W h a t is it that the A m e r -

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ican hustlers a n d m e n of the East know, that the average square m a n in the West doesn't? It's simple: True macks u n d e r s t a n d the i m p o r t a n c e of a m a n , a n d no one u n d e r s t o o d it as well as the first macks.

The First Macks T h e first m a c k s were the ancient Egyptians. Ancient Egyptian m e n were the first to have game. This translated into having power, wealth, a n d a n u m b e r of w o m e n . If you look at m a n y of the Egyptian paintings today, y o u will see p h a r a o h s a n d kings chillin' w i t h a n u m b e r of w o m e n by their sides. T h e Egyptians p a t t e r n e d their lifestyle after the great cats of Africa. It is c o m m o n knowledge that the ancient Egyptians w o r shipped cats. O n e of the m o s t p o p u l a r structures in Egypt to this day is the Sphinx, a giant stone carving of a pharaoh's head on a lion's body. T h e Egyptians p a t t e r n e d their relationships after the patriarchal s t r u c t u r e of the lion k i n g d o m . T h e male lion has long been considered the king of the jungle. T h e male lion is one of the m o s t respected a n d feared animals in the wild. And w h a t does the male lion do? He chills, for the m o s t part. T h e m a l e lion doesn't have to prove his d o m i n a n c e at all times. T h e m a l e lion sleeps t h r o u g h m o s t of the day, a n d yet he's the m o s t respected a n i m a l in the jungle. T h e m a l e lion also has a n u m b e r of female lions that do his w o r k for h i m . T h e female lion does all the h u n t i n g . The female lion raises the cubs. After the female lion makes a kill, she won't even eat before the male lion has h a d his fill.

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How Your Value as a Man Increases with Time Throughout history, men have primarily been valued for their game, and women have primarily been valued for their physical attributes. Of course, there are m a n y exceptions to this rule, but the general fact remains that the m o s t popular w o m e n t h r o u g h o u t history, and even today, such as Cleopatra, Helen of Troy, Marilyn M o n r o e , a n d Halle Berry, were a n d are revered primarily for their physical beauty, while the m o s t popular m e n throughout history, such as Plato, I m h o t e p , Socrates, a n d Malcolm X, have been revered for their knowledge a n d game. Now, because m a n y w o m e n are generally valued based on their physical attributes, their value often decreases as they get older. The exception is the rare female w h o really takes care of herself. Since m e n are valued for their game, their value increases as they get older. It's almost inevitable that they will attain m o r e knowledge as they age. A n d a m a n w i t h a higher level of g a m e — w h i c h often leads to financial success—is highly desirable to w o m e n . The p r o b l e m is that m a n y y o u n g m e n will j u m p into a relationship w i t h any low-budget h o o d r a t w h o looks their way, b e cause these y o u n g m e n don't realize t h a t their value will eventually increase. A w o m a n at eighteen generally has m o r e value t h a n a m a n at eighteen. Eighteen-year-old w o m e n are m o r e sure of t h e m selves, because at that age they are at the t o p of the food chain. Everyone is trying to spit at t h e m . Eighteen-year-old w o m e n are the m o s t desirable because they are like cars fresh off the lot. T h e y look good. They don't have a lot of miles on t h e m . Eighteen-year-

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old w o m e n have all the things m e n want: p e r k y breasts, tight booty, no kids (in m o s t cases), a n d no e m o t i o n a l baggage. Meanwhile, an eighteen-year-old m a n sits at the b o t t o m of the food chain. He doesn't really have m u c h of what w o m e n want: a career, a car, paper, his o w n crib. Unless his game is just hell a tight, the eighteen-year-old male will have to reduce himself to dating local h o o d r a t s . As m e n a n d w o m e n get older, the tables t u r n . T h a t same eighteen-year-old female will have less value, generally s p e a k i n g — there are exceptions, so no e-mails please, ladies—when she reaches forty. By that time, her b o d y won't be as tight as it was. She will p r o b a b l y have h a d children. She m i g h t have accumulated some e m o t i o n a l baggage. These are all the things m e n don't w a n t . On the other h a n d , a m a n at forty is on t o p of his game. He has a career. He is m o r e focused. He has a h o m e , a car, a n d m o n e y to spare. In short, he has ail the things that w o m e n desire. W o m e n always say that m e n are the sexiest in their forties. If you look at H o l lywood, all the t o p male sex symbols are forty or older. Consider George Clooney, H a r r i s o n Ford, Brad Pitt, Mel Gibson, Denzel Washington, or Sean Connery. As a m a n , you have to view yourself as being a w o r k of fine art. View yourself as real-estate potential. As we all know, fine art a n d real estate b e c o m e m o r e valuable as t i m e progresses.

Value Your Dick A very i m p o r t a n t rule that m a n y m e n in "the life" u n d e r s t a n d is that a mack must have standards. And a m a n m u s t value his dick

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m o r e t h a n he values a coochie. So m a n y square guys today are so glad a n d grateful that a female (any female, at that) will give t h e m some coochie that they are willing to lower their standards. As a mack, you don't just stick your dick up in any b r o a d . There are guys out there w h o will literally sleep with anything. (These are the Scavengers mentioned in the last chapter.) N o w granted, as m e n , we have all fallen off the wagon every n o w and then and h a d sexual relations with a few ducks. But I'm referring to guys w h o step to below-average w o m e n all the time. I'm n o t talking about the female you banged when you h a d "Hennessy-vision." W h e n you keep o n stepping t o w o m e n w h o are obviously b e low your standards, you send a subconscious message to yourself that you are n o t w o r t h y of a quality w o m a n . You're telling yourself that you d o n ' t deserve someone better. As a m a c k , you m u s t u n d e r s t a n d that you have two i m p o r t a n t seeds that you give a w o m a n . O n e is the seed of "game." This is the verbal knowledge that you plant in her fertile m i n d . A n d the o p e r ative w o r d is fertile. W h e n you are in a relationship with a w o m a n , she should follow your lead, n o t the other way around. In order for her to follow you, you m u s t first have your game together (which is what you're doing n o w by reading this b o o k ) , a n d then you m u s t make your thoughts, views, game, and knowledge her views as well. You must plant your ideology in her m i n d . This way you b o t h will be on the same page. Your second seed is the biological seed, your s p e r m cell. O n c e you grasp t h e i m p o r t a n c e of your two seeds a n d h o w valuable they are to w o m e n , you will have gained full m a c k d o m . T h e m o r e successful you become a n d the m o r e game you acquire over the years, the m o r e valuable b o t h of your seeds will be to w o m e n .

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W h e n a m a n and w o m a n have sexual relations, w h o gets the most out of the deal? The m a n , or the woman? Since we live in a society full of tricks, the m a n thinks he gets m o r e out of the encounter. But what do men really get out of it? T h e reality is that women have the potential to get m o r e out of it t h a n the m a n , especially if the man's seeds have accumulated a certain a m o u n t of value. Coochie is just entertainment. It's not a commodity. It's not an asset. It's just a moist, w a r m hole. You get up in there and entertain yourself for twenty to thirty minutes and that's it. You come back with n o t h i n g but the satisfaction of entertainment. But a w o m a n can have sexual relations with a m a n , acquire his seed, and then live off that seed for the rest of her life. This is especially true for m e n w h o are very successful, because their seeds have extra value. You've seen h o w females will flock to successful ball players or other types of entertainers at clubs, trying to compete with one another to have sexual relations with them. M a n y w o m e n are competing for that one seed. They k n o w that seed is a meal ticket for life. It's gotten so deep n o w that m a n y professional sports teams are having seminars for their rookies, hiring people to w a r n the players about getting caught u p . Athletes are n o w w a r n e d to use their o w n c o n d o m s w h e n they go on the road, because there are females w h o will p o k e holes in c o n d o m s to intentionally try to get pregnant. Athletes are also warned to flush c o n d o m s d o w n the toilet after they use t h e m , because females have taken c o n d o m s out of trash cans a n d used the contents to get p r e g n a n t . Obviously, m a n y w o m e n are hip to the t r u e value of dick (especially successful dick). Square m e n , however, have been tricked into believing the opposite. W o m e n k n o w the i m p o r t a n c e of that seed and that they have a limited time to get it. O n c e a woman's

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biological clock starts ticking, if she hasn't gotten that seed yet, she starts " c r a m m i n g for the test," so to speak. In a recent interview, Halle Berry said that she was going to get p r e g n a n t at forty w i t h whatever guy she was w i t h at the t i m e . As m e n , we don't have a biological clock, so there isn't m u c h pressure on us to procreate. As a m a c k , value your seeds a n d your dick, especially once you have achieved financial stability. D o n ' t r u s h to give up your seeds, or you could end up paying someone for the rest of your life. M a n y people m i g h t look at p i m p philosophies as misogynistic a n d disrespectful to w o m e n . But u n d e r s t a n d i n g your value as a m a n doesn't m e a n you have t o devalue w o m e n . Even t h o u g h m a n y w o m e n won't a d m i t it, they like a m a n w h o k n o w s his value. T h e y like a m a n w h o won't b o w d o w n to t h e m for giving h i m sex. M a n y w o m e n like the challenge of being w i t h a m a n w h o k n o w s his value, a n d w h o makes his w o m e n earn his attention a n d devotion. K n o w your i m p o r t a n c e a n d value as a m a n . If you w a n t to be treated like a king, you have to act like one.

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got an e-mail from a guy recently, w h i c h read:

K-Flex, I'm from

an

upper-middle-class

neighborhood

in

South

Carolina. I've dated a few girls from my area, and for the most part,

things went pretty well. I would always be nice

and sweet to them, and they seemed to really appreciate that. The problem is this: I moved out of that area, and now I'm going to school in Florida.

The females here are more

fast-paced and hip, I would say. I've tried to date a few females down here, but when I try to treat them nice and sweet like I did with the females back home, they seem to lose interest. Not only do they lose interest,

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but it seems the nicer I treat them, the more they lose respect for me. What's the deal, Flex? Do I need to become an asshole just to get some play down here? Signed, "Confused

Down

South"

His p r o b l e m is the same p r o b l e m a lot of players face: He has to learn h o w to switch up his game. You m u s t u n d e r s t a n d that, as a mack, you simply can't treat every female the same way. You can't be t o o thuggish w i t h a. s u b u r b a n female, a n d you can't be t o o sweet to a h o o d r a t . As a m a c k , you a l m o s t have to be schizop h r e n i c . You have to be a chameleon. You have to be able to change up y o u r game at the d r o p of a hat. This will also help you keep females off-guard a n d u n a b l e to figure y o u out. W o m e n love mysterious m e n . Once they see that they c a n n o t get a clear h a n d l e on you, they will b e c o m e even m o r e intrigued.

Identifying the Different Types of Females In order for your game to be m o s t effective, you m u s t identify a n d fully u n d e r s t a n d the types of females you are stepping to. The t r u e m a c k c a n n o t waste valuable t i m e t r y i n g to p u s h a square peg into a circle. Your game has to be suited to the intended target. W o m e n have often b e e n c o m p a r e d to jewelry, as b o t h are valu e d on the basis of their beauty, quality, a n d depth. To help give you an u n d e r s t a n d i n g of the different types of females, I'm going to s h o w you h o w they rank, based on the jewelry chart. In addition

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to their physical descriptions, I ' m going to assess their personalities. There are five general types of w o m e n : 1. D i a m o n d Girls 2. P l a t i n u m Honies 3. Gold Hotties 4. C o p p e r Chicks 5. C u b i c - Z i r c o n i u m Broads In the descriptions below, I give some examples of female celebrities that share the qualities of each type. I have chosen these celebrities n o t for their level of success, but rather for their backgrounds. Background is often m o r e important in determining a female's type. Some cubic-zirconium-type females become financially successful but continue to have cubic-zirconium ways. I also rate these w o m e n on their "beauty shelf life," the time frame in which they remain attractive, based on h o w well they care for themselves. H e r e is an assessment of all five types.

Diamond Girls Average yearly income: $250,000+ Average weight: 95-130 lbs. Number of children or abortions before the age of 23:0 Beauty shelf life: 16-60 Examples of Diamond Girls: Halle Berry, Janet Jackson

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General Description D i a m o n d Girls are the cream of the crop as far as females go; they are the m o s t attractive a n d m o s t disciplined. N o t surprisingly, these females are extremely rare. M a n y come from very affluent families w i t h upper-echelon b a c k g r o u n d s . But m a n y females from other b a c k g r o u n d s have w o r k e d their way up to d i a m o n d status. On a scale of one to ten, these w o m e n rate between a nine a n d a dime. D i a m o n d Girls m a i n t a i n their good looks for a long p e r i o d of t i m e because they usually have very disciplined eating habits a n d w o r k o u t regimens. These w o m e n don't usually engage in excessive drinking, cigarette s m o k ing, or d r u g use. They are usually very well-educated a n d surprisingly d o w n - t o - e a r t h .

How to Step to a Diamond Girl A lot of girls are impressed by guys w h o have achieved status a n d material success. But n o t D i a m o n d Girls. These w o m e n are n o t impressed that you have a Benz, because they can afford to drive one, too. Most m e n t h i n k w o m e n like this are out of their league. So n o t surprisingly, n o t m a n y m e n step to t h e m . A n d the guys these w o m e n do meet are usually the nerdy guys w h o are p a r t of their affluent c o m m u n i t i e s of family a n d friends. She's got plenty of material things, b u t what's really missing in her life is a guy to have some cool, d o w n - t o - e a r t h conversation with. So w i t h Diam o n d Girls, what you need as a m a c k is some decent convo. To get w i t h one of these females, your conversation skills have to be trump-tight.

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W h e n you step to D i a m o n d Girls, get t h e m to talk about themselves a n d their backgrounds. Read a few b o o k s about geography, because m o s t D i a m o n d Girls have traveled to different places a r o u n d the world. Being able to discuss some of the places you have b e e n or the places you w o u l d like to go is a great way to build a r a p p o r t w i t h the D i a m o n d Girl.

Platinum Honies Average yearly income: $50,Q00-$150,000 Average weight: 95-140 lbs. Number of children or abortions before the age of 23:0 Beauty shelf life: 17-45

Examples of Platinum Honies: Beyonce, Tyra Banks

General Description Platinum Honies are attractive females w h o come from uppermiddle-class family backgrounds. They come from very stable homes and most grow up with b o t h parents in their lives. As far as looks go, Platinum Honies rate between eight a n d ten on a scale of one to ten. Many Platinum Honies have accumulated good social skills a n d self-discipline over the years. They've d o n e this by participating in different extracurricular activities while growing up, such as sports, dance classes, or p i a n o lessons. And because of their self-discipline, m a n y of these women also maintain their good looks well into their forties and sometimes fifties. P l a t i n u m Honies are very easy-going, a n d also well educated. 45

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M a n y of these women usually end up in u p p e r - m a n a g e m e n t or supervisory positions at their jobs. They tend to be very responsible and thoughtful.

How to Step to Platinum Honies Because P l a t i n u m Honies are so used to being the boss in their w o r k environment, they often t r y to b r i n g that bossy mentality into their relationships. As a m a c k , you have to check that at the door. Like m o s t w o m e n , if a P l a t i n u m H o n e y sees that she can boss you a r o u n d , she will eventually lose respect for you. W h e n you initially get w i t h a P l a t i n u m Honey, she will t r y to call the shots as far as w h o calls w h o first and where you two will go on your first date. Always stand your ground. You have to be very firm w i t h the P l a t i n u m Honey. You need to set up the time a n d place where you two h o o k u p . You need to show her that you are n o t intimidated by her d o m i n e e r i n g d e m e a n o r . Beneath the surface, P l a t i n u m Honies are very sweet a n d sensitive w o m e n w h o appreciate a m a n w h o k n o w s h o w to be a good leader.

Gold Hotties Average yearly income: $30,000-$80,000 Average weight: 98-150 lbs. Number of children or abortions before the age of 23: 0-1 child; 0-1 abortion Beauty shelf life: 17-36 Examples of Gold Hotties: J. Lo, Britney Spears, Alicia Keys

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General Description T h e Gold Hottie usually comes from a lower-middle-class backg r o u n d . The Gold Hottie may or m a y n o t have g r o w n up with b o t h parents in the household, but still r e m a i n s very close with her family. As far as looks go, on a scale of one to ten, most of these females rate between a six and a nine. They are fairly well educated, but unlike the D i a m o n d Girls and the P l a t i n u m Honies, w h o were taught to be self-sufficient, the Gold Hottie is usually encouraged to m a r r y up. They are usually pressured all their lives (subtly and not so subtly) by their families to find a h u s b a n d by the age of thirty. M a n y of these women will go to college and take "decoy classes" (enrolling in an easy class to give the appearance that they are really trying to get degrees) until Prince C h a r m i n g comes along to save t h e m .

How to Step to Gold Hotties The Gold Hotties have to be "sweet-macked." You have to be very s m o o t h with your approach. Since the Gold Hottie is used to a close family structure, you have to give the impression, t r u e or n o t , that you are familial as well. You have to offer the gold female the white-picket-fence fantasy. You have to come across like your m a i n goal is to settle d o w n and raise a Huxtable type of family. You have to be the ultimate Mr. G o o d y Two-Shoes with the Gold Hottie. Be sure not to come off too square or nerdy. If you're too gentle, you will t u r n her off, and if you're t o o aggressive, you will scare her away. To get the Gold Hottie, you have to find that balance of

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s m o o t h n e s s . (For the record, when you get a Gold Hottie, you have to keep her mentally disciplined. M a n y of these w o m e n tend to let themselves go after they get m a r r i e d , which is why m a n y of t h e m hit the wall at a r o u n d thirty-five or thirty-six.)

Copper Chicks Average yearly income: $12,000-820,000 Average weight: 100-180 lbs. Number of children or abortions before the age of 23:1-2 children; 0-2 abortions. Beauty shelf life: 15-28

Examples of Copper Chicks: Mary J. Blige, Eve, Trina

General Description C o p p e r Chicks are females w h o grew up in low-income environments. These females are basically victims of circumstance. Even t h o u g h they were b o r n a n d raised in the ghetto, C o p p e r Chicks actually do try to make an effort to get out of the h o o d . They use the fact that they grew up in a less t h a n stellar environment as motivation to w o r k h a r d a n d become successful in order to have a better life. As far as looks, on a scale of one to ten, m o s t C o p p e r Chicks rate between a four and a strong eight. Some C o p p e r Chicks m a y have "cashed out" early and had a kid at a young age. "Cashing out" h a p p e n s when a female feels like she m i g h t not have a strong financial future on her o w n , so she has a kid in order to guarantee she will at least get the basic necessities 48

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out of life: food, medical care, housing from the state, or childs u p p o r t checks. Even t h o u g h m a n y Copper Chicks do try to work hard to create better lives for themselves, there are some C o p p e r Chicks w h o try to live out their Cinderella fantasies. This fantasy is usually reserved for m o r e attractive C o p p e r Chicks. These females depend solely on their looks to try to attract a Prince C h a r m i n g (athlete or entertainer) w h o will rescue t h e m from the h o o d .

How to Step to Copper Chicks There are two types of C o p p e r Chicks: the exceptional C o p p e r Chick, and the basic C o p p e r Chick. T h e exceptional Copper Chick is the very motivated a n d h a r d w o r k i n g one. The basic C o p p e r Chick is the cute girl in the h o o d w h o is trying to find Captain Save-a-Ho. You have to step to the exceptional C o p p e r Chick very boldly. You have to be hip, slick, and fast with your words. This is an inner-city female you're dealing with, so she is used to all types of scrubs stepping to her with lame game. These females have a low tolerance for time-wasting Bullshit. W h e n you step to her, you have to be bold, quick-witted, and able to quickly get your point across. Now, basic C o p p e r Chicks are a little simpler to step to, because these w o m e n have very simple needs. Their desires are basically primitive because they only aspire to get food and shelter, and they are impressed by shiny things, such as gold teeth, rims, jewelry, etc. All you need to do is to pull up in an Escalade with r i m s holding a bucket of chicken and the basic C o p p e r Chick is all yours.

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Cubic-Zirconium Broads Average yearly income: under $10,000 (including food stamps and WIC vouchers) Average weight: 120-300 lbs. Number of children or abortions before the age of 23:1-4 children; 1-3 abortions Beauty shelf life: 14-21

Examples of Cubic-Zirconium Broads: Lil' Kim, Courtney Love

General Description T h e C u b i c - Z i r c o n i u m Broad is at the b o t t o m of the barrel when it comes to females on the dating scene. These are the females you see on the Maury Povich show, trying to figure out w h o fathered their children. These are the females w h o come from a low-income, ghetto/trailer-park environment, and w h o are totally comfortable r e m a i n i n g in that environment. Even if they luck up a n d m a k e it out of the h o o d , they will still carry that ghetto mentality w i t h t h e m . These w o m e n are c o m m o n l y k n o w n as "chickenheads," or in the white c o m m u n i t y , "trailer trash." As far as looks go, on a scale of one to ten these females usually range from a one to a four. They are described as C u b i c - Z i r c o n i u m Broads because, like an actual cubic zirconium, m a n y of these females t r y their best to look like d i a m o n d s w i t h o u t fooling anyone. And just like cubic zirconium, n o t h i n g on these females is real. These w o m e n rock fake hair, fake nails, colored contact lenses, and they wear excessive a m o u n t s of m a k e u p . 50

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Because of all the b a d food the C u b i c - Z i r c o n i u m Broad eats in her life—government cheese a n d food w i t h h o r m o n e s in it, for example—females like this usually develop at a very y o u n g age. This is why, w h e n you go to the h o o d , it's n o t u n u s u a l to see a fourteen-year-old girl w h o looks like she is twenty-three. A n o t h e r way to spot chickenheads is by checking out their navels. M a n y chickenheads h a d m o t h e r s w h o didn't k n o w h o w t o properly remove their umbilical cords w h e n they were babies. (You can't use cocoa butter to help remove the umbilical cord.) This causes their navels to p r o t r u d e or b e c o m e slightly disfigured as they g r o w u p . Beware. A n d because m o s t of these females g r o w up in h o m e s headed by single m o t h e r s w i t h no father figures in sight, C u b i c - Z i r c o n i u m Broads often have " d a d d y issues." M a n y of these w o m e n will do whatever it takes to get male attention. This is often the basis of the h o o c h i e attire a n d behavior that chickenheads engage in. Most chickenhead behavior is passed d o w n from generation to generation—from the g r a n d m o t h e r to the m o t h e r to the daughter. Chickenheads become sexually active at very y o u n g age. T h e y also "cash out" a n d have babies at a y o u n g age, as well. A general rule is "the broker the family, the younger the mother." This is t r u e in impoverished c o m m u n i t i e s all over the world. I've seen it in the United States, South America, the C a r i b b e a n , the Pacific islands, the Philippines, etc. If a girl comes from a family that makes less than $10,000 a year, that girl is likely to get p r e g n a n t by the age of nineteen. M a n y of these w o m e n also have a n u m b e r of a b o r t i o n s under their belt. M a n y of t h e m get a b o r t i o n s only because they aren't sure w h o their baby's d a d d y is. W h e n people have a mentality that has developed in poverty,

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their primal instincts take over. The basic p r i m a l instincts of any living species are to eat and to procreate; it's self-preservation. This is h o w chickenheads think. They aren't really concerned with "coming u p " in life. They are 100 percent comfortable with getting their basic needs m e t by others, a n d n o t h i n g m o r e . These w o m e n can spend years living in their mama's houses, having babies, getting d r u n k , smoking weed all day long, a n d dating every felon in the h o o d .

How to Step to Cubic-Zirconium Broads You don't. W h e n you see a C u b i c - Z i r c o n i u m Broad, r u n for the hills. Remember, as a t r u e m a c k , you m u s t have standards. You never lower yourself just to get a quick, easy piece of ass, which is the only reason w h y any m a n w o u l d step to a cubic-zirconium female in the first place. Guys see that it doesn't take m u c h effort to get one of these females. Chickenheads, surprisingly, have an a b u n d a n c e of m e n trying to holler at t h e m . This gives these females a false sense of confidence. This is w h y m a n y chickenheads, as t o r e - u p as they are, t r y to come across like they are the b o m b . W h e n you kick it with a chickenhead, it sends out a message about you. It says that you are broke. It says that you are desperate. It says that you have low self-esteem. A n d these same messages that you send to others are internalized in your o w n m i n d . So value yourself as a m a n , a n d never settle for chickenheads. Now, some of you guys are in relationships w i t h chickenheads a n d you d o n ' t even k n o w it. Some C u b i c - Z i r c o n i u m Broads t r y to disguise their t r u e chickenhead persona. And to the u n t r a i n e d eye, they can sometimes come across as n o r m a l females. To help you

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out, I'm going to give you a list of clues. If three or m o r e items on this list apply to a female, she is a b o n a fide chickenhead.

Twenty Ways to Tell If a Female Might Be a Chickenhead 1. If she is in her twenties, her m o t h e r is in her thirties, a n d her g r a n d m o t h e r is in her forties. 2. If she enrolled in school strictly for the student loan money. 3. If she is over the age of t h i r t y a n d still wearing "baby hair." 4. If she lives in the projects, b u t has a big-screen TV. 5. If she thinks she looks like Halle Berry just because she's light skinned. 6. If she thinks she looks like N a o m i C a m p b e l l just because she's d a r k skinned. 7. If she thinks she looks like J. Lo just because she's Hispanic. 8. If she has h a d four or m o r e h o m e n u m b e r s , cell n u m b e r s , or pager n u m b e r s disconnected in a t h r e e - m o n t h time span. 9. If she weighs 93 lbs. a n d still has a beer gut. 10. Any black girl with blond hair. 11. Any white girl with braids. 12. If she claims she doesn't have a j o b because she doesn't have t r a n s p o r t a t i o n or a baby-sitter, b u t she always seems to miraculously find a babysitter and t r a n s p o r t a t i o n to get to the club every week. 13. If she drinks Sunny Delight. 14. If she has "combination hairstyles" (braids/fingerwave, or Press-n-Curl/feathered, etc.)

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If she's at the club "crip-walking" in high heels. (I swear I have actually seen this before.)

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If she doesn't w o r k out at the g y m because she doesn't w a n t to sweat out her weave.

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h o u r are "bougie." If she has to r u n e r r a n d s for the day a n d they all take place

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at the swap meet. If she puts h o t sauce on potato chips.

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Other Subcategories of Females to Look Out For In addition to the five main "precious gem" categories of females, there are a few other types you should be familiar with. Here are a few:

The Bohemian/Hippie Chick These are the i n c e n s e - b u r n i n g , earthy, herbal t e a - d r i n k i n g females w h o p r i d e themselves on being all-natural a n d real. These w o m e n are well-educated and artistic. T h e " B o h o " female is usually deep into music like India. Arie, Jill Scott, Music Soulchild, Floetry, the Roots, a n d the whole neo-soul m o v e m e n t . If you want to get up on one of these type of females, you simply have to show an interest in her creative side. Get her to read you

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some of her poetry. I've never met a Bohemian/Hippie Chick w h o didn't write poetry. She will love to be given an o p p o r t u n i t y to show off her creativity. Once you get your foot in the door, you are in. Beware of some of the fake Bohemian/Hippie Chicks. Some Bohos are into the earthy lifestyle because they have a sincere affinity for nature. It's cool to see females w h o are confident enough in themselves that they don't have to wear a lot of makeup, weaves, and acrylics to be attractive. This should be admired. But there are a lot of Bohemian/Hippie Chicks w h o get into that lifestyle just to justify being severe weedheads. And true macks don't mess with weedheads.

The Trend Freak These are the females w h o try a little too hard to look trendy. A lot of these females are w a n n a b e s u p e r m o d e l s , and they try to come across like fashion experts. M a n y of the Trend Freaks watch music videos all day so that they can emulate the clothing styles they see. These are the women you see in the club sporting H. Todd boots, a Prada belt, a Louis Vuitt bag, a Burberry hat, and some Chanel glasses. These women are also major attention freaks, as well. As a mack, you should n o t take these w o m e n too seriously. Despite their o v e r - t h e - t o p attire, m a n y of these Trends Freaks are insecure followers. They are often extremely p r o n e to peer pressure, and base their whole existence on what other people m i g h t t h i n k of t h e m . As a mack, you are 100 percent secure with yourself, a n d you should look for females w h o are sure of themselves a n d can t h i n k independently. You don't want to get with a female w h o is too easily influenced by peer pressure. T h e worst thing a m a c k can do is waste time lacing a female with g o o d game, only

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to have his game salted because the female was t o o easily influenced by one of her hating homegirls.

Single Mothers I get t o n s of e-mails from fellas all over the c o u n t r y asking me w h e t h e r it's cool to date single m o t h e r s . This issue is a real t o u c h y o n e . T h e r e are m a n y t h i n g s to consider w h e n it comes to dating single m o t h e r s . Some of the i m p o r t a n t factors include: • How old was she when she had her first child? • Was she married when she had children? • How many baby-daddies are in the picture? If a female h a d a kid at a very y o u n g age ( d u r i n g her teens), this shows signs of irresponsibility. The chances of her "accidentally" getting p r e g n a n t again before the age of twenty-seven increase tremendously. And you don't w a n t to be there w h e n she gets "accident-prone." It's cool to date a single m o t h e r w h o h a d a kid (or kids) while she was m a r r i e d . This shows that she was at least responsible e n o u g h to t r y to do it the right way. If she has h a d two or m o r e children by two or m o r e different guys (without being m a r r i e d ) before the age of twenty-eight, this is a major red flag. Don't even step to a female like this. She has already m a d e two "mistakes." (These females never o w n up to the fact that they were m o s t likely trying to get pregnant.) A n d if you get with this type of female, you're just a mistake waiting to happen.

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Some single mothers are cool to date because they are m o r e m a ture a n d responsible t h a n w o m e n without children. They have to take life m o r e seriously, so they really don't have time to Bullshit a r o u n d and play games. Single mothers like this are the ones w h o have their o w n places a n d get up a n d w o r k every day to take care of their children. There's n o t h i n g wrong with getting with a female like this. W h a t you shouldn't get w i t h is a female w h o has a kid while she is laying up in her m a m a ' s house. If you come across a female like this, r u n for the hills. Also, if you m e e t a female, a n d all the w o m e n in her family have h a d children at a very y o u n g age w i t h out being m a r r i e d , she is going to follow suit. The apple never falls too far from the tree. N o w if you're the k i n d of guy w h o is specifically looking for a w o m a n w i t h kids because you have a n u m b e r of kids of your o w n and you w a n t to put together some k i n d of ghetto Brady Bunch, well, k n o c k yourself out. G o o d luck to you. But if you want to play this m a c k i n ' game correctly, a n d you don't w a n t your paychecks to be garnished in the future, then you should seriously take heed to the info I just gave you on dating single m o t h e r s .

Older Women This is a n o t h e r t a b o o subject in the dating scene. A lot of very young guys send me e-mails asking me whether or n o t it is cool to date older w o m e n . As I mentioned earlier, m a n y younger guys haven't really come into their o w n yet, so their dating options are often limited. There are lots of older w o m e n w h o blatantly flirt with younger guys just to get a reaction. These older w o m e n do this just so they

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can be reassured that they still "got it." So for the m o s t p a r t , you shouldn't take their flirting too seriously. Let " N a n a " go on about her business. N o w there are some situations where a younger m a n dates an older w o m a n a n d it's cool. As long as it looks appropriate, there shouldn't really be a p r o b l e m . As long as the guy is n o t too y o u n g a n d the female is n o t t o o old. In the movie How Stella Got Her Groove Back, Taye Diggs a n d Angela Bassett looked appropriate t o gether. Ashton Kutcher a n d D e m i M o o r e look appropriate together. Now, if Nick C a n n o n decided to date Delia Reese, that w o u l d n ' t look appropriate. A n d if they were an item, people w o u l d assume they b o t h h a d some serious psychological issues. So to all of you w h o are in your late teens or early twenties, there's n o t h i n g w r o n g w i t h dating an older w o m a n w i t h a youthful, v i b r a n t spirit w h o has taken good care of herself. But you d o n ' t w a n t to get w i t h an old b r o a d w h o is still trying to be a hoochie. Because there is n o t h i n g worse t h a n an elderly chickenhead. H e r e is a quick list of eight ways to tell if y o u are dating an old chickenhead: 1. If she goes to the club wearing a Troop jacket a n d leg warmers

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always say, the best form of security is prevention. W h e n you are laced w i t h the p r o p e r rules a n d tools of the game, you t r e m e n dously reduce the risk of getting caught up or cut d o w n . M a n y guys have to learn some of these rules the h a r d way. Sometimes this takes years of trial a n d error, a n d some errors c a n n o t be rectified. By the t i m e some guys learn these rules, it's too late. So here are ten general rules of the game that a m a c k or potential m a c k m u s t abide by.

Rule One: W o m e n are very perceptive about the things they see m e n d o . W h e n a m a n w h o is in the game talks d o w n on a n o t h e r player, the

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females k n o w what's really going on. O n l y guys w h o are insecure have to blatantly t h r o w salt on a n o t h e r player's game. N o w granted, if two players are c a m p a i g n i n g to be chosen by the same female, there will always be a bit of mudslinging here a n d there. Even presidential candidates do this. But if your o p p o n e n t gets elected, you have to congratulate h i m , shake his h a n d , a n d charge it to the game. This rule originates from the p i m p game. In o r d e r to m a i n t a i n the fraternal camaraderie between the players, m a n y p i m p s form somewhat of an u n s p o k e n b o n d w i t h one another. (Real t r u e - t o the-game p i m p s , that is.) T h e y do this so that females can't t r y to play the p i m p s against one another, like they do with square guys. W o m e n play square guys against each other all the t i m e . T h r o u g h o u t history, wars have b e e n started because of females w h o played square guys against one another. The story of Helen of Troy (as p o r t r a y e d in the m o v i e Troy) is a good example: A war was started because Helen's h u s b a n d found out that she crept off w i t h a n o t h e r d u d e in the m i d d l e of the night. Likewise, in the m o v i e Casino, based on a t r u e story, a g r o u p of mafia bosses h a d Las Vegas on lock. But they lost it all because the guys w h o were supposed to be in charge started getting sloppy. T h e wife (played by Sharon Stone) of Robert De Niro's character started having an affair w i t h his best friend (Joe Pesci's character). This created a rift between these two friends that m a d e it easy for law enforcement to infiltrate t h e m . And this caused t h e m to eventually lose the e m p i r e they created in Las Vegas. Similarly,.the w a r between the Crips a n d the Bloods is r u m o r e d to have started w h e n t w o rival gang m e m b e r s were fighting over a female back in the early seventies. Two square cats can be

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friends for t h i r t y years, a n d t h e n let that friendship go straight to hell over a female. M a n y cats that are in jail n o w are in there because of some love triangle. Ironically, you have guys scrappin' w i t h each other over a female, a n d w h e n they get t h r o w n in jail, the female they were fighting over is out there, kickin' it w i t h the next two fools. Players in the game don't let it go d o w n like that. If a n o t h e r player's w o m a n steps to a p i m p a n d chooses h i m , that p i m p has to "serve" t h a t player. T h a t m e a n s he has to call that player a n d officially let h i m k n o w that his w o m a n is n o w w i t h h i m . That's a very i m p o r t a n t p a r t of the code of the game. This will avoid a lot of " h e say, she-say" confusion, a n d prevents the female from going back a n d forth between b o t h p i m p s . Also, m a n y p i m p s require a female to give up a "choosing fee" w h e n she steps to t h e m , so that the fem a l e can't afford to go from p i m p to p i m p . Never hate on a n o t h e r player. Show people that you're confident e n o u g h to give a n o t h e r player some p r o p s . There are only a few t r u e macks out there. And like the old saying goes, it's lonely at the t o p . There's a lot of r o o m at the t o p , b u t it's j a m - p a c k e d on the b o t t o m . So if you are on top, you really have no reason to hate on those at the b o t t o m .

Rule Two: Never use sympathy to try to pull females. As I m e n t i o n e d before, m a n y m e n of this generation were raised by single m o t h e r s , and they learned h o w to interact w i t h w o m e n from

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their m o t h e r s . As children, whenever these guys wanted s o m e t h i n g from M o m m y , they w o u l d whine, pout, cry, or do whatever it t o o k to get her sympathy. This usually works like a c h a r m , because m a n y m o t h e r s are overly sympathetic when it comes to their sons. This is w h y we have a generation of m a m a ' s boys. W h e n guys grow u p , they interact the same way they did w i t h their m o m as with w o m e n they w a n t to date, a n d they end up getting a r u d e awakening. The sympathy a p p r o a c h rarely works on w o m e n outside your family. W h e n guys complain to w o m e n about h o w lonely they are or r u n game about h o w they lost their jobs, h o w they just got out of jail, h o w the white m a n won't give t h e m a break, or h o w they are struggling artists trying to m a k e ends meet, it's often a useless h u s tle. These guys t h i n k that these w o m e n will hear their sob story a n d date t h e m out of pity. Usually, however, this just makes these guys look weak. Mackin' represents strength. A t r u e m a c k never looks for a " m o m m y " figure in a w o m a n he's interested in dating. A m a c k s h o u l d always appear mentally strong e n o u g h to keep himself t o gether. This shows leadership, a n d w o m e n are p r o g r a m m e d to look for m e n w i t h good leadership skills. Now, there are some w o m e n w h o will fall for the s y m p a t h y a p p r o a c h , b u t they are few and far between. If you roll the dice long e n o u g h , you will eventually hit a seven. But you don't step to females relying on luck. A m a c k steps to a w o m a n using strategy. W h e n you use strategy, you have m o r e control over the outcome. On the other h a n d , the s y m p a t h y approach can be useful if you come across a female w h o is looking for a m o t h e r / s o n relationship, a n d you're trying to get some quick, one-night-stand,

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s m a s h - a n d - g r a b p o o n - t a n g . But you can't get into any type of long-term relationship using the sympathy approach. Even if a female does date you out of pity, she will eventually become resentful. Remember, strength goes a long way. Charity doesn't.

Rule Three:

O n e of the greatest tools a m a c k can have is options. O p t i o n s , or lack thereof, can m a k e or break a mack. Too m a n y guys allow themselves to be m o n o p o l i z e d by females. In m a n y cases, when a female sees that she has a m o n o p o l y on you, she will flip the script. She will feel like she can step to you any way she wants to. This is the case in any situation where there is a m o n o p o l y on services. For example, in order to drive, you have to have a stateissued driver's license. The only place where you can get a driver's license is the state-run DMV. The D M V has a monopoly, a n d the people at the D M V k n o w that you can only come to t h e m for a license. This is why they treat you like crap at the DMV. At any D M V you go to, you will see ridiculously long lines and D M V workers with the worst attitudes, w h o drag ass when it comes to helping you. W h a t incentive do they have to give you good cust o m e r service? You ain't going nowhere. No matter h o w funky they treat you, you're still going to have to stay there a n d take it, because you have to. T h e same goes for dating. W h e n you're with a female, a n d she

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sees that you don't really have the ability to get other females, she will start talking to you any way she wants. And she k n o w s that you'll just sit there a n d take it. Ultimately, she will lose respect for you. She will nitpick you about everything, degrade you, a n d eventually she'll kick you to the side. As a m a c k , you have to let a female k n o w that she is n o t d o i n g you a favor by being in the picture. You have to let her k n o w that she can be replaced and your life w o n ' t miss a beat w i t h o u t her. You d o n ' t have to do this verbally. W h e n you verbally let females k n o w about your options, they can usually see that it is an obvious bluff. Saying things like "I've got other girls w h o w o u l d w a n t m e , too," isn't convincing at all. You have to s h o w her with your actions. W h e n you keep yourself well maintained, a n d you keep your p a p e r flowing, you automatically get real options. If you generally stay fly, a n d carry yourself like the t o p - n o t c h m a c k you truly a r e — even you m a r r i e d m a c k s can do t h i s — y o u will always have females checking for you. A m a n w i t h options will keep a female m i n d i n g her P's a n d Q's. W h e n a female k n o w s she can easily be replaced, she is less likely to come at you out of pocket. This is a n o t h e r reason w h y w o m e n are d e t e r m i n e d to get their m e n to c o m m i t to marriage. W o m e n k n o w that once a m a n is m a r r i e d , there are legal repercussions for h i m if he cheats. This is w h y a lot of m e n complain that their wives let themselves go, or that their personality changed (i.e., she got bitchy) after they got m a r r i e d . M a r r i e d w o m e n do tend to switch their game up after the wedding, because in their m i n d s they k n o w "they got you." In this legalistic day a n d age, a lot of guys figure, "it's cheaper to keep her." Always have options when it comes to females. Even t h o u g h a lot

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of w o m e n won't a d m i t it, they like the t h o u g h t of w i n n i n g over a m a n w h o is in d e m a n d with other ladies. W o m e n are very c o m p e t itive with one another, a n d k n o w i n g that she snagged you from the pack gratifies a w o m a n ' s ego. Being sought-after goes a long way in your relationships with w o m e n .

Rule Four: Always be a mystery. To be a t r u e mack, you m u s t personify exceptional qualities, or at least create the illusion that you have exceptional qualities. You have to come across as if you are greater t h a n a m o r t a l m a n . W h e n you walk into a r o o m , your mere presence should stir up excitement. As a mack, you almost have to come across like a superhero. T h e way to do this is to create an air of mystery. Have you ever wondered why superheroes and c o m i c - b o o k characters are so intriguing? It's because they have an air of mystery. S u p e r m a n , B a t m a n , and S p i d e r - M a n all had w o m e n sweating t h e m , because they hid their t r u e identities. These characters have become p o p u l a r a n d have generated billions of dollars in m e r chandising a n d box-office sales, because w o m e n are intrigued by t h e m a n d m e n live vicariously t h r o u g h t h e m . W h e n these superheroes present themselves, they only show their strengths. They show u p , save the day by displaying their u n i q u e strengths, and then they jet. As a Supermack, that's the i m pression you w a n t to leave with people. W h e n you first meet p e o ple, they see that you have a strong, positive attitude. They see that

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you are a winner. T h e y see that you don't have a complaint or p r o b l e m in the world, or they at least get the impression that you don't. People love to be a r o u n d winners. The only t h i n g people should k n o w about you is that you have a lot of positive energy, a n d it's cool to be a r o u n d you. A n d that's all they need to know. The less they know, the m o r e s u p e r h u m a n you seem. M o s t guys step to w o m e n a n d reveal way too m u c h about themselves. M a n y guys m e e t w o m e n , a n d then start i n u n d a t i n g t h e m with every little detail about their lives,, occupation, hobbies, a n d daily routines. M a n y guys come across too flossy, a n d they t r y t o o h a r d to i m press females. W h e n you reveal too m u c h about yourself, w o m e n get t u r n e d off. Revealing every little m u n d a n e detail about yourself makes you seem desperate a n d t o o eager to be accepted. Remember, less is m o r e . To m a i n t a i n the air of a Supermack, you m u s t always keep t h e m guessing. There is a reason w h y you never see the practical, daily activities of s u p e r h e r o characters in comic b o o k s a n d movies. You never see B a t m a n taking the B a t m o bile to get a t u n e - u p . H o w w o u l d you feel about B a t m a n if you saw h i m sitting up in Pep Boys? You w o u l d n ' t t h i n k he was m u c h of a hero. You have never seen S p i d e r - M a n taking his spider-suit to the cleaners. You never see W o n d e r W o m a n at the gynecologist's office. You don't want to picture superheroes d o i n g these types of average, everyday things, for the same reason that w o m e n aren't g u n g - h o about interacting with a guy w h o is just like everybody else. W o m e n long for adventure, a n d they w a n t a guy w h o can give it to t h e m . M a n y w o m e n live vicariously t h r o u g h m e n w h o have a d v e n t u r o u s a n d outgoing personalities. Even if you are n o t adven-

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t u r o u s and outgoing, all you have to do is keep your m o u t h shut, be cool, and let females project their desires o n t o you. The great Sigmund Freud, father of m o d e r n psychoanalysis, once noted that m a n y of his female patients began to fall in love and have strong sexual desires for h i m over a period of time. This baffled h i m for a while, but then he discovered that these women were simply projecting the desires they had for their parents onto h i m . This is why, as a mack, you have to become a psychiatrist in a sense, and get w o m e n to reveal their pasts, hopes, d r e a m s , and desires to you. Remember, mackin' is all about attitude.

Rule Five: You must let a female choose you. The world's first "squares" were the prehistoric cavemen. The world's first macks were the Egyptian pharaohs. Cavemen were only advanced enough to use their simple, primal instincts. The pharaohs elevated their minds so they could use language and logical thinking. Cavemen used force to get women. Pharaohs used game. Cavemen would do things like hide in the bushes, wait for a female to walk by, club her over the head, a n d then drag her by her hair to a cave where they could take advantage of her sexually. On the other h a n d , w o m e n c o m p e t e d for the o p p o r t u n i t y to be with a p h a r a o h . Like m a n y squares today, cavemen were m o r e intrigued by the challenge of chasing w o m e n a n d c o n q u e r i n g t h e m . Just like m o d e r n macks, the p h a r a o h s were very selective about the w o m e n

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they w a n t e d o n their t e a m . T h e y m a d e w o m e n c o m p e t e t o b e d o w n . Cavemen liked to conquer. P h a r a o h s liked cooperation. As a mack, you m u s t t h i n k like a p h a r a o h , a n d realize all the assets that you have at y o u r disposal. You have to carry yourself in such a way that females will w a n t to choose you. Too m a n y m e n t h i n k t h a t if they chase w o m e n , b e g t h e m for dates, call t h e m over a n d over, or pester t h e m n o n - s t o p , they will eventually wear the w o m e n d o w n . They t h i n k these w o m e n will eventually give in a n d be with them. To a mack, that's t o o m u c h energy spent w i t h o u t an a p p r o p r i ate payoff. You can save a lot of time, energy, a n d m o n e y simply by finding a female w h o likes you. If you have to j u m p t h r o u g h h o o p s in o r d e r for a female to vibe w i t h you, chances are she really doesn't like you anyway. As a m a c k , you have to start "posin to be chosen." You have to put yourself in a position to be chosen by females. T h e n you have to be able to read nonverbal language. Some w o m e n choose m e n in subtle ways, a n d some w o m e n choose m e n in m o r e aggressive ways. Some w o m e n m i g h t step to you a n d c o m p l i m e n t you on the outfit you are wearing. Some w o m e n m i g h t choose you by a giving you a glance or a seductive stare. You have to pick up on these little things a n d react accordingly. W h e n e v e r you catch a female d o i n g some subtle choosing, you can feel her out by stepping to her on a courteous level. T h r o w a simple "Hello, h o w ya doin'?" at her. M o n i t o r her reaction. If it's w a r m a n d receptive, this is her way of choosing. T h e n you can p r o ceed w i t h m o r e game.

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This rule is an extension of Rule Five. "Put your dick in your pocket," is an old p i m p expression, a n d it has two m e a n i n g s . W h e n a p i m p would encounter a n e w female, instead of stepping to her w i t h "his dick in his hand," w a n t i n g to get sex from the w o m a n like the average trick or square, the p i m p w o u l d take his dick out of his h a n d a n d p u t it in his pocket, so to speak. W i t h his dick out of the way, he could t h e n p i m p at the female accordingly. The other m e a n i n g of this expression is that the only way a fem a l e could get sex from a t r u e p i m p was if she t o o k care of his pockets (by putting m o n e y in there) first. This goes back to valuing yourself as a m a n . Once you put yourself in a position to be chosen by a female, you then have to get her to do the chasing. And once you get her chasing, you m u s t continue to make her chase. You do this by being somewhat unattainable. This is challenging for females. And whether they will admit it or not, women like a good challenge in a m a n . Most m e n will immediately put all their cards on the table a n d roll out the red carpet for females as s o o n as they meet t h e m . They do this in the h o p e of getting sex from these w o m e n right away. As a mack, you have to t r u m p the pussy card. You have to show a female that she has to b r i n g m o r e to the table t h a n just sexual gratification. You have to reverse the game and have her rolling out the red carpet, j u m p i n g t h r o u g h h o o p s so she can receive sexual and

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psychological gratification from you. T h e only way to do this is by keeping your dick in your pocket so it won't get in the way of your game. ( M o r e on this later.)

Rule Seven: Never become financially dependent ON a female. As I m e n t i o n e d before, m a n y guys today g r o w up in single-mother h o m e s . M a n y guys (especially black m e n ) grow up in families where there are n o t h i n g b u t d o m i n a n t w o m e n telling t h e m w h a t t o d o . W h e n these m e n b e c o m e adults, they subconsciously look for that same d y n a m i c in their relationships w i t h w o m e n . Too m a n y guys today are dependent on females for shelter, transportation, food, a n d all the other basic necessities of life. As a mack, you should never put yourself in this position. Whenever you get into a mother/child relationship with a female, you always put yourself at a disadvantage in the long r u n . You m i g h t t h i n k you're living easy because someone else is paying the bills. But the situation can go south w h e n you least expect it. A n d it usually does. M a n y w o m e n w h o get into these m o t h e r / c h i l d relationships 70 grew

up in single-mother h o m e s , as well. These w o m e n grew up

seeing their m o t h e r s r u n t h i n g s — i n m a n y cases, there wasn't a m a n w h o h u n g a r o u n d for any long p e r i o d of t i m e — s o these w o m e n erroneously assume that w o m e n are the d o m i n a n t ones in

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C o n t r a r y to p o p u l a r belief, w o m e n like this are terrified of s t r o n g m e n . T h e y never k n e w s t r o n g m a l e figures g r o w i n g u p , a n d they realize that a strong m a n c a n n o t be easily controlled. Since they grew up seeing m e n going in a n d out of their m o t h e r s ' lives, they figure the best way to keep a m a n a r o u n d is to find a m a n w h o needs a n d depends o n t h e m . W o m e n like this are perpetually unsatisfied. T h e catch-22 is that even t h o u g h they specifically look for m e n they can d o m i nate, once t h e y f i n d m e n w h o will follow t h e m a n d j u m p w h e n they say j u m p , they will eventually lose respect for t h e m . W o m e n like this will offer you the keys to their crib, the keys to their car, the w h o l e n i n e . But don't ever fall for the bait. O n c e a female sees that you're totally d e p e n d e n t on her, she will flip the script on you 100 percent of the time. As a mack, you have to be the boss. M o s t m a l e bosses are fair a n d just, a n d they will only "fire" a female if she deserves it. But a female boss will often fire you simply because she can.

Rule Eight: Never spent more than $50 on a first late. M a n y guys t h i n k being flossy a n d flashy a n d spending a lot of m o n e y on a female w h e n they first meet is going to impress her. But in m a n y cases, the opposite occurs. As I said before, w h e n you t r y too h a r d to impress females right after you meet t h e m , you look insecure. As a mack, you have to come out of your mouth with game before

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you come out of your pocket w i t h change. It doesn't matter h o w m u c h m o n e y you have in your b a n k account—you can have $100 or you can have $1 million. Never spend m o r e t h a n $50 on a first date. The first impression is always the lasting one. The way you start off w i t h a female is the way you're going to end up with a female. If you start off trickin', she's going to expect you to keep on trickin'. A n d if you start off providing good convo, a n d she is really feeling you, she will expect good game from you from that point on. You don't spend m o r e t h a n $50 on a first date, because first, you don't w a n t to m a k e too m u c h of the blind investment on someone you really don't k n o w . T h e female could be cool, or she could be a psycho. You don't k n o w yet. Second, the message you w a n t to send to the female is: "I don't k n o w if I w a n t you on my t e a m yet." You have to subtly let females k n o w that you aren't the k i n d of guy that has to t r y to impress people. By spending less t h a n $50 on a first date, you s h o w that you don't have to spend a lot of m o n e y to get females' attention and affection. Now, after you get to k n o w the female, it's cool to spend a little m o r e p a p e r on a date. You do this only if you k n o w that the female will reciprocate. W h y spend m o n e y on a female w h o won't spend m o n e y on you? If you t w o are d o w n to spend p a p e r on each other, then you can increase the $50 limit. But on a first date, always keep it u n d e r $50. Ideally, you w o u l d just spend $20. The t r u e m a c k has a $50 curve. A n y t h i n g over $50 on a first date is trickin'. If the female really likes you, it won't m a t t e r to her h o w m u c h m o n e y you spend or where you take her. Just being in your presence is cool e n o u g h for her. But w h e n you meet a female w h o insists ( a n d I m e a n a d a m a n t l y insists) that you two go out or that you take her to an expensive restaurant, etc., this female is really

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n o t into you. It's even possible that she has a m a n already, a n d by insisting that you take her out on a date ( a n d n o t c o m i n g over to your crib) she can feel relieved of any guilt or w r o n g d o i n g . In her m i n d , this doesn't look like any form of infidelity, because "it's just an i n n o c e n t d i n n e r date." Also, she m i g h t just be an undercover chickenhead w h o is trying to get a free meal. If you encounter a fem a l e w h o d e m a n d s that you take her to Red Lobster (high-class d i n i n g to a chickenhead) you should send her right back to the swap meet where you got her. W h e n y o u get w i t h a female, either she likes you, or she doesn't. It doesn't m a t t e r h o w m u c h m o n e y you spend. If a female is really feeling you, you can take her somewhere free, a n d y o u two will still have a g o o d vibe. You can take her to the park. You can take her to a m u s e u m . M a n y m u s e u m s are free. If you live in a coastal area, you can take her to the beach. If she wants a red l o b ster, let her catch one from the ocean herself.

Rule Nine: Always assume that women under the age of twenty-seven have significant others. If you m e e t a fairly attractive female u n d e r the age of twentyseven, you s h o u l d always assume that she is already in a "situation." Of course, there are exceptions to this rule, b u t it generally h o l d s t r u e . Females u n d e r the age of twenty-seven are either already dating somebody, or having sexual relations w i t h somebody. M e n a n d w o m e n treat relationships like jobs. W h e n a m a n

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quits a j o b or gets laid off, he wants to stay u n e m p l o y e d for while. He wants to just kick back a n d chill for a m i n u t e before he gets back into the j o b market. W o m e n like to have a n o t h e r j o b lined up before they quit the first j o b . T h e y like to transition from j o b to job w i t h o u t a n y breaks in between. This is h o w w o m e n deal w i t h relationships. W o m e n have a p r i m a l need for security. So, m a n y w o m e n will have some k i n d of b a c k u p b r o t h a somewhere in the cut. For some reason, m e n b u y into the fable that decent- ( a n d even some not-so-decent-) looking w o m e n are just locked up in the house like hermits, n o t interacting w i t h any other m e n . Just like m e n , w o m e n have b o o t y calls, t o o . T h e m a n a female sleeps w i t h m o s t often is her significant other, a n d it's almost inevitable that w o m e n will have some type of e m o t i o n a l a t t a c h m e n t w i t h a m a n she has sex w i t h on a regular basis. M a n y w o m e n w h o are twenty-eight or older have d o n e the "job-to-job" thing. They u n d e r s t a n d the consequences of getting into too m a n y relationships t o o soon. So they are m o r e inclined to take a decent a m o u n t of t i m e off from relationships a n d b o o t y calls, so they can get their m i n d s together. (But there are m a n y w o m e n well over the age of twenty-eight w h o still do the "job-to-job" form of dating, as well.) W h e n you first m e e t a female w h o is u n d e r the age of twentyseven, d o n ' t get jealous or upset when you see guys calling her cell p h o n e or her crib. This has n o t h i n g to do w i t h you or h o w tight y o u r game is. These are just her b a c k u p cats. Most females like this have t h e m . The only thing you can do is be as mackish as you can be, a n d let her fully choose, so she can m a k e that transition from her " m i n i m u m - w a g e j o b " to your "mack-status entry-level position."

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Rule Ten: Never trust a woman who doesn't perform oral sex on you. This isn't to say that you should trust every w o m a n w h o does perform oral sex on you. But w h e n a w o m a n you are dating refuses to do it, she is sending you a message. Performing oral sex on a m a n is a w o m a n ' s ultimate act of submission. She is deferring her o w n sexual gratification to give h i m sexual pleasure. T h e majority of w o m e n out there (even those w h o seem frigid, or come across as being M s . G o o d y Two-Shoes) have either p e r f o r m e d or are at least willing to p e r f o r m oral sex. W h e n a w o m a n you are dating refuses to do so, she is telling you that she is n o t d o w n for you 100 percent. Either you aren't "the o n e " for her a n d she is just w i t h you until s o m e t h i n g better comes along, or she has someone else w h o she saves her "special treat" for. You should never fully trust a female w h o isn't 100 percent d o w n for you. If you're one of those guys w h o t h i n k that your girl isn't going d o w n on you because "she's n o t that type of girl" or b e cause she told you she has strong religious beliefs, I want you to close this book, put it d o w n , a n d go pick up a brochure for Jerry's Kids. You got to be retarded if you still fall for that old-school game.

Top Five Colognes for True Macks 1. Curve (You wear this w h e n you are in full-fledged m a c k mode.)

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2. Le Male (You wear this w h e n you w a n t to get w o m e n in a sexual m o o d . ) 3. Cool Water (You wear this when you are feeling real p i m p ish.) 4. Eternity for M e n (This is a nice fragrance to wear d u r i n g business meetings.) 5. Issey Miyake (This is a nice first-date fragrance.)

Top Five Colognes a True Mack Wouldn't Be Caught Dead Wearing 1. Brut 2. Old Spice 3. Hi Karate 4. Stetson 5. Preferred Stock

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he most intense m o m e n t in a mack's career is the m o m e n t just before he first approaches a female. It's the same intense feeling that a football player gets minutes before the big game, the same rush a skier gets before plunging d o w n a steep slope, the same surge of adrenaline that a h i p - h o p artist achieves seconds before stepping on stage, and the same way a boxer feels right before he gets into the ring. Your thoughts and your attitude in those few m o m e n t s will either make or break your game. Unfortunately, w h e n it comes to stepping to females, too m a n y guys are defeated by negative t h o u g h t s . So before you j u m p into the ring a n d start trying to interact w i t h females, you first m u s t find the correct state of m i n d . This starts with overcoming fear.

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Men's Biggest Bating Fear W h e n it comes to dating, the greatest fear m e n have is of getting dissed. This debilitating anxiety is the m a i n obstacle standing between a m a n and his inner mack. This fear is understandable. No m a n wants to get dissed by a female. Getting dissed is a bitch. It messes with your ego. It chips away at your confidence. It makes you feel insecure. So m a n y guys do everything they can to avoid getting dissed that they end up sacrificing interaction w i t h w o m e n entirely. But these fears are often exaggerated. M a n y guys let themselves imagine too m a n y " W h a t if?" scenarios. "What if she is out of my league?" " W h a t if she doesn't w a n t me?" "What if she thinks I'm too short?" " W h a t if she thinks I ' m too fat?" " W h a t if she thinks I'm too old?" " W h a t if she thinks I'm too broke?" So, m a n y guys never stop a n d think, "What if she is down?", " W h a t if she is feeling my convo?", or "What if she does want to h o o k u p ? " T h e likelihood of you getting dissed is extremely m i n i m a l if your convo is in order a n d you play the game correctly.

Getting "Elected" by Females Stepping to females is just like trying to get elected into a political office. You're r u n n i n g a c a m p a i g n until you get elected. As a mack, you have to overcome obstacles on the campaign trail. A n d the biggest obstacles are the ones in your o w n m i n d . You have to realize that no matter what shortcomings you

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t h i n k you have, you should still focus on your positive attributes. There are m a n y guys out there w h o clearly have shortcomings, but still get the t o p - n o t c h females out. To defeat your insecurities, you have to recognize t h e m . T h e four insecurities men most c o m m o n l y have are: 1. Their height ("I'm too short") 2. Their weight ("I'm too fat") 3. Their age ("I'm too old") 4. Their financial status ("I'm too broke") As a m a c k , you should never let a n y of these four obstacles keep you from getting the dimes a n d t o p - n o t c h females out there. O t h e r m e n have overcome these obstacles, a n d so can you. All you need to do is tighten your game u p . If you t h i n k you're too short, look at Janet Jackson, one of the finest sistas in the game. W h o is she d o w n with now? Lil'-bitty-ass Jermaine D u p r e e . Some of you m i g h t say, "Well, he m a y be short, b u t he has Janet because he has money." Well Janet has long money. Plus, her family has paper, t o o . So Jermaine's p a p e r has no influence on her. You just have to tighten up y o u r game to get a sista like Janet. Jermaine has definitely t a p p e d into his m a c k within. If y o u t h i n k you're t o o overweight to get females, look at brothers like soul singer Gerald Levert. Gerald j u m p s on stage, belly a n d all, a n d w o m e n go crazy over this cat. And the late, great Biggie Smalls (R.I.P.), w h o was an infamously overweight b r o t h a , h a d w o m e n literally fighting over h i m . Again, you just have to tighten up your game. Biggie was also t a p p e d into his m a c k within. If you t h i n k you're too old, just go b a c k to chapter three, where

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I explained h o w a m a n ' s value increases as he gets older. A n d p e e p out old-school players like W a r r e n Beatty a n d Sean Connery. These cats are way up in age a n d they are still considered sex symbols. I'll say it again: You just have to tighten up your game. If you t h i n k you're t o o broke to get seemingly unattainable females, look at Britney Spears. She m a r r i e d two different guys w h o couldn't r u b two nickels together. O n c e again, you just have to tighten u p your game. If you t h i n k your looks are n o t good e n o u g h to get t o p - n o t c h females, r e m e m b e r Julia Roberts' m a r r i a g e to Lyle Lovett. She was one of the m o s t attractive actresses in Hollywood at the t o p of her career w h e n she m a r r i e d musician Lyle Lovett. Lyle looks like an elderly gerbil with a p e r m . But he was still able to pull Julia Roberts. You have to tighten up your game, just like he did. All these examples prove that no matter h o w fly you look, no m a t t e r h o w tall you are, n o m a t t e r h o w m u c h m o n e y you m a k e , you will eventually get elected—if your game is tight e n o u g h , you're comfortable e n o u g h w i t h yourself, a n d you c a m p a i g n in the r i g h t places. That's w h a t this chapter is about.

A Mack Must Use Tact To be a good mack, you have to be tactful. You can't step to every female the same way. You have to tailor your game to the i m m e d i ate s u r r o u n d i n g s . In some situations you have to be a little bolder t h a n usual. In other situations you have to be a little s m o o t h e r t h a n usual. For example, if you are stepping to a female in a place where she is likely to be in a hurry, it's actually possible to be too

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s m o o t h with your game. You m i g h t have to put your game in third gear a n d get to the point with the female before she's gone. Similarly, if you're in somewhat of a laid-back setting, you can be too bold with a female. You can't step to a female at church a n d say, "Take my n u m b e r d o w n and holler at a pimp." That would be inappropriate a n d t h r o w the whole vibe off. This is why you need to u n d e r s t a n d what level of game to use where.

A Mack's Game Is Like a Ferrari To understand the different levels of game, look at your mackin' skills like you would a Ferrari, and adjust your speed accordingly. You can't speed in a residential district, and you can't go too slow on the freeway. If your game is too slow for a fast-paced female, she will lose interest. And if your game is too fast for a small-town girl, you will talk over her head a n d she won't see where you're coming from. H e r e are the four "gears" of game you should use when putting the m a c k d o w n .

First Gear This is w h e n you step to a female on a courtesy level, giving the a p pearance that you are n o t even m a c k i n ' at all. This level of the game comes across as harmless a n d unthreatening. This gear of game is used to m o n i t o r the female's vibe. If you can't get an accurate reading on a female, you should stay in first gear. If the vibe is good and receptive, then you should switch to second gear.

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Second Gear This is w h e n you get a positive vibe from a female a n d you are letting her know, in a subtle way, that you m i g h t be interested in taking the interaction to a n o t h e r level. Being in second gear keeps a w o m a n guessing whether or n o t you really w a n t to holler at her. W h e n you are in second gear, you m i g h t flirt with the female or give her compliments on her shoes or jewelry. For the record, you s h o u l d never step to females w i t h compliments on their physical beauty. If makes you come across as a kiss-ass. Never step to w o m e n saying things like, "I w o u l d do a n y t h i n g to be w i t h a w o m a n of your stature." You m i g h t as well pull out your wallet a n d write BIG-ASS T R I C K on your forehead, because that's h o w she'll see you. W h e n you are in second gear, don't show blatant interest or a strong desire for the female you just met. You m u s t give her the i m pression that you are still waiting on her to give you a reason to w a n t to take it to the next level.

Third Gear Putting your game in t h i r d gear is w h e n you are ready to express interest in further contact. You see that she is feeling you. She sees that you are feeling her. This is when you exchange n u m b e r s or e-mail addresses a n d arrange to see her again in the near future. If for any reason you have misread her vibe, a n d she says s o m e t h i n g like, "Well I can't give out my n u m b e r because I have a

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m a n , " you must put your m a c k i n ' gear in reverse, and put it back into first gear. Be sure to pace yourself when you are m a c k i n ' to a female. You d o n ' t w a n t to shift gears t o o fast.

Fourth Gear Your game is in fourth gear when you're vibing with a female so well, you can not only set up future dates with her, but get her to come to your crib or to the " m o - m o " with you, right then and there. Fourth gear is when your game is so tight, you get elected on the spot.

Tailoring Your Game to Different Settings In my b o o k The Art of Mackin', I dedicated an entire chapter to meeting w o m e n in clubs. I used clubs as a forum to meet w o m e n , because this is where a mack can easily accomplish his goals. Over the years, however, I've received tons of e-mails from guys w h o d o n ' t usually go to clubs. In some cases, they're too young to get in clubs, or the clubs in their cities are just wack. These readers have asked me h o w to meet females in other kinds of spots. I have listed some below, a n d explained the best "gear" to use when getting your game on in each location.

The Gym Let's face it: m a n y gyms are pickup spots, especially the ones in L.A. But w h e n you step to females at the g y m , you have to put your game

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in first gear a n d let it coast for a while. You don't have to be in m u c h of a r u s h with your game, because people usually take their time a n d spend at least an h o u r or two at the gym, anyway. So you can let the m a c k i n ' marinate. W h e n you step to females at the gym, you should stay in first gear a n d come at the female on a courtesy level. If you step to a female at the gym, m a k e sure she looks like she's b e e n going to the g y m for a while. As a mack, if you're at the g y m putting the m a c k d o w n , at least be playa e n o u g h to get a t o p n o t c h female w h o is in shape. D o n ' t p u n k out a n d t r y to spit at the p u d g y chick that just joined the gym. That's a major n o - n o . These females already feel very insecure a n d self-conscious. No m a t t e r h o w tight your game is, the only thing on her m i n d is "I h o p e he doesn't notice my big belly," or "I h o p e he doesn't notice my fat a n kles," or "I h o p e he doesn't notice my jiggly thighs." W h e n you step to a physically fit female at the gym, you have to tailor your game to the setting. Ask about her workout regimen. Ask her about her nutritional habits. Ask her about her ab techniques. W h e n you step to her, you have to get her to lower her defenses by putting yourself in the position of pretending to need advice. Ask for her advice on a workout routine. People w h o have worked h a r d at something that they are p r o u d of (like a female has worked on her body) take great p r i d e in explaining and even bragging about it. You have to use this to your advantage. If you see a female at the g y m that you are feeling, simply step over to her a n d say something like, "I was checking out your a r m s , a n d they look well toned. W h i c h machine do you n o r m a l l y use to get your a r m s like that?" Now, a c o m m e n t like this accomplishes two things: 1) It eliminates the fear a n d possibility of being rejected, because you can't reject courtesy a n d 2) It gives you an o p p o r t u n i t y to m o n i t o r the

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female's vibe and attitude, which lets you k n o w if it's cool to shift your game into second gear.

The Mall When mackin' to females at the mall, you should once again put yourself in the position of needing assistance from the female. In this scenario, you may have to speed your game up just a taste (but not too fast) because you never k n o w if a female is there to do some window-shopping, or if she's there to quickly pick up a specific item. At the mall, you have to start off in first gear, and then you have to switch into second and third gear within two to three m i n utes. The best way to step to females at the mall is using the "I need your o p i n i o n " approach. This is the best way to break the ice, keep her defenses d o w n , a n d get a feeling for her overall d e m e a n o r . Go to the cosmetics counter in a d e p a r t m e n t store and t r y spraying two or three different colognes on some samples strips, and approach your target on the courtesy level. Say to her, "Excuse me, I need to get a female's o p i n i o n on s o m e t h i n g . . ."—saying this shows you don't have any threatening intentions—". . . I ' m trying to decide which new cologne I should get, and I wanted to k n o w which one smells the best to you." After she responds, you have to pick up on the receptiveness of her vibe toward you. If she is somewhat intelligent, and she is into cats that have decent convo, she should be a little m o r e receptive to you. If she gives you her o p i n i o n but seems like she may be in a rush, don't sweat it. No h a r m , no foul. C h a r g e it to the game a n d keep on campaigning. If you get a positive vibe from her, you

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s h o u l d then shift from first gear to second gear. After she gives her o p i n i o n on which cologne she likes, you then switch the convo to her: "So, w h o are you here with?" or " W h a t are you picking up here at the mall?" or " H o w far do you live from here?" If you are in the m a i n p a r t of the mall, you can use the same a p p r o a c h to break the ice. If you see a female w h o m i g h t be qualified for your game, step to her a n d say, "Excuse me, you look like you have good fashion sense." This is a very effective statement because females tend to believe they have exquisite fashion sense, a n d they will feel p r o u d that someone is acknowledging it. T h e n say, " I ' m going to a formal event, a n d I need to find some upscale gear. I ' m n o t sure which stores I should check out. You look like you w o u l d k n o w where there is a high-end fashion store here in this mall." This icebreaker is very effective. If she says she doesn't k n o w where the upscale clothing stores are in the mall, she is basically a d m i t t i n g that she doesn't have the fashion sense that you t h i n k she has. M o s t females really w o u l d n ' t want to come across like that, a n d therefore they w o n ' t m i n d giving you advice on where to find a high-class fashion spot. After she gives you her o p i n i o n , you again switch to second gear w i t h your game. O n c e her defenses are d o w n , get to k n o w her n a m e , age, where she lives, etc. A n d if that flows well, switch to t h i r d gear, give her your n u m b e r (or suggest that you two exchange n u m b e r s ) , a n d tell her to give you a holla.

Driving Down the Street W h e n you're driving d o w n the street, a n d you see a fly h o n e y going about her way or standing at a b u s stop, you have to quickly switch

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your game from first to second to t h i r d gear if you w a n t to spit at her. Now, it's imperative that you start off on a courtesy level w i t h a female w h o is just walking d o w n the street, because her a p p r e hensions about a stranger approaching her are p r o b a b l y strong. Generally, when w o m e n (and especially attractive ones) are walking d o w n the, street, they are subjected to all types of catcalls a n d lame remarks from guys w h o pass by. As a result, they m a y feel vulnerable. If you just drive up to a female a n d say, "Hey, what's your n a m e ? " she probably won't even b o t h e r to respond (unless she's a h o o d r a t ) . As a mack, you have to quickly lower her defenses while you b r e a k the ice. Here is an excellent t e c h n i q u e to use w h e n trying to meet females on the street—this usually w o r k s like a c h a r m . It's called the "I need directions" t e c h n i q u e . W h a t you do is find a piece of p a p e r in y o u r car, a n d you p r e t e n d that there are directions on it. Pull up to the female target, m a k i n g sure she sees your piece of p a p e r w i t h the "directions" on it, a n d you say, "Excuse m e , h o w do I get to T h i r d Street (or whatever a well-known street in your city is) from here?" Make sure that it's n o t a street that is too obvious to find from your location. After she gives you the directions, a n d lets her defenses d o w n , you quickly go from first to second gear. Ask her something like, "So, where are you on your way to?" or "You m u s t live a r o u n d here?" or "What's your n a m e ? " T h e n switch your game to t h i r d gear, a n d suggest that you two exchange n u m b e r s so you can converse later on. This same gear-shifting a p p r o a c h can w o r k anywhere. Just rem e m b e r to m a k e your initial a p p r o a c h appropriate to the setting.

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If you are at a grocery store, a n d you see a honey, step to her as if you need some advice on h o w to m a k e lasagne. If you are on the subway a n d you see a nice little breezy, ask her which train to take to get to a certain p a r t of t o w n . If you see a female at c h u r c h that you w a n t to step to, ask her if she k n o w s when the n e w Kirk Franklin CD is coming out. A mack's biggest obstacle is the initial a p p r o a c h — t h e icebreaker. O n c e you get your foot in the d o o r with these simple examples I've given, it's s m o o t h sailing' from there on out.

Tips on Mackin' at the Club In m o s t settings, the highest level of game the average guy will reach is t h i r d gear. But the nightclub is the perfect place to take your game from first to fourth gear in a short p e r i o d of time. W h e n guys go to clubs, they are trying to achieve one goal: pull a female out of the club, a n d convince to her leave w i t h t h e m that night. Some guys will settle for a p h o n e n u m b e r , or a few dances. But the typical goal for a m a n frequenting a club is to reach the fourth gear of mackin'. In o r d e r to do this, y o u simply have to find a female at the club w h o is on the same page as you are. But this simple process is usually thwarted, because m e n get sidetracked by all the decoys a n d obstacles in the club. M a n y guys waste t o o m u c h valuable m a c k i n ' t i m e with the w r o n g females w h o have other agendas. In the p r o cess, they end up missing out on the " d o w n - a s s " females w h o are qualified to receive good game. H e r e are a few of the types of females at the club that you

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should b e c o m e familiar with. W h e n you spot these females, you should quickly avoid t h e m so you will still have t i m e to find a female w h o is m o r e compatible w i t h your t r u e m a c k energy. These females are: 1. The Bar Wench 2. The Attention Freaks 3. The Stella 4. T h e First-of-the-Month Females 5. The Liquor Strippers 6. The Broke Divas

The Bar Wench The Bar Wench is the female w h o hangs out by the bar all night a n d flirts w i t h guys until they b u y her drinks. You have to stay on your toes w h e n you r u n across this type of female. She will give you the impression that she's yours, but in reality, she just wants you to get her a double shot of Hennessy. Then it's on to the next sucker. You can usually p e e p out a Bar Wench's game because she is a little too touchy-feely and seems to laugh a little too hard at your jokes. She puts on a big charade just to make you buy her a drink. It's n o t simply about getting buzzed. This is a little psychological game Bar Wenches play with themselves. In their m i n d s , their desirability is based on the n u m b e r of guys they can p e r s u a d e to buy t h e m drinks. As a mack, you don't have time to waste on a Bar Wench who's just trying to get her d r i n k on. W h e n a female like this starts hinting for you to wet her whistle, just excuse yourself and keep it m o v i n g .

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The Attention Freaks There are generally two types of h o s : m o n e y hos a n d attention h o s , also k n o w n as Attention Freaks. These are the w o m e n w h o go to clubs a n d act like hos, carry themselves like hos, a n d dress like h o s , b u t are seeking attention, n o t money. As a mack, don't waste time b o t h e r i n g with Attention Freaks. Their only goal is to dress provocatively (i.e., stank) a n d come across as being overly sexual p a r t y girls so that guys fawn over t h e m . These w o m e n are desperate for attention, a n d they will do a n y t h i n g to m a k e sure they get it. Attention Freaks usually r u n in packs of four or five. W h e n you see a g r o u p of scantily dressed females that are loud, tipsy, a n d d a n c i n g in a circle with one another, you better go the other way. True m a c k s aren't in the business of p u m p i n g up the egos of Attention Freaks.

The Stella This is an extension of a type of female I described in chapter four. The label derives from the m o v i e How Stella Got Her Groove Back. These are the females w h o are a little long in the t o o t h b u t still go out to the clubs to see if they still "got it." M a n y of these w o m e n have the same agenda as the Attention Freaks. Stellas are insecure about getting older, so they dress all hoochie a n d go to the clubs a n d flirt with any a n d every guy w h o looks their way. They are trying to get any form of attention from m e n they can find. W h e n you r u n into a Stella, just do an aboutface a n d keep on m o v i n g .

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The First-of-the-Month Females These are the chickenhead females that n o r m a l l y frequent the clubs on the first and fifteenth of the m o n t h . As a matter of fact, you should try to avoid going out to clubs a r o u n d the first of the m o n t h altogether. This is when h o o d r a t s and chickenheads get their county checks. O n c e these females get their checks, they r u n to the swap meet to get some new gear a n d flock to the club. These types of girls can't afford to go to the club any other time of the m o n t h . But after they receive those welfare checks, they can afford to get their hair d o n e a n d hire a baby-sitter. As a m a c k , you don't even want to be in that environment. If you are out fishing a n d you're trying to h o o k the "big catch," you don't want to do it in a lake full of tadpoles. You don't want to t r y fishing for bass d u r i n g guppy season. You don't want to have to keep t h r o w i n g back fish you don't want. Make sure your waters are clear of the small fish before you go out mackin'.

The Liquor Strippers These females are an extension of the Bar Wench. The only difference is that the Liquor Strippers w o r k a little h a r d e r for their drinks t h a n the Bar Wench does. T h e Liquor Stripper is the kind of female w h o takes a guy on the dance floor, grinds all over h i m , backs her ass up on h i m , a n d basically gives h i m a lap dance as if she's w o r k i n g at a strip club. After she performs her i m p r o m p t u stripper act on the dance floor, she tries to work the guy over to the bar so she can get h i m to b u y her a d r i n k . Whenever you are at the club and you have a female dancing up

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on you a little too stank, be sure to see what her reaction is after the song is over. If she is d o w n to go off in the cut, so you two can further converse, that's cool. But if she starts talking about h o w thirsty she is, tell her "thanks for the dance," a n d keep on campaigning.

The Broke Divas These are the females w h o go to the club dressed in the latest trendy fashions a n d pretend that they are m u c h classier t h a n all the other w o m e n in the club. These w o m e n don't go to clubs to interact w i t h the fellas, because they like to pretend that the guys in the clubs are beneath t h e m . Despite the s n o o t y persona they like to put on, these w o m e n live in the same h o u s i n g projects as all the other chickenheads. Broke Divas like to front like they have it going on, b u t in reality they don't have a p o t to piss in or a w i n d o w to t h r o w it out of. M o s t people (men or w o m e n ) w h o really have p a p e r tend to be m o r e low-key. T h e brokest people are usually the flossiest p e o ple. So w h e n you're at the club a n d you see a wannabe-high-class female walking a r o u n d in Gucci a n d Prada gear, don't t h i n k you are s o m e h o w beneath her. She p r o b a b l y boosted that n e w Gucci a n d Prada from the mall earlier that day. Females w h o really have it going on are usually d o w n - t o - e a r t h . A n d that is what you should be looking for." N o w I k n o w that some of these labels m i g h t seem kind of harsh, b u t in the mackin' game, you have to have a take-no-prisoners attit u d e . There are guys w h o literally waste years of their lives dealing with the types of females I have been describing. These m e n live in frustration, n o t knowing that the grass is definitely greener on the

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other side. All these guys have to do is respect the game and soak it in. And when they go out to the clubs, their chances of getting their game into fourth gear will increase tremendously.

A Mack Must Mingle A lot of m e n w h o go to clubs t e n d to just stand a r o u n d or post up by the wall. It's cool to post up periodically, but too m a n y guys play the wallflower role all night. And this isn't going to cut it. See, a m a c k m u s t mingle. You have to keep it m o v i n g . A mack's game is like water. He has to let it flow t h r o u g h o u t the club. You can't stand in one place a n d let your game sit like a p u d d l e , hoping that a female m i g h t walk by a n d step in it. You have to work the r o o m a n d douse females with little droplets of your game. You do this by stepping to a n u m b e r of females on the courtesy level. Just step to females with a quick, simple, " H o w are you t o night?", "Are you having a good t i m e so far?", "Cool, I'll talk to you in a minute." Using that simple ten-second exchange is like sprinkling the females with a little water of your game. It also accomplishes other things. It gives you a chance to read the female's vibe and helps tell the female whether you are really interested in her. It shows that you are confident e n o u g h to step to a female w i t h o u t saying or d o i n g a n y t h i n g that will put m i l d e w on your game. M o s t importantly, it eliminates the possibility of rejection. Once you've planted the seed in the m i n d s of a n u m b e r of your potential recruits, it's n o w t i m e to a d d m o r e water so those seeds will grow into trees. If you have gotten a good vibe from one

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of the females you stepped to on a courtesy level, you go back to her a n d put your game into t h i r d or possibly fourth gear. It's i m p o r t a n t to n o t e that a m a c k m u s t never ask a female if she will do something. A m a c k m u s t always instruct the female to do something. You don't ask a female if she w o u l d like to dance. You don't ask a female for her n u m b e r . You give her instructions on what you want her to d o . If you want her to d a n c e w i t h you, you step to her, take her h a n d a n d say, " C o m e on, we're going to dance." If you w a n t a female's n u m b e r , you tell her, "Look, let's exchange n u m b e r s , because we need to talk about some things." This shows that you are confident e n o u g h to take charge. M a n y w o m e n , no m a t t e r h o w independent they claim to be, are secretly t u r n e d on by this. This is the mentality you m u s t have when you're out mingling at the clubs. W h e n you're trying to get elected by females, you have to go out there a n d shake h a n d s a n d kiss babies, so to speak. It's a m u s t that you mingle a n d interact w i t h the people w h o m you want to put you in "office."

Places Where You Shouldn't Try to Mack to Females Even t h o u g h a m a c k should be able to put his bid in at any given m o m e n t , there are a few places where you should avoid, or at least be cautious' of, putting your m a c k d o w n . Unless you have an i m mediate fourth-gear vibe from the females in these locations, I would suggest that you avoid t h e m all together. These places are:

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Your Job The w o r k e n v i r o n m e n t is one of the worst places to t r y to spit game at females. If you don't plan on being at that j o b for too long, or if it's just a t e m p assignment, that's cool. M a c k on. But if it's a j o b w i t h benefits a n d income that you absolutely depend on, don't do it. It's a b a d idea to get with a female at work. Let's say you do date or get into a relationship with a coworker, a n d it doesn't w o r k out. You still have to see this person, a n d in m a n y cases, interact with this person every day. The awkwardness will m a k e the w o r k e n v i r o n m e n t uncomfortable. T h e best t h i n g to do with females at your j o b is to use t h e m as m a t c h m a k e r s . Just be cool a n d cordial with t h e m , a n d have t h e m h o o k you up w i t h their friends. A n d m a k e sure those friends don't w o r k for the same c o m p a n y as you, either.

Strip Clubs There are m a n y guys w h o frequent strip clubs, h a r b o r i n g the n o tion that they are going to possibly luck into some free ass. In reality, the o d d s of that h a p p e n i n g are slim to none. Your chances of taking a female h o m e w i t h you (for free) are m u c h better at a square club t h a n a strip club. T h e females at strip clubs are there to hustle. Point-blank. They are n o t your friends. T h e y only w a n t to interact w i t h guys w h o are paying t h e m , b u t t r u e m a c k s don't pay for c o m p a n i o n ship. Girls at strip clubs only w a n t to interact with tricks or p i m p s . Unless you have a foot in the p i m p game, you shouldn't go to strip joints t h i n k i n g you are going to get some free ass. Strippers are

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used to guys trying to bargain a n d negotiate for sexual favors from t h e m on a nightly basis. Over time, these w o m e n build up a certain level of c o n t e m p t for guys w h o t r y to get sex from t h e m . If you do w a n t to get w i t h a stripper, catch her outside of her w o r k environment. Catch strippers w h e n they are out at square clubs. ( M o r e on h o w to spot undercover strippers a n d w o r k i n g girls later.)

Females in an Employee/Customer Environment N o t only is it a b a d idea to t r y a n d holla at strippers while they are at work, you should also be very cautious w h e n you're trying to talk to any female while she is at work. Some females w o r k in cust o m e r service positions where they have to be nice to people. And some guys take this the w r o n g way. I believe if you play the m a c k i n ' game, you have to play it fair. The m a c k i n ' game is about free will. You should always put yourself in a position where if the female is feeling your game, cool, she can sign u p . If the female is n o t feeling your game, cool, she can go on her way. But it's n o t fair to m a c k h a r d to a female w h o is w o r k i n g the cash register at the grocery store or w o r k i n g at a d e p a r t m e n t store a n d doesn't have the option to walk away if she is n o t feeling your game. There are a lot of guys w h o will spit some lame game to a fem a l e w h o is w o r k i n g the cash register at a d e p a r t m e n t store. The female is standing there still smiling, g r i n n i n g , a n d being friendly, a n d so the guys mistake this as their game being o n - p o i n t . In reality, the female has to be friendly and courteous to every customer

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that comes in the store, no matter what. This makes it very difficult to get an accurate reading on the w o m a n ' s t r u e feelings. So play the game fair. There are plenty of other females to m a c k on out there.

Beauty Salons W o m e n just aren't looking their best when they are at the hairdresser. W o m e n d o n ' t even want to be seen while getting their hair d o n e , let alone m a c k e d on. This goes for females in nail shops, too. T h e y don't want m e n seeing t h e m when their feet look like hooves. Trying to spit at a female w h o is in the process of getting her hair or nails d o n e is just wasting time. She isn't going to be focused on the quality a n d splendor of your game. She's going to focus on what you t h i n k of her looking the way she does at that m o m e n t . What female is in the m o o d to exchange n u m b e r s with a playa when she has half a weave hangin' off her head? If you're going to mack to a female at a beauty salon, at least wait until she gets out from u n d e r the dryer before you put your bid in.

Top Five Old-School Joints a True Mack Would Burn onto a CD 1. "Freddy's D e a d " by Curtis Mayfield 2. "Between the Sheets" by the Isley Brothers 3. " T h e T h e m e from Shaft" by Isaac Hayes 4. " C o o l " by the Time 5. "Give It to M e " by Rick James •

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Top Five Old-School Songs a Simp Would Burn onto a CD 1. "Believe" by Cher 2. "Soon as I Get H o m e (I'll pay your rent, I'll b u y your clothes)" by Babyface 3. "Treat H e r Like a Lady" by the Temptations 4. " O n e Last Cry" by Brian McKnight 5. "Wake Me up Before You G o - G o " by W h a m

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t r u e m a c k can't afford to m a k e mistakes in the game. There are m a n y situations where one mistake can prove devastating. There are only two ways to learn the m a c k i n ' game: the right way, and the w r o n g way. The w r o n g way is by trial and error. Granted, there are some times in your life where you need to m a k e mistakes so you can learn from t h e m . But there are guys out there w h o insist on m a k i n g the same mistakes over a n d over again, a n d are surprised when they never get the results they w a n t . For a m a n , getting into the wrong dating situation with the w r o n g female can completely alter your life. Just ask all the guys out there w h o pay alimony, child s u p port, palimony, or m o n e y for sexual harassment lawsuits. T h e right way to learn the g a m e is by i m m e d i a t e l y learning from your mistakes a n d p e e p i n g the g a m e of s o m e o n e w h o is

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seasoned a n d m o r e e x p e r i e n c e d in the game. You've already m a d e that step by r e a d i n g this b o o k . This is h o w I learned the g a m e . If I was u n c e r t a i n a b o u t s o m e t h i n g , I w o u l d put my ego to the side a n d seek out advice from s o m e of the veterans in the g a m e . If I m a d e a mistake, I m a d e d a m n sure n o t to ever m a k e that m i s t a k e again. N o w I'm going to help you t r y to avoid some of the same m i s takes that so m a n y potential m a c k s have m a d e in the past. I've compiled a list of seven m a i n mistakes (or " m u s t - n o t s " ) that guys m a k e , a n d I have also included strategies ("musts") to help prevent those mistakes.

1) A mack must accept when something isn't working. A mack must not be in denial. I recently got an e-mail from a guy that read: Hey King Flex, There is this girl that I have been trying to get with for the past three months. At first she seemed like she might be interested. But whenever we would try to set up a date or a hook-up, she would always flake out on me. We used to talk on the phone a lot, but it seems like whenever I call her now, she is always in the middle of doing something else. Still whenever I bring up the subject of hooking up, she always agrees that we should, but it never seems to materialize. How can I turn the tables on her, or at least get some

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type of revenge on her for wasting my time by giving me the run around for three months? Signed, "Fed Up" And my response to h i m was: Dear Fed Up, Look, play a: The mackin' game isn't about revenge or vendettas.

That's a waste of energy.

Revenge is for super-

heroes and Kung-Fu experts. The mackin and strategy.

And

game is about tact

if something isn't working for you, you

have to take responsibility for it. You have to accept the hand that you're dealt. If you and a particular female don't share the same vibe,

don't waste

three months of valuable mackin' time wondering why you and this female aren't working out or trying to fix it. Just charge that female to the game and keep it pimpin

else-

where. A lot of square guys are intrigued by the challenge of chasing a female and trying to wear her down until she gives in. But the mackin' game isn't about challenges,

it's about

cooperation. I can understand a guy not wanting a serious relationship with a female who's too easy to get. Because if you got her too effortlessly, you think that other cats have gotten her just as effortlessly. But a mack isn't going to break too much of a sweat trying to get with a female. And if something isn't working for you, switch up your techniques until you hit the jackpot.

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If you're trying to

move forward with your game, you

can't keep bumping into a brick wall over and over, wishing that it wasn't there. You need to back up and take another route

sometimes.

2) A mack must sometimes take his game on the road. A mack must not accept whatever is given to him. I get an e-mail like this about once a m o n t h from different playas a r o u n d the country: Dear

K-Flex,

It's very hard to find dimes or top-notch females in the city I live in. Most of the females here are hoodrats and chickenheads. Since there really isn't anything to do here in my city, all the females here seem to just get out of high school and have a gang of kids shortly thereafter. And the killing part is, all, these hoodrats have stuck-up attitudes because all the guys are still trying to get at them. Should I continue my seemingly endless journey to find top-notch females here,

or should I just throw in the towel

and settle for a chickenhead like all the other guys? Signed, "Small Town Player"

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I tell guys like this that sometimes a m a c k has to pack it up a n d take the s h o w on the road. As a mack, you should always have the drive, courage, a n d d e t e r m i n a t i o n to set big goals, a n d m a k e t h e m h a p p e n . Even when it comes to getting dimes. There is n o t h i n g w r o n g w i t h w a n t i n g to m a c k up on a t o p - n o t c h female. Every m a n does. But because m a n y guys have called it quits as far as u p g r a d ing their game in order to get a d i m e , they t r y to rationalize a n d justify being with lackluster females. ("She m i g h t be overweight, but at least she cooks good," or "She m i g h t be a chickenhead w i t h four kids, b u t at least her Section 8 has put us in a nice crib," etc.) The average m a n ' s basic goal in life is to t r y to stack as m u c h p a p e r as he can, a n d to get with a d i m e , or several. So if you are living in a city where your p a p e r it isn't really growing a n d there are no tens, w h y stick around? Just m o v e . Bounce. Raise u p . Some people m i g h t say, "Well, it costs m o n e y to relocate, and it's not easy to just up a n d leave." But there is a cost to be the boss. You can either settle for copper or upgrade to platinum. W h e n I was a kid, I m o v e d from D e t r o i t to B i r m i n g h a m , Alabama. B i r m i n g h a m is a great city now, a n d the people there are cool, b u t back in the eighties, it was hella slow. I m e a n real slow. Sometimes it even felt like time was going in reverse it was so slow. I r e m e m b e r feeling like I was in a mental prison w h e n I lived there. I h a d already dated the few dimes t h a t were d o w n there at the time. There was no big m o n e y to be m a d e . So at seventeen, I scraped up $125, purchased a one-way plane ticket to Los Angeles, and never looked back. I didn't k n o w anyone in Los Angeles a n d I didn't have a d i m e to my n a m e , but I still pushed forward. Yes, I h a d to struggle for a

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while, but I felt that I h a d n o t h i n g to lose and everything to gain. To m e , n o t h i n g could be worse t h a n a life of mediocrity. I would rather struggle k n o w i n g I at least h a d the possibility of m a k i n g a c o m e - u p (and I eventually did come u p ) . Now, there is n o t h i n g w r o n g w i t h living the simple life if that's what you really want. But if you are unsatisfied with h o w you're living a n d where you're living, a n d you long to have better options w h e n it comes to females, then you need to put on your t h i n k i n g cap, lace up your p i m p b o o t s , a n d figure out a way to step to a better location. The same energy you use living in a small t o w n a n d t r y i n g to m a k e ends meet can be used in a better location to m a k e millions. A n d the same energy you use to chase ducks you can use to get w i t h dimes. If your game isn't hitting in one city, I can. almost guarantee that it will in the next. I'm n o t saying that you have to relocate to a major city to find females w h o are receptive to your game. I'm just saying you should t r y visiting different cities. W h e n you are on the c a m p a i g n trail, you never k n o w which city is going to have the m o s t sympathetic "voters" w h o will feel your particular game. W h e n I go on lecture tours, I sometimes take a few of the h o m i e s w i t h m e . We all have different personalities, a n d some guys get m o r e play from the females in some cities t h a n others. O n e of my partners, Frank, is a shirt-and-tie t y p e of brother. In Dallas, it seemed like all the w o m e n there were giving h i m a lot of r h y t h m . I have a n o t h e r partner, Loc, w h o has that fresh-out-of-prison look, w h o is 100 percent gangsta. We went to Louisville, Kentucky, a n d the females went crazy over this cat. They were sweatin' Loc as if he were Usher or somebody, b u t m a n y of t h e m t h o u g h t that F r a n k was too bougie.

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I r e m e m b e r doing a lecture in Raleigh, N o r t h Carolina, a n d it seemed like every female I met there was a dime, and I've been to some cities where all the females look like stunt doubles for Star Wars movies. The point is, the mackin' game is sometimes regional and seasonal. You m i g h t be able to pull m o r e w o m e n in Atlanta d u r ing the s u m m e r t i m e t h a n you would in N e w York during the winter. If your g a m e isn't w o r k i n g in one particular city, just r e m e m ber that there are millions of females t u r n i n g eighteen every day somewhere in this country. If you are in the right place at the right time, some of those females are going to choose you.

3) A mack must demand respect at all times. A mack must never let any form of disrespect go unchecked. Even the m o s t famous story in the Bible contains w i s d o m about mackin'. A d a m was ordered by G o d n o t to eat fruit from a particular tree. A d a m , w h o was supposed to be the leader of his relationship with Eve, instructed her that they were supposed to stay away, and n o t eat from the Tree of Knowledge. N o t only did Eve, driven by her n a t u r a l desire to rebel against m a l e authority, eat from the tree anyway, b u t she convinced A d a m to eat from it, as well. Instead of A d a m checking Eve for disrespecting the game a n d going against his specific instructions, he let the situation go by unchecked, a n d ended up following his w o m a n . Even t h o u g h it was Eve w h o influenced A d a m to disobey God, Adam was specifically p u n i s h e d because it was his responsibility to

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be the leader in the relationship. Both A d a m and Eve were p u n ished by G o d for their disobedience. This same d y n a m i c is still going on to this day between m e n a n d w o m e n . Too m a n y m e n are letting their w o m e n call the shots w i t h i n the relationship. Too m a n y m e n are following their w o m e n . O n c e a w o m a n sees that she can boss you a r o u n d , it's all downhill from there. No m a t t e r h o w docile, h o w submissive, h o w cool, or h o w sweet your female m a y be, sooner or later, she'll t r y to test you. All w o m e n w a n t to p u s h the b o u n d a r i e s with the m e n in their lives. A n d w h e n w o m e n test you, you have to be mackish e n o u g h to stand up to the challenge. W o m e n have a natural tendency to rebel against m a l e a u t h o r ity. It doesn't have to be for any particular reason. It's simply in their n a t u r e . This d y n a m i c between m e n a n d w o m e n has existed since the b e g i n n i n g of t i m e . Your w o m a n m i g h t test you in a passive-aggressive way, or in a m o r e blatant way. A w o m a n m i g h t s u d d e n l y raise her voice to you in an inappropriate m a n n e r , a n d t h e n m o n i t o r your reaction to it. She m i g h t tell you a blatant lie or purposely interact w i t h an ex-boyfriend, a n d t h e n sit back a n d study your response. If a female sees that she can get away with a subtle f o r m of disrespect, she will eventually t r y to get away with a m o r e blatant form of disrespect. If you give her an inch, then next t i m e she will take a mile. So as a mack, don't even give her a fraction of an inch. You have to check any form of disrespect at all times. W h e n I say "check her," I don't m e a n beat her with clothes hanger. T h e best way to check a female is to let her k n o w that you are a m a n with options, a n d that you don't have to accept any form of disrespect from her or any other w o m a n .

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The biggest t r u m p card a mack can have is options. A m a c k must always be in a position (and m a k e it clear to the females he is dealing with that he is in this position) to replace a female at any given m o m e n t . Like I said before, when some females see that they are a man's only dating option, they will have no reason to show a satisfactory level of respect. But when a female realizes that she can easily be replaced, she will m i n d her P's and Q's. A lot of guys are afraid to check w o m e n w h o are disrespectful, because they don't w a n t to jeopardize their p o o n - t a n g privileges. As a m a c k , you m u s t never c o m p r o m i s e your self-respect just for some coochie. R e m e m b e r : D o n ' t chase chicks, replace chicks.

4| A mack must look for, and train potential "stallions." A mack must not try to train "donkeys." Here's a n o t h e r e-mail that I recently received, which represents a lot of other e-mails I've gotten from m a n y brothers a r o u n d the country; Dear I'm

Tariq, a

twenty-five-year-old

ing problems with thirty-eight with

mack-in-training,

this older woman

I'm

and dating.

I'm

hav-

She

three kids from previous relationships.

is As

far as looks go, I would say she's about a six-and-a-half. She has a cute face, but she's a little chubby. The problem is,

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she's kind of bossy, and she insists on doing everything her way or no way. She's always bringing up problems she's had in past relationships, and we argue constantly.

How do I

turn the tables and become the shot-caller in the relationship? How do I get her in check and have her bow down to me instead of the other way around? Signed, "Frustrated

Mack"

Dear Frustrated Mack

(and all the other frustrated macks

all over the world), Let's take a close look at your situation: You are twenty-five years old. So your best mackin

years haven't even begun yet.

And you are allowing yourself to be frustrated by a woman who is over ten years older than you, with three kids by different dudes, who talks to you crazy, and on top of all that, she's not even a dime (by your own admission)? The real question is: Why even bother trying to get her mind right? What's the point? You need to charge her to the game and simply get with a female that's fresh off the lot, who's more qualified. It's like going out car shopping.

Why

waste time buying an old hooptie that you need to fix up, get smog-checked, put in a new engine,

and worry about the

mileage, when you can simply go out and spend the same amount of money getting a

brand-new Lexus?

This is the difference between

training a stallion and

training a donkey. A young stallion is more valuable because it's strong, it's agile, it's in great physical shape, and it can be

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easily trained. After you train a young stallion, you can go out and win the Kentucky Derby or any other race with that stallion. And that stallion will remain loyal to you for a long time. Now, a donkey is extremely stubborn. In order for you to get a donkey to do even minor tasks, you have to kick it, pull it, and beat it into submission. And even if you do finally break a donkey down and get it trained, what the hell are you going to do with a trained donkey, anyway? The whole frustrating process of training it is pointless. This same analogy can women.

be

used when

dealing with

Why go through the headache of trying to get a fe-

male to be on the same wavelength as you, when she has a gang of psychological and emotional baggage,

and she's not

even a top-notch dime? Just go get a female who has yet to accumulate all that baggage. Now I'm not trying to imply that all women over the age of thirty-five have a lot of baggage. Some women accumulate baggage at a very young age, as well. But on average, there are specific age groups of females who are less likely to have baggage than others. From a general standpoint (and sure,

there are excep-

tions) the best age group of females to get with are females between

the ages of twenty-three and twenty-eight.

this period,

women

During

are getting out of the young hoochie

stage, and they haven't quite reached the bitter, set-in-theirways stage.

During the twenty-three to twenty-eight period,

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of the men they date. So it is much easier to get one of these "stallions" to be on the same page you, as opposed to a bossy, bitter,

"donkey" who has baggage left over from all of the

other men she has dealt with in the past.

5| A mack must become fluent in nonverbal language. A mack must not accept everything at face value. Like I m e n t i o n e d before, over 90 percent of c o m m u n i c a t i o n is nonverbal. So w h e n you're m a c k i n ' on a female, the actual w o r d s she's saying to you are secondary. You should focus p r i m a r i l y on her b o d y language a n d vocal inflections. A n d the best way to get a t r u e assessment of a female is to see if her w o r d s m a t c h her b o d y language. T h e p r o b l e m w i t h a lot of m e n is that they have been t a u g h t to t r u s t everything a female tells t h e m , a n d to take whatever a female tells t h e m at face value. Society likes to p e r p e t u a t e the m y t h that m e n are instinctive liars, a n d that w o m e n always tell the truth. But the reality is, m a n y w o m e n are deceptive on an even deeper level t h a n m e n are. W h e n a m a n lies, he knows that he is full of it. But women's lies are m o r e effective because w o m e n lie to themselves. A lot of w o m e n are very convincing w h e n they lie, because they believe their o w n Bullsit. So as a m a c k , it's your j o b to decipher the nonverbal language. A n d once you get a t r u e assessment of a female, y o u will be able to deal with her m o r e effectively. I've compiled a list of general terms, titles, a n d occupations that

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m a n y w o m e n use to describe themselves. And I've also included the real meanings and translations of these titles. Here are a few: Independent:

Woman who can't keep a man

Diva:

Woman over the age of thirty-five, woman over 150

lbs., or drag queen Homemaker:

Baby mother who lives off a county check or a trick husband

Actress:

Waitress

Dancer:

Stripper

Masseuse:

Call girl

Makeup artist:

Girl who works in the cosmetic section at a department store

Real estate agent:

Female who is between jobs

Student (if under the ...Female who is still living off her parents or age of twenty-three):

student-loan money

Student (if over the ... Female who is still waiting on Captain Save-a-Ho age of twenty-three): Stylist:

Hair dresser in the hood

Decorator:

Overweight girl or drag queen who is unemployed

Fashion designer:

Average-looking girl who is unemployed

Model:

Attractive female who is unemployed

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6] A mack must use absence to increase desire. A mack must never allow himself to become too familiar or predictable. A m a c k m u s t always have an air of mystery. The less p e o p l e — especially w o m e n — k n o w about you, the better. W h e n m o s t guys meet w o m e n , they are t o p quick to divulge every bit of i n f o r m a tion about themselves. They t h i n k that by m a k i n g a female aware of all of their credentials (real or m a d e - u p ) they are impressing the female. This usually has the opposite effect. O n c e a female thinks you are trying to impress her, she will assume that she has s o m e t h i n g of value to you (usually it's her vagina). A n d a m a c k m u s t always treat the vagina as if it has no value. A m a c k m u s t be as mysterious as possible. The less info you give about yourself, the m o r e females will want to k n o w about you. This is h o w you play to a w o m a n ' s fantasies. The less you say about yourself a n d the m o r e mysterious y o u are, the m o r e w o m e n will project their fantasies a n d desires o n t o you. A m a c k should n o t be at a females beck a n d call at all times. You have to initially let your presence (and good qualities) be k n o w n , a n d then you strategically m a k e yourself scarce. You have to be p u r p o s e l y unpredictable. Always keep your female target enthralled w i t h t h o u g h t s like, "I w o n d e r where he is?", "I w o n d e r what he's doing?" "I w o n d e r what he's t h i n k i n g about?", a n d "Is he t h i n k i n g about me?" Your strategic absence, following a positive initial presence, will build up desire in a female. W h e n you're up in a female's face 24/7, and she pretty m u c h

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knows everything about you, she will look at you as being the average Joe Blow. But when you strategically remove yourself from a female's presence, and keep an air of mystery, you will come across as being larger than life. This is what's called the godlike effect. People are intrigued and obsessed by God because G o d is a total mystery to them. When Jesus walked the Earth like other m e n , he was crucified. But when he died leaving a promise of his return, people began to worship h i m . There's an old saying: "Familiarity breeds contempt." People will easily project a n d attribute their failures, shortcomings, a n d frustrations o n t o the people w h o are a r o u n d t h e m on an everyday basis. In m a n y cases, w h e n you become a familiar fixture in a person's life, you will find yourself being a scapegoat for whatever goes wrong w i t h that person. But w h e n you strategically keep m o v i n g in and out of a female's presence, she will project only her positive desires a n d fantasies onto you. O n c e you've established this d o m i n a n t yet mysterious, godlike presence, you will find that w o m e n will be willing to do a n y t h i n g for you. T h e hit television s h o w a n d m o v i e Charlie's Angels utilized this concept. Charlie was a mysterious, u n s e e n , godlike character whose "angels" (every G o d has his angels) were t h r e e female lawenforcement agents. Charlie w o u l d tell these w o m e n to do all types of dangerous tasks a n d missions all a r o u n d the world, even t h o u g h the angels h a d never even m e t Charlie in person. You can have the same effect as long as you r e m a i n a puzzle to women. O n c e a female thinks she has an angle on you, switch your game u p . N o w d o n ' t confuse being mysterious w i t h being deceitful. You don't have to lie about what you do or where you've been. I'm simply saying you should be vague about it and make yourself

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scarce sometimes. A m a c k has to be like a Picasso painting, vague a n d abstract. This way, w o m e n will t r y to interpret you in m a n y different ways w i t h o u t getting a specific h a n d l e on you.

7| A mack must be bold in his decisions. A mack must never appear to be unsure or indecisive. To be a m a c k , you m u s t be a boss. As a matter of fact, if you look up the w o r d boss in the dictionary, you will see m a n y w o r d s that describe a t r u e mack's personality (Webster's Dictionary defines the w o r d boss as "a leader," a n d "a master," a m o n g other things). Like I said before, w o m e n instinctively look for leadership in m e n . To be a leader, you have to be extremely confident in your decision-making abilities. The reason w h y there aren't e n o u g h m e n w h o are leaders in their relationships today is because t o o m a n y m e n are u n s u r e of their agendas. A w o m a n will n o t have confidence in a man's leadership if he isn't confident in his leadership ability first. Bold decision-making is the easiest way to give off the appearance of confidence. W o m e n d o n ' t respect indecisive m e n . Indecisiveness makes you look weak, a n d the essence of a m a c k is strength. Boldness will t r i u m p h over logic. All you have to do is appear as if you k n o w what you're talking about. A bold, convincing execution will override any inconsistencies. If you can't win w i t h wits, be b o l d with bullshit. T h i s is t h e p h i l o s o p h y t h a t g o t p r e s i d e n t G e o r g e W. Bush

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reelected. There was a lot of evidence p o i n t i n g out the Bush cabinet's inconsistencies and deceptive tactics in the war in Iraq. The hit movie Fahrenheit 9/11 pointed this out a n d then some. Other presidential candidates w h o ran against Bush were m o r e politically t h o r o u g h and qualified for the position than he was. But Bush was so bold with his words a n d his decisions that it obscured all of his other inconsistencies. This is what helped h i m get so m a n y votes. W h e n you establish a reputation for being bold and m a k i n g definitive decisions, you won't have to check w o m e n as often. They will check themselves. Your boldness will make you seem u n p r e dictable. People are always cautious about treading in u n k n o w n territory. Remember, you must be bold as well as tactful. Being bold isn't about being offensive. R u n n i n g up to a female and saying, "Hey, you have nice titties," isn't being bold. That's being lame. You still must u n d e r s t a n d there is a t i m e and place for everything. And your level of boldness should always be appropriate to the situation. W h e n you plan things with w o m e n , always take the initiative to be the captain of the team. You take her input into consideration, a n d then you m a k e the final decision. If you are trying to plan a date with a female, a n d she asks, " W h a t do you want to do?" don't reply with s o m e t h i n g indecisive like "I don't know. Whatever you want to do." You have to be a mack about it. D o n ' t be afraid to call the shots. Tell her, "We are going to Roscoe's House of Chicken a n d Waffles, and then we will play it by ear," or something to that effect. A major mistake that guys make when they first get with a female and don't quite have an angle on her yet is trying to b r o w n nose their way into her good graces. This often backfires because it makes the guy come off as soft. The best way to get into the good

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graces of a female is to show her you have confidence. You do this with a bold, tactful presence. So w h e n you deal with w o m e n , don't go out of your way to c o m p r o m i s e . D o n ' t filibuster. D o n ' t nitpick. A n d don't w o r r y about being considered an asshole. It's better to be an asshole t h a n an asskisser.

Top Five Accessories Macks Like to Sport 1. Pinky ring 2. D i a m o n d - s t u d d e d earrings 3. Rolex watch 4. Cufflinks 5. P i m p cups

Top Five Accessories True Macks Do Not Sport 1. Anklet 2. C h o k e r 3. Nipple ring 4. Tongue ring 5. Toe ring

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pimping in the 1920s a n d '30s) some of the exact slang t e r m s from the b o o k are used in h i p - h o p songs to this day. Back in the 1920s and '30s, p i m p s were into getting money, flashy cars, jewelry, and women. And almost every rap song a n d video out today is still about getting money, flashy cars, jewelry, a n d w o m e n . Nowadays, m a n y rappers are acknowledging the connection that h i p - h o p has to the p i m p game. There are m a n y rap songs

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about pimpin', and m a n y songs that make references to pimpin'. And n o w m a n y rappers are having actual p i m p s appear o n their records a n d in their videos. Even t h o u g h the flash a n d glitter of the p i m p game has infiltrated the m a i n s t r e a m , the general public still has no idea about the t r u e ins a n d outs of the game.

What's Your Real Agenda? A lot of guys claim that they w a n t to learn the p i m p game because they w a n t to have different females giving t h e m gifts a n d money. But the reality is, m a n y of these guys want to learn the p i m p game because they figure this knowledge can help t h e m have sex w i t h a n u m b e r of attractive females for free. N o w if you are the k i n d of guy w h o is motivated by the p r o s p e c t of having sex w i t h a n u m b e r of different w o m e n , there is n o t h i n g w r o n g with that. But you have to realize that this isn't p i m p i n g . In o r d e r to be in the p i m p game, you m u s t be sexually disciplined. I w o u l d like to n o t e that I ' m n o t giving you this information so t h a t you can go out a n d t r y to b e c o m e an actual street p i m p . M o s t guys w h o get into the game on a professional level were either b o r n into the game or they got into the game out of necessity. If you have the option to choose a n o t h e r p a t h in life, by all means do so. All the street players I k n o w will be the first to tell y o u that the p i m p game can be psychologically draining. In o r d e r for you to be successful in the game, you have to have the mental strength ( a n d discipline) of ten m e n . But you should take heed to the basic principles of the p i m p i n ' game. I feel there are lessons to be learned from the game that you can use in all walks of life.

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Similarly, 1 wouldn't r e c o m m e n d that a n y person become a m e m b e r of the Italian mafia. But I do a d m i r e some of the rules a n d codes mafia m e m b e r s observe. I believe that there are useful life lessons to be learned from every facet of society. W h a t I'm trying to do in this section of the b o o k is teach you some of the lessons from the p i m p game that you can use in regular relationships w i t h women. I w a n t to do this w i t h o u t advocating p i m p i n ' as a career or influencing anyone to totally e m b r a c e the w h o l e p i m p lifestyle. N o w if you're a cat w h o simply wants females to cater to h i m , bring h i m paper, a n d shower h i m with gifts, there is n o t h i n g wrong w i t h that, either. You just have to be very honest with yourself a n d decide what's m o r e i m p o r t a n t to you: ass or cash? I k n o w a lot of you guys are p r o b a b l y asking, "Well h o w come I can't have b o t h ? " " H o w come I can't have sex w i t h different women all day, a n d get a lot of m o n e y from t h e m in the process?" Because the game doesn't w o r k that way. If you choose one, you sacrifice the other to a small degree. M a n y guys w a n t to get into the p i m p i n ' g a m e because they are sex freaks w h o are addicted to p o o n - t a n g , b u t you c a n n o t be a freak and a p i m p . That's like a d r u g dealer w h o smokes crack. A n d you can't sex your way up on some big m o n e y from females. Sexing females for m o n e y makes you a gigolo. A n d gigolo m o n e y isn't the same as p i m p money.

The Difference Between a Pimp and a Gigolo Guys w h o get m o n e y a n d gifts from females generally get labeled as pimps. There are guys w h o have the ability to get a couple of

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bucks out of a few females, w h o t h i n k they are pimpin'. But in reality, m o s t of these guys are just gigolos. T h e gigolo game a n d the p i m p game are totally different. In the gigolo game, the m a n is exchanging sexual favors for gifts a n d m o n e y from females. In the p i m p game, the m a n is exchanging game for money. There is basically one way that a m a n can be considered a p i m p . The only way to be a p i m p is if you have a prostitute, call girl, escort, or stripper w h o gets m o n e y from tricks, on a nightly basis, a n d then brings the m o n e y to you. If you are n o t d o ing this, then you are n o t a p i m p . Everything else, as far as getting m o n e y a n d gifts from females, falls u n d e r the gigolo category instead. P i m p s get m o n e y from hos. Gigolos get m o n e y from square females. In the p i m p game, the m a n is in total control of the women. This is because he depends on his game and n o t his w o m e n . A n d his game will help h i m recruit a n u m b e r of different females in case one of his w o m e n decides to dip. But in the gigolo game, the female is in control. This is because the gigolo depends on the female. And if a female decides to cut h i m loose, he is assed-out. There are three m a i n types of gigolo. They are:

1. T h e High-Stakes Gigolo 2. The D o w n - o n - H i s - L u c k Gigolo 3. T h e Low-Budget Gigolo Here is an assessment of all of the three types:

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The High-Stakes Gigolo These are the professional gigolos w h o k n o w h o w to go after the big fish. M a n y High-Stakes Gigolos w o r k w i t h professional escort agencies that hire t h e m out as c o m p a n i o n s to w o m e n . M a n y of these guys attend upper-class events in o r d e r to scout for their targets. M a n y High-Stakes Gigolos also w o r k as male exotic dancers in order to supplement their income, as well as to recruit sugar m a m a s . These types of gigolos are usually well g r o o m e d a n d they tend to be very physically fit. They place a lot of emphasis on their bodies, because they are essentially selling sex to w o m e n . The m a i n d e m o graphic of w o m e n w h o need to pay a m a n for sex a n d c o m p a n i o n ship on a regular basis are older w o m e n a n d overweight w o m e n . These are the High-Stakes Gigolo's p r i m a r y targets. These guys p r i m a r i l y target older w o m e n (especially widows) because, for the m o s t part, m a n y older w o m e n are the only w o m e n with disposable income that they can trick off. M a n y High-Stakes Gigolos are bisexual. Unlike m o s t heterosexual m e n , m a n y H i g h Stakes Gigolos have no p r o b l e m w i t h sexing up an elderly female. If a guy like this can have sex with a n o t h e r m a n , he really w o u l d n ' t have t o o m u c h of a p r o b l e m with having sexual intercourse w i t h an elderly or m o r b i d l y overweight female. If you need m o r e p r o o f of this, just look at all of the older female celebrities w h o have gotten m a r r i e d to younger m e n . If you take a close look at these h u s bands, they all seem a little "suspect." Most y o u n g heterosexual m e n couldn't be High-Stakes Gigolos. Unlike y o u n g w o m e n w h o m a n a g e to have sex w i t h elderly men for money, straight m e n find it extremely difficult to have sex

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w i t h elderly w o m e n , no m a t t e r h o w m u c h m o n e y they have. You can't bribe your dick. Either a m a n is sexually turned on by a fem a l e or he's not. But the High-Stakes Gigolo can h a n g out with a physically unattractive female w i t h no p r o b l e m . This type of guy likes to h a n g out w i t h older w o m e n a n d do "girlie" things with t h e m . T h e y go shopping together. T h e y go to the ballet together. T h e y go to shoe stores together. T h e High-Stakes Gigolo is willing to do all the things that the average straight guy wouldn't be caught dead doing.

The Down-on-His-Luck Gigolo This type of gigolo likes to use the s y m p a t h y a p p r o a c h on his fem a l e targets. He likes to seem like the good guy w h o is just trying to get back on his feet. T h e D o w n - o n - h i s - L u c k Gigolo usually targets square females within his o w n age group. He will come into a w o m a n ' s life with a gentlemanly approach, appearing as if he's got himself together. But once he gets his foot in the d o o r with a female, he will conveniently "lose his job," "get evicted," "have his car put in the shop," etc. W h e n the w o m a n he is dealing w i t h sees this, her m a t e r n a l instincts kick in a n d she helps h i m out. The D o w n - o n - h i s - L u c k Gigolo is a m a s t e r of getting females to invest in one of his "dreams," which he k n o w s will never pay off. The D o w n - o n - h i s - L u c k Gigolo doesn't b r i n g in the type of m o n e y that the High-Stakes Gigolo brings in. This is because the Down-on-his-Luck

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The Low-Budget Gigolo This is the type of gigolo w h o specializes in targeting welfare queens a n d h o o d r a t s . T h e Low-Budget Gigolo has very low expectations, a n d he looks for w o m e n w h o can provide h i m with basic living necessities. M a n y of these types of gigolos b e c o m e professional babydaddies. These guys will go out a n d find a n u m b e r of h o o d r a t s w h o are willing to have babies with t h e m . T h e n they live off these women. Low-Budget Gigolos grew up in inner-city, single-mother homes. T h e y are used to having d o m i n a t i n g w o m e n in their lives, so they seek out these m o t h e r / c h i l d relationships with other w o m e n when they become adults. Since these guys really have no tight game (if they did, would they be shacking up with females in the projects?) they.have to use sex as their only bargaining chip. These guys are totally dependent on the females they deal with. They d e p e n d on the female to b u y t h e m clothes, let t h e m b o r r o w her car, a n d even b u y t h e m the discs for their Xboxes ( m a n y Low-Budget Gigolos love sitting up in women's h o m e s all day playing Xbox).The ironic thing about LowBudget Gigolos is that these are the m a i n cats w h o like to go around bragging about h o w m u c h they are big-pimpin'.

If It's Ass that You D e s i r e . . . Now, if your p r i m a r y goal when you meet w o m e n is to get some quick a n d easy ass, there are techniques to help you accomplish

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this. First you have to at least be honest with yourself a n d acknowledge that this is your p r i m a r y goal. A n d you m u s t u n d e r s t a n d that you don't have to exert an unnecessary a m o u n t of energy a n d time just to get some ass from a female. A lot of m e n will exert an u n n e c e s s a r y a m o u n t of energy on a female they really aren't into in o r d e r to c o m p e n s a t e for the guilt felt over just w a n t i n g sex. If all you w a n t to do is get sex from a female, there are t h r e e s i m p l e t e c h n i q u e s you can use. They are: 1 . The Earn/Reward M e t h o d 2. The Mysterious Mack M e t h o d 3. The Bold-Faced Lie M e t h o d

The Earn/Reward Method The Earn/Reward M e t h o d is when you meet a female a n d you get her to invest something in you. W h e n a m a n goes on a date with a female a n d invests in drinks, dinner, movies, etc., at the end of the date, he wants a payoff, usually sex. W o m e n are the same way. W h e n a female is required to invest in a m a n , she wants a payoff, as well. But usually the payoff she wants is a c o m m i t m e n t of some sort. But m o s t m e n don't require a female to invest anything. So they can't fathom the idea of a female willingly bringing s o m e t h i n g to the table. A professional p i m p u n d e r s t a n d s this dynamic. This is h o w a lot of p i m p s h o o k their females. You have to establish early on with a female that she has to b r i n g s o m e t h i n g else to the table besides sex. You have to give a female chores. You have to m a k e her cook

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for you. You have to require her to come over a n d clean your crib. You have to require her to take you out. You have to require her to run e r r a n d s for you. You have to m a k e her earn your affection. W h a t you will see happen is that she will start trying to give you sex just to get out of doing so m a n y chores. As a mack, you use sex as a reward to her. In order to use this technique, you have to be very disciplined. If you do it correctly, this t e c h n i q u e can be used over an extended p e r i o d of time with a female.

The Mysterious Mack Method The Mysterious Mack Method is when you become a secretive, ambiguous figure in the eyes of a female. This way, you will tap into the woman's fantasies and allow her to project her desires onto you. This t e c h n i q u e works best when you step to females from areas other t h a n where you live. It won't w o r k if the female is familiar with where you are from a n d the people you h a n g out with. Contrary to p o p u l a r belief, m o s t w o m e n have h a d one-night stands. But they will never a d m i t to this, because they don't want to be perceived as stanks. M a n y adult females have h a d a secret sexual encounter at least once with a mysterious guy that they k n e w little about. The fact that the m a n was so mysterious is the reason the w o m a n can keep the encounter a secret. Some w o m e n m i g h t even block the encounter out of their m i n d s . Some females fantasize about the encounter all the time. Nonetheless, you need to become one of these mysterious macks. This is by far the easiest way of getting quick, easy, commitment-

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free sex from females. All you have to do is p o p up in a club or social spot where people don't k n o w your face, and then start stepping to females on a courtesy level without revealing too m u c h about yourself. You have to reveal all your best personal qualities (such as being well groomed, nicely dressed, extremely confident) without coming across like you're flossing. All you have to do is keep your m o u t h shut, stay cool, be very vague about yourself, don't reveal too m u c h , and allow yourself to become a blank canvas. This way, you can allow a female to paint whatever picture she wants about you. W h e n w o m e n first meet a m a n w h o they can project their fantasies onto, they get into a somewhat euphoric, h y p n o t i c state. So it's very i m p o r t a n t to position yourself to get the ass w i t h i n four days of meeting a female when using the Mysterious M a c k M e t h o d . If you wait too long, the h y p n o t i c spell will wear off. A n d the longer you wait to get the ass, the m o r e difficult it will become.

The Bold-Faced Lie Method N o w the Bold-Faced Lie M e t h o d for getting sex is the only circumstance in the m a c k i n ' game in which I condone lying. C o n t r a r y to p o p u l a r belief, the m a c k i n ' game is really about honesty a n d fairness. As you m a y have noticed, no other p a r t of this b o o k has suggested using deception t o w a r d w o m e n . But I do c o n d o n e lying w h e n it comes to getting superficial, o n e - n i g h t - s t a n d sex. I do not condone the Bold-Faced Lie M e t h o d if you are trying to establish an o n g o i n g relationship with a female. Again, out of respect for the game, you should only use this t e c h n i q u e if you are trying to get some quick, one-night-stand sex.

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You go to a club or a social event in a city or location where no one knows you. A n d w h e n you meet females there, simply lie about your occupation. W h e n you lie, don't tell a half-assed lie. If you are going to lie, you m i g h t as well go all-out w i t h it. As a m a t t e r of fact, the bigger the lie, the m o r e believable it will seem. If the female asks what you do for a living, tell her that you are a professional athlete. Tell her that you are a prince from an African country. Tell her you're an architect. Tell her you just bought the BET Network. Tell her you are the n e w r o a d m a n a g e r for G-Unit. Tell her that you just p u r c h a s e d two Popeye's Chicken franchises in the area. Tell her that you are a video director. Remember, the bigger a n d bolder the lie, the better. I can almost guarantee you if you go to a club where no one k n o w s w h o you are, a n d you tell e n o u g h bold lies (like the ones I m e n t i o n e d ) to a n u m b e r of females, one of t h e m will be d o w n to sex you up that night. A n d if a female is superficial e n o u g h to have sex with you because she thinks that you are a professional athlete, or that you o w n a Popeye's Chicken franchise, then you should be superficial e n o u g h to tell bold-faced lies about what you do. This is w h y I only condone lying u n d e r these circumstances.

Twelve Things a Mack Would Never Say to Get Sex 1. "I love you." (The extreme bold-faced lie approach) 2. "If you really cared about m e , you w o u l d do it." (The guiltt r i p approach) 3. "Take off your clothes so I can give you a massage." (The " I ' m h o o k i n g you u p " approach) 4. "Let me just put the head in." (The bargaining approach)

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5. "I n o r m a l l y don't have sex on the first date either, b u t you're special." (The b r o w n n o s i n g approach) 6. "I'll b u y you anything you want." (The trick's approach) 7. "I just got to have you." (The s y m p a t h y approach) 8. "There are a b u n c h of other girls w h o w o u l d love to do it w i t h me." (The egotistical approach) 9. "Okay, then just go d o w n on me." (The Bill Clinton a p proach) 10. "I just want to p u t it in a n d take it right back out." (The "let me sample it" approach) 11. "Let's just take off o u r clothes. We don't have to do n o t h ing." (The "take my word for it" approach) 12. "You want a ride h o m e , don't you?" (The hostage approach)

If It's Cash You D e s i r e . . . As I explained before, there are only two mentalities that a m a n can have: a p i m p mentality, or a trick mentality. Some of the most successful people in the world with leadership positions (from hustlers to executives to CEOs, etc.), were b o r n with a p i m p mentality. If you were n o t b o r n w i t h a p i m p mentality, you can acquire this mentality t h r o u g h strong discipline. W h e n it comes to recruiting females w h o can b r i n g s o m e t h i n g to the table besides sex, it is imperative that you have a p i m p mentality. The first step in recruiting females w h o can bring things to the table is learning h o w to t r u m p the pussy card. This is extremely

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hard for the average m a n to do. In order to be a t h o r o u g h mack, you must have a "purse first, ass last" mentality. Here is a test you can take that will d e t e r m i n e what type of mentality you have. Just imagine this: If someone were to offer you $10,000 (not a whole hell of a lot of money, but a fairly nice a m o u n t of paper) to sleep in the same bed with Halle Berry every night for one m o n t h , but n o t have sex with her, no matter h o w much she comes on to you, could you do it? N o w be honest with yourself. Ten Gs, or a piece of Halle Berry? Think about that, fellas. Halle is fine as hell. And ten Gs. You can do a lot with ten Gs. Master P started No Limit Records, which is now w o r t h h u n d r e d s of millions of dollars, with a $10,000 investment. So there are ways you can m o v e and shake with ten Gs. I t h i n k given a choice between ten g r a n d a n d sex with Halle Berry, the average m a n would start tearin' that pussy up within two days. Any cat w h o is sexually disciplined e n o u g h to t r u m p the pussy card a n d hold out for the $ 10,000 definitely has a p i m p m e n tality. This is the d i l e m m a that professional p i m p s go t h r o u g h every single day. They have to constantly t r u m p pussy cards all the time, if they w a n t to get any kind of money. As I mentioned before, when you require females to bring something to the table, they will try to use sex as a bargaining chip to wiggle their way out of d o i n g their chores for you. If your m a i n objective is to get money, you m u s t never allow your w o m a n to use sex as a bargaining chip. O n c e you do that, she will view you as just a trick.

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Finding Females with the Means to Break Bread T h e first step to recruiting females w h o will break bread is finding a female w h o has disposable paper. I k n o w we often hear females saying things like, "I will never give a m a n money, blah, blah, blah." But in m o s t cases, females w h o say this have no m o n e y to give, anyway. The reality is that w o m e n w h o have a significant a m o u n t of p a p e r are glad to give it to m e n they are into. T h e majority of young, attractive w o m e n (especially w o m e n in their late teens to mid-twenties) w h o have this type of disposable income are women w h o are in the game. Let's face it, if you meet a twenty-one-year-old female w h o is living in a tight crib on her o w n , driving a fly whip, a n d sporting h i g h - e n d gear, either she's living off of a trust fund, or she has some h o i n ' u n d e r her belt. There aren't t o o m a n y females living off t r u s t funds in this country. But there is a whole lot of h o i n ' going on. The only way to step to a female w h o is living a professional-ho lifestyle is to have a p i m p mentality.

Know Your Ho A very i m p o r t a n t rule of the game is k n o w i n g what type of ho you are dealing with. People in the game put w o m e n into two general categories: squares and hos. Now, the majority of what you have read in this b o o k so far has

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been about h o w to deal with what we call "square" females. You have to deal with hos a little differently. First you have to k n o w the basic definition of what a ho is. Often, people equate a ho with a prostitute. But there is a difference. A ho is a female w h o has sex with two or m o r e people within a o n e - m o n t h time span. A prostitute is a female w h o has sex with two or m o r e people within a onem o n t h time span a n d gets paid for it. A lot of people t h i n k the label of ho comes into play because of the exchange of money. But the ho tag is based on having multiple sex partners. N o w I'm sure there are people out there w h o will start w h i n i n g about the so-called d o u b l e standard, and say things like, " W h a t about a m a n w h o has multiple sex partners? Aren't these m e n considered hos, too?" My answer to t h e m is yes, some m e n are hos, too. But the difference between a male ho and a female ho is that a male ho has no problem a d m i t t i n g to his hoishness. A m a n can sleep with five females in one week, then wake up the next day, look in the mirror, and p o p his collars to himself. But if the average female sleeps with five guys in a week, she will m o s t likely t r y to block it out of her mind, be in denial about it, or come up w i t h excuses about it: "I was drunk," "I was vulnerable," "I t h i n k I was drugged," etc. The p o i n t is, m o s t female hos (professional or n o n - p r o ) will not admit to being hos. So you first have to d e t e r m i n e whether or not the female you are dealing with is a h o , and then you have to figure out what type of ho she is. There are a few different categories of hos. A female w h o dresses very skimpily and provocatively to get attention is called a hoochie. A female w h o has sex with a n u m b e r of m e n (and women) Just because she enjoys a lot of sexual contact w i t h different people,

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is called a slut. A female w h o has sex with a n u m b e r of m e n in exchange for menial items (such as food, weed, drinks, clothes, trips to the nail shop, etc.) is called a stank. A female w h o has sex in exchange for a set price is called a hooker. A female w h o has limited sexual contact w i t h different tricks, w h o s e price range varies a n d w h o sells her c o m p a n i o n s h i p , is called a call girl. A female w h o gets m o n e y by spitting game at different guys without actually having sex with t h e m is called a hustler. A female w h o has sex for m o n e y a n d still gets p a i d years after she stops having sex, is called a wife.

Pro-Hos If you are trying to step to females using a p i m p mentality, you need to step to p r o - h o s . P r o - h o s fall into the category of hookers, strippers, a n d call girls. The p r o b l e m is trying to differentiate between real hos a n d females w h o are just hoish. M a n y females w h o act hoish just for the attention will display over-the-top behavior when they go out. These attention freaks usually h a n g out with other attention freaks. Their m a i n goal w h e n they go out is to be seen. Most p r o - h o s are very low-key w h e n they are outside of their w o r k environment. They almost go out of their way to appear conservative. But there are a few clues to look for in a female to help you tell if she is in the game. T h e four signs to look for to tell if a female m i g h t be a h o : 1. If she wears a tongue ring or any other type of facial piercing. 2. If she wears a lot of blue eye shadow.

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3. If she is h a n g i n g out in the club by herself. (Most w o m e n in the game are hated on by square females, a n d p r o - h o s k n o w h o w scandalous other p r o - h o s can be, so they just tend to go out by themselves.) 4. If she has three or m o r e visible tattoos. N o w of course there are exceptions to the rule, b u t generally w h e n you find a female with one or m o r e of these four characteristics, she just m i g h t have a foot in the game a n d some ho stripes on her sleeve. W h e n y o u are dealing w i t h a female w h o is in the game, you have to establish very quickly t h a t y o u are n o t a m a n w h o can be m a n i p u l a t e d sexually. Because a w o m a n w h o is in the g a m e will quickly test any m a n she comes into contact with. These w o m e n are used to d o m i n a t i n g a n d m a n i p u l a t i n g m e n every day. So you have to have a boss mentality a n d stand up to any test these w o m e n m i g h t spring up on you. The hardest part of getting females to break bread is screening t h r o u g h all the broke females a n d the decoy h o s , in order to get to the qualified females. And once you finally get with a female in the game w h o is qualified to break bread, all you have to do is sit back a n d be mackish. All w o m e n have an insatiable need for companionship. And this is especially t r u e for w o m e n in the game. It's so difficult for w o m e n in the game to sustain meaningful, significant relationships— when m o s t guys step to w o m e n in the game, they are either trying to pay for sex, or they're trying to hustle up some free sex—that these w o m e n have a stronger need for real c o m p a n i o n s h i p . That's what a p i m p , boss player, or t r u e m a c k provides: c o m p a n i o n s h i p for w o m e n in the game.

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There is one basic, simple rule that you m u s t u n d e r s t a n d w h e n you are dealing with w o m e n in the game, or females w h o have p a per. If she likes you, she will pay you.

Top Five Greatest Gigolos of All Time 1. S t e d m a n G r a h a m 2. Kevin Federline 3. C h r i s Judd 4. Al Reynolds 5. Bobby Brown

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fter my first book, The Art of Mackin', came out, I got lots of e-mails from readers, a n d m o s t of t h e m were asking the same questions. But there was one e-mail that really, really moved m e . This one guy wrote me and said that he once had such a lack of confidence when it came to getting with w o m e n that he would use heavy drugs a n d alcohol in order to get a false sense of confidence. As a result, he eventually became a serious d r u g addict. He told me that reading The Art of Mackin' had t a u g h t h i m h o w to have real self-confidence. And he said that the b o o k motivated h i m to check into a d r u g r e h a b facility and t u r n his life a r o u n d . I was particularly moved by this letter because I appreciated seeing that this guy fully understood what the mackin' game is truly about. T h e m a c k i n ' game isn't just limited to getting females. Once you fully understand the rules and the nature of the m a c k i n ' game, you can u p g r a d e your game and apply it to everything in your life.

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Mackin' in the Business World O n e of the biggest m a c k s in the business world is D o n a l d T r u m p . Whenever you see D o n a l d T r u m p , he is always chillin' w i t h a sup e r m o d e l . He has put himself into a position to get the best w o m e n on the market. And he uses the same m a c k mentality w h e n he conducts his business deals. T r u m p k n o w s h o w t o p r o m o t e his n a m e . H e k n o w s h o w t o s c h m o o z e his targets. He k n o w s h o w to use charisma a n d c h a r m to close deals. A n d he k n o w s h o w to quickly dismiss anyone w h o doesn't a p p r o a c h h i m w i t h respect. This is what has m a d e h i m one of the m o s t successful businessmen in the country. You have to treat every life endeavor, whether it's a business endeavor, academic endeavor, social endeavor, etc., as if it were a female you are trying to recruit. W h e n you're dealing w i t h a fem a l e , you have to let her k n o w that you are in d e m a n d . This makes you appear to be m o r e valuable to her. A n d w h e n you are trying to close a business deal, you have to let your business associates k n o w that you are in d e m a n d . W h e n you deal with females, you can't seem too eager to get with them. You have to play it cool. In the same way, when you are trying to close a business deal, you also can't seem overly eager. Appearing overly eager makes you seem suspicious, whether you are dealing with females or business associates. T h e p o i n t is, you've got to learn h o w to parlay the game you use to spit at females into other aspects of your life. The way you m a c k is a reflection of your overall character. T h e way a m a n h a n -

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dles his females should reflect the way he handles all of his other life and business endeavors.

Your Game Reflects Your Character If you have a reputation for lying, cheating, a n d deceiving females you date, people will assume that you will lie, cheat, a n d deceive in general. They will be reluctant to do business w i t h you. If you are true to the game a n d straight-up ( n o m a t t e r h o w big a player you are) in the way you deal w i t h w o m e n , people are m o r e likely to respect your character. This doesn't m e a n you can't get any. Again, look at D o n a l d Trump. T r u m p changes w o m e n like he changes draws, a n d makes no secret of it. A n d this hasn't affected the level of respect he gets as a b u s i n e s s m a n . H u g h Hefner a d m i t s to having seven girlfriends in his stable, a n d Hef is highly respected in this country. W h e n Bill Clinton a d m i t t e d to having sexual relations w i t h Monica Lewinsky, his approval rating w i t h the A m e r i c a n public was unaffected. Now that's a mack. In contrast, let's look at someone like Scott Peterson. Scott Peterson was accused of killing his pregnant wife, Laci Peterson. The physical evidence linking h i m to the m u r d e r was minimal. But when the prosecution revealed that he cheated on his wife a n d was deceptive in the way he dealt with his mistress, people automatically assumed that he was deceptive about everything else, including the m u r d e r — a n d he was convicted. R e m e m b e r to have integrity with your game, because this will

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e n h a n c e your overall reputation a n d character. Always leave a p o s itive impression with the people you deal with on an intimate, social, or business level.

Other Mack Upgrades T h e majority of this b o o k has dealt primarily with the overall mentality a m a n m u s t have to be a t r u e mack. But a m a c k m u s t also look the part, so n o w I w o u l d like to point out a few accessories a m a c k can use to u p g r a d e his status. Let's start with:

Jewelry W h e n it comes to jewelry, we are in an age where it's best to be subtle. Back in the seventies a n d eighties, it was fly to walk a r o u n d sporting h u g e gold chains a n d four finger rings. But now, less is more. W h e n you get suited and booted, it is always good to finish off the ensemble with something that sparkles. A pinky ring. A nice watch. Nice cuff links or a nice necklace. Women have a natural attraction to things that glitter, and jewelry helps you send a message that you have something of a flair to your personality.

Hair This should go without saying, b u t a mack's hair should be on¬ deck at all times. I have to m e n t i o n this because I have seen guys going out to clubs with "unestablished" hairlines and fuzzy braids.

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W h e n you're trying to put your m a c k d o w n , you have to give females the impression that you take p r i d e in your looks. This is not possible if your hair looks like you've been wearing a football helmet. Spend the m o n e y to get your hair lined u p , player. Take time out to get your braids redone. W h e n your d o m e is looking right, you will have a better self-image. R e m e m b e r to keep your hairstyles current. D o n ' t walk off in the club sporting a Bobby Brown " M y Prerogative" g u m b y from 1988. And this goes for all of my white macks out there, as well. I've seen a few of you white cats out there in the clubs w i t h your hair feathered. Unless you are p a r t of a Bee Gees cover b a n d , switch your 'do u p . And chill out w i t h the mullets. Mullets a n d mackin' cannot coexist. A t r u e m a c k s h o u l d keep his hair in an u p to-date, well-groomed style. And r e m e m b e r , the only time you should rock a p e r m is if you are d o i n g some full-fledged pimpin'.

Shoes Shoes are crucial for completing the look of a t o p - n o t c h mack. Many guys are u n a w a r e of this, but the first t h i n g a w o m a n notices on a m a n is his shoes. W o m e n u n d e r s t a n d h o w shoes say a lot about someone's personality, because they are shoe experts. This is why they a p p r o a c h shoe-shopping like an art form. W o m e n take pride in the shoes they b u y for themselves, because they u n d e r stand h o w shoes send out a nonverbal message about the person Wearing t h e m . So w h e n w o m e n first meet a m a n , they look at his shoes to see what nonverbal message he is sending about himself. You always w a n t to have shoes that send the message that you are a mack. To a mack, the shoes are the m o s t i m p o r t a n t part of his

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clothing ensemble. T h e w r o n g shoes can totally ruin a good outfit. So always take pride in your footwear and the message it sends. Here are a few examples of the different types of shoes m e n wear, a n d the nonverbal message they send to w o m e n :

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NONVERBAL MESSAGE

Sneakers

"I have a little youth in me."

Timberland boots

"I've got a little thug in me."

Alligator shoes

"I have a little player in me."

Hush Puppies

"I have a little geek in me."

Flip-flops

"I have a little hippie in me."

Sandals

"I'm married."

Cowboy boots

"I have a little hillbilly in me.'

Mules

"I have a little queen in me."

Keeping Your Game On a Certain Level After You Upgrade W h e n you reach third-degree m a c k status, you must always maintain a level of integrity that will keep you at the top of your game. This is because m a c k i n ' is also about m a i n t e n a n c e . M a k i n g a million dollars is a task. But m a i n t a i n i n g that million dollars after

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you m a k e it is a n o t h e r task w i t h i n itself. And in the m a c k i n ' game, u p g r a d i n g your convo, g r o o m i n g habits, clothing, and shoes is one major task. M a i n t a i n i n g this level of game is s o m e t h i n g you have to constantly w o r k at, as well. There are two general areas of game m a i n t e n a n c e that a t r u e mack must u p h o l d w h e n dealing with w o m e n . They are: 1. Booty-Call Etiquette 2. Pussy-Whipping I m m u n i t y

Booty-Call Etiquette When it comes to b o o t y calls, m a n y m e n tend to let their standards drop. M e n usually start off the evening w i t h h o p e s of a high-level booty call, b u t since m o s t b o o t y calls are s p o n t a n e o u s , m o s t guys will settle for whatever b o o t y is available to t h e m when they want it. The general rule for the average m a n , as far as b o o t y calls go, is that the later it gets, the lower the standards go. W h e n it's early in the evening, the average guy gets out his cell phone a n d starts off trying to contact the t o p - g r a d e females. W h e n it gets a little later in the evening, he starts breaking out with the little black b o o k of females he keeps in touch with from time to time. A n d w h e n those females aren't available, he starts dusting off that old, little black b o o k that's b u r i e d in the back of the closet. (All guys have b e e n reduced to digging in that old p h o n e b o o k at one point or another. Guys, you k n o w w h a t I'm talking about: the little black b o o k you've h a d since the "Please H a m m e r D o n ' t H u r t 'Em" t o u r of '91.) At a r o u n d seven or eight p.m., you start calling up the Halle

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Berry- a n d Tyra Banks-looking females. At a r o u n d nine or ten p.m., guys start d o w n g r a d i n g a n d calling up the N a o m i C a m p b e l l a n d the Alicia Keys females. At a r o u n d eleven or m i d n i g h t , the females start looking like Pamela Anderson. After m i d n i g h t , the females start looking like Louie Anderson. W h e n you reach t r u e m a c k status, you never let it get to that point. Always limit h o w low you will let your standards d r o p w h e n c a m p a i g n i n g for a b o o t y call. A b o o t y call female s h o u l d be no lower t h a n a six (by your o w n standards of what a six is). W h e n you get desperate, a n d start calling fives and twos, you send a negative message about yourself to your subconscious m i n d . It's like telling yourself that you don't deserve better. So always m a i n t a i n p r o p e r Booty-Call Etiquette a n d keep your m a c k standards intact.

Pussy-Whipping Immunity In o r d e r for a t r u e m a c k to m a i n t a i n his third-degree status, he m u s t become i m m u n e to being pussy-whipped. As I stated before, the average m a n ' s weakness is in being sexually m a n i p u l a t e d by w o m e n . O n c e you have elevated a n d u p g r a d e d your game to the p o i n t where you are i m m u n e to a w o m a n ' s pussy-whipping tactics, you will feel the full p o w e r of total m a c k d o m . The worst type of pussy-whipped m a n is a guy w h o doesn't realize he's w h i p p e d . As I m e n t i o n e d in the beginning of this book, there are a few ways to d e t e r m i n e whether or n o t you are whipped. So I'm going to give you a test that will help you d e t e r m i n e if you are pussy-whipped. If two or m o r e of the ten items on the test applies to you, then you are a certified pussy-whipped brother. If you fail this test, I suggest that you put this b o o k d o w n , go rent The Di-

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Top Ten Ways to Know If You're Whipped 1. If your lady gives you a curfew, and you abide by it 2. If you baby-sit a female's kids ( w h o aren't yours) while she goes out to the club 3. If you get a female's n a m e tattooed on your a r m 4. If you go out in public wearing matching outfits with your female 5. If you carry your lady's purse at the mall 6. If you call up radio stations to dedicate songs to your lady 7. If your lady makes you sit t h r o u g h chick flicks on a regular basis 8. If you have ever uttered the words, "I don't want to lose you" to a female 9. If you have ever d r o p p e d out of school or quit a j o b over a female 10. If you have ever found yourself standing in the grocery store checkout line with a bottle of S u m m e r s Eve or a box of T a m p a x If you are a pussy-whipped brother, the best thing for you to do is shake that pussy vice cold turkey. Refuse to let the coochie control your life. Start recruiting other females so you won't feel forced to focus on that one coochie that has your m i n d . You should also become hip to some of the tactics w o m e n use to test you. O n e of the most c o m m o n ways w o m e n test m e n is by

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trying to send t h e m on errands. T h e e r r a n d m i g h t start off small, at first. It m i g h t seem innocent a n d m i n u t e , initially. But if she can get away w i t h having you r u n a small e r r a n d , the next t i m e it will be a bigger one. If you are always willing to r u n every e r r a n d that a w o m a n requests, she will k n o w that she has you w h i p p e d . Every m a n out there has experienced this scenario before: You are on your way over to a female's crib to kick it with her w h e n she calls you up a n d says something like, "Hey, can you stop by BaskinR o b b i n s a n d pick up some ice cream for me before you come by?" This m i g h t seem like an innocent request, b u t in reality it is a test. If you haven't h a d sex w i t h a female yet a n d she asks you to r u n an e r r a n d like this, she either A) wants to test you to see h o w badly you w a n t to hit it, or B) is already p l a n n i n g on getting busy w i t h you, a n d wants to give her conscience the impression that she m a d e you earn the privilege of having sex w i t h her. If you have already h a d sex w i t h a female and she is trying to get you to r u n e r r a n d s for her, she is definitely trying to see if she has y o u pussy-whipped. As far as the rules of the m a c k i n ' game, y o u are allowed to r u n only one m i r r o r e r r a n d for a female you just h o o k e d up with, or better yet, n o n e at all. If a female is clearly testing you by trying to m a k e you stop a n d pick up some items for her on y o u r way over to her crib, you need to m a c k up a n d say hell no. Tell her if she wants s o m e b o d y to b r i n g food to her crib she needs to call Meals-on-Wheels. D o n ' t ever let a female t h i n k she has you pussy-whipped by r u n n i n g err a n d s a n d picking up food for her. N o w if the female is d o w n to do the same for you, then it's cool to reciprocate. If you are d o i n g all the r u n n i n g and she is d o i n g all the chillin', t h e n she's going to feel like she has you-whipped. That's

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when you need to shake that pussy vice off you a n d give her the n u m b e r to D o m i n o ' s for when she gets hungry. After that, start b u i l d i n g up your pussy i m m u n e system, so the only time you will go to the grocery store for a female is when you are picking up some Lawry's Season Salt so she can spice up the meal she is cooking for you.

Tips on Setting the Right Tone Another very i m p o r t a n t m a c k u p g r a d e is learning h o w to set the right tone w h e n a female comes over to your crib. W h e n you invite a female over to your s p o t for the first time, your general goal is to hit it. In o r d e r to increase the possibility of this, you need to m a k e females comfortable w h e n they're in your h o m e . O n e way to do this is to put on the right music. Obviously, you shouldn't have a female over w h e n your crib is filthy. No m a t t e r h o w good the music is, a female isn't going to be comfortable w i t h roaches crawling on her. You should also have the right lighting (the good ol' red lightbulb is a player's classic) and the right scent. Don't invite a w o m a n over to your place with your crib smelling like chicken grease and ass. Light a scented candle and spray some Febreze on your bedsheets, h o m i e . W i t h the basics covered, nice music and, in some cases, nice drinks, are the best icebreakers when you have a female over.

Types of Music to Play Music brings out all types of passions a n d e m o t i o n s in people. Some songs bring out anger or aggressiveness. There are some

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songs that come on in the club a n d m a k e people w a n t to fight. Some songs b r i n g out sadness. Some songs b r i n g out joy. So it's u n derstandable that some music will b r i n g out other h u m a n e m o tions, such as sexual desire a n d comfort. A mack's music has to be appropriate for the female he is with. If you are with a younger female, say between eighteen a n d twenty-one, you m i g h t want to start off with some h i p - h o p , a n d then after she gets in her comfort zone, slow it d o w n with some Alicia Keys, or something similar. If it's an herbal-tea type of female (you know, the b o h e m i a n type) you definitely need to break out w i t h the Jill Scott a n d the Erika Badu. If you have a m o r e sophisticated female, you can't go w r o n g with a little jazz music. Whatever music you need to get your females in their comfort zones, you need to h o o k it u p . Just r e m e m b e r , d o n ' t play the w r o n g type of music for the w r o n g type of female. You can't invite a female from the ' h o o d over to your crib a n d t r y getting her in the m o o d by playing Kenny G. And you can't w o o a t o p - n o t c h , sophisticated female by playing the remix to "Move Bitch, Get O u t the W a y " O n e m i n o r slip-up can potentially get a w o m a n out of her comfort zone with you a n d salt your w h o l e game u p . If you are u n sure w h a t type of music to play a r o u n d your female, you can't go w r o n g w i t h the Isley Brothers. Any slow cut from the Isley Brothers will set the m o o d . I have one CD that is one of my personal favorites to get females in a mellow m o o d when they come over to the crib. It's the first CD from the R&B g r o u p 112, self-titled 112. Almost every one of the nineteen songs on the CD are slow cuts. Every time I put that CD on when a female comes by my crib, her panties start dropping

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like stock prices. You can just put that 112 CD on, a n d let it ride all night. If you have a CD burner, you should compile a n u m b e r of songs w i t h suggestive lyrics that will send subtle messages a n d inn u e n d o to the female w h o is coming to see you. The songs should be in a certain sequence d e p e n d i n g on what message you w a n t to send to the female at any particular time. H e r e are a few examples of five songs you should b u r n onto your booty-call C D : 1. " D o Me Baby" by Prince 2. "There's a Meeting in My B e d r o o m " by Silk 3. " T u r n Off the Lights" by Teddy Pendergrass 4. " B u m p a n d G r i n d " by R. Kelly And after you finish getting your freak on: 5. "Hit the Road, Jack" by Ray Charles

How to Avoid Spending Money on Dates Fellas, are you tired of going out on dates you really don't want to go on, and spending m o n e y you really don't want to spend when dealing with females? Well here is a game-spitting technique I like to call the King Flex M e t h o d that you can use to help get you out of an u n wanted date situation. In order to master this technique, you have to Prepare yourself for a mental chess game. Most square guys have a checkers-game mentality. In checkers, your job is to j u m p on whatever opportunity is available. Most square guys will accept anything a female throws their way. This is why their females usually end up

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with the u p p e r h a n d . But a true m a c k m u s t t h i n k like a chess player. You have to be two steps ahead of the opposing player at all times. W h e n you use the King Flex M e t h o d on females, you will be able to get females to say w h a t you w a n t t h e m to say by t h i n k i n g ahead. If y o u use the King Flex M e t h o d correctly, n o t only will y o u avoid m o n e y c o m i n g out of your pockets, you will also have females taking you out on dates. T h e only t i m e you will have to go into your pockets is to get a c o n d o m . It works like this: W h e n you first meet a female a n d you have your initial p h o n e conversation, you start mentioning h o w you would like to meet a female w h o is really independent. Talk about h o w so m a n y w o m e n claim to be independent b u t they really aren't. This will m a k e your female target start bragging about h o w indep e n d e n t she is. We have all heard the " I ' m independent" speech from w o m e n before, so you should already be familiar w i t h this. You w a n t to p r o m p t her to continue bragging about h o w indep e n d e n t she is by saying things like, "Sure, you say you're i n d e p e n dent, b u t you m i g h t be just like all the other females out there w h o say they're independent. W h e n it comes t i m e to b r i n g s o m e t h i n g to the table, they fall short." This will m a k e her d e t e r m i n e d to separate herself from all the other females w h o say they are i n d e p e n dent. She is really going to w a n t you to b u y her "independent w o m a n " claims. So you say s o m e t h i n g like, "Let me t h r o w a h y p o thetical situation at you. Let's say you a n d I were dating. Or let's just say you were dating any guy, for that matter. W h a t can you b r i n g to the table? W h a t is the incentive for a guy to be in a relationship w i t h y u ? " Notice h o w I threw in that "any guy, for that matter." If you just ask her, "If I were dating you, w h a t could you b r i n g to the table?" all

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she would do is avoid the question with another question: "Well, what can you bring to the table?" But w h e n you mention the scenario of her dating guys in general, she is forced to answer the question. She'll r u n d o w n a list of what she can do a n d what she can bring to the table in a relationship, a n d w h e n she's done, that's w h e n you go in for the kill. You say to her (in a very s m o o t h , mellow, a n d non-condescending way) "Ok, well you definitely are independent. And since you are so independent, w h y don't you take me out to dinner t o m o r r o w night?" Now, 98 percent of all w o m e n have never had a guy ask t h e m that before, so this will t h r o w her off-balance, which is w h a t you want. A n d in any game, w h e n your o p p o n e n t is off-balance, you have the u p p e r h a n d . W h e n you ask a w o m a n to take you out on a date, I can all b u t guarantee that she will come back w i t h one of these three replies: 1. " W h y d o n ' t you take me out on a date?" 2. "I d o n ' t take guys out on dates first." 3. " I ' m old-fashioned, and I believe t h a t m e n should take w o m e n out." N o w if she says, " W h y don't you take me out on a date?" or "I don't take guys out first," she k n o w s she is contradicting all that stuff she just said about being independent. So m o s t females will agree to take you out on a date just to save face. W h e n the female says that she is still old-fashioned w h e n it comes to dating, you say to her, "Cool, I like old-fashioned w o m e n . So since you are so oldfashioned, w h y d o n ' t you come over to my crib a n d cook for me? That's what w o m e n did in the old days." If you b r e a k it d o w n like that, the female will m o s t likely agree

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to cook d i n n e r for you or take y o u out on a date. I have b e e n using this m e t h o d for years, a n d it always works like a c h a r m . R e m e m ber, w h e n you use this t e c h n i q u e , you have to back it up with confidence. D o n ' t w o r r y about jeopardizing your chances of having sex w i t h a female. Trust m e , she will respect your confidence if she's real about hers.

Top Five Most Famous Pussy-Whipped Men of All Time 1. Will Smith: Being henpecked isn't t o o b a d if you are pecked by the right hen. Will's c u r r e n t wife, Jada Pinkett-Smith, is the right hen. So you still get player p o i n t s , Will. But you still need some p o i n t s d e d u c t e d because y o u put yourself in a position to let your first wife take you to the cleaners. 2. D o u g Christie: NBA player w h o s e wife follows the t e a m bus in her o w n car in order to keep an eye on h i m . 3. Mike Tyson: D u r i n g his R o b i n Givens period. 4. John Wayne Bobbitt: His wife cut his j i m m y off, a n d he still w a n t e d to w o r k things out. 5. J. H o w a r d Marshall: This was the old Texas billionaire w h o h a d one foot in the grave a n d a n o t h e r foot in the strip club w h e n he m e t A n n a Nicole Smith.

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he m a i n t h i n g I h o p e you have learned from this b o o k is h o w to have respect. W h e n I say "have respect," I m e a n have respect for yourself first. If you don't respect yourself, a n d you feel that you are inferior to the females you are trying to get with, there it is no way you can truly respect others. You m u s t first respect yourself, a n d then you m u s t respect the game. W h a t you have read in this b o o k has been proven effective. So you don't have to do no guinea-pig mackin'. There is no need for you to experiment w i t h your game by m a k i n g mistakes that m a n y macks have m a d e long before you even came on the scene. Hopefully, this b o o k will save you from years of mistakes that m e n have c o m m o n l y m a d e w h e n it comes to dating. All you have to do is follow w h a t you've learned here, and everything else will fall into place.

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Remember to Keep Up Your Standards As a m a c k , do n o t accept lackluster females. A mack's game naturally elevates. In a t r u e mack's life, the next female is always better t h a n the last. Focus on stacking your paper, a n d once your p a p e r is stacked, the same females will still be available a n d t h e n some. Never focus all your energy on jockin' one female. Like I said, there are over a million females c o m i n g of age every single day. Your game is going to be compatible w i t h at least one of these females. Like I said before, the dating game is always s o m e t h i n g of a gamble. But even if you're in Las Vegas, you s h o u l d never spend t o o m u c h t i m e in one casino. If you aren't w i n n i n g at the M G M G r a n d , you m i g h t need to go over to the M a n d a l a y Bay a n d try y o u r l u c k there. T h e same goes w i t h dating. If y o u r game isn't w o r k i n g w i t h one female, d o n ' t waste t i m e w o n d e r i n g why. Don't waste t i m e t r y i n g to w i n her over. Take y o u r g a m e to one of the millions of other females out there w h o are looking for good game.

Your license to Mack By reading this b o o k , fully c o m p r e h e n d i n g it, a n d utilizing its t e c h n i q u e s accordingly, you have e a r n e d a license to mack. And you must carefully maintain your mack license if you w a n t to have continued success in the game. Here's a list of ten violations that will get your m a c k license revoked:

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1. Spending m o r e t h a n $100 on a first date 2. Allowing a female to disrespect you 3. Having sex w i t h three or m o r e females w h o rate less t h a n a five (on a scale of one to ten) w i t h i n a o n e - m o n t h time span 4. Stalking a female 5. Showing up at a female's h o u s e w i t h flowers or balloons on a first date 6. Letting a female pit you against a n o t h e r m a n 7. Calling a female a n d playing Brian M c K n i g h t songs on her voicemail 8. Buying drinks for a female a n d all her friends at the club 9. Allowing yourself to be pussy-whipped 10. C o n t e m p l a t i n g suicide because a female h u r t you (This is the ultimate m a c k violation, because a t r u e mack k n o w s his o w n value)

Be Sure to Maintain a Mack's Demeanur The majority of this b o o k has been p r e t t y straightforward, b u t some parts were educational, a n d some p a r t s were even funny. I wanted this b o o k to create a different range of feelings, because that's p a r t of what the m a c k i n ' game is all about. W h e n you're dealmg with different females, you need to be able to switch up your demeanor at the d r o p of the hat. W i t h some w o m e n you have to be serious. W i t h others, you have to take on the d e m e a n o r of a teacher and school t h e m on

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some things. A n d sometimes you need to be witty. So as a m a c k , your d e m e a n o r needs to be like liquid. It has to be able to flow in any particular direction at any given m o m e n t .

My Personal Tastes People always ask me, "Tariq, what do you look for in w o m e n you date?" The answer is: nice feet. If you want to be a t r u e mack, fellas, you have to become a foot reader. In m o s t cases, a woman's feet will tell you everything you need to k n o w about her. The way her feet look will give you an idea about her real age, her income status, whether or n o t she is going t h r o u g h h a r d times, etc. Everything else on a w o m a n ' s b o d y can be camouflaged. W o m e n can use m a k e u p , wigs, breast implants, liposuction, a n d m a n y other things to camouflage other bodily flaws. But you can't camouflage jacked-up feet. The feet tell the real story. You m i g h t meet a w o m a n w h o fixes up her face a n d b o d y to look like she's twenty-three or twenty-four years old, a n d she m i g h t even claim to be twenty-three or twentyfour years old. But if her feet have liver spots, you will be able to peep game a n d realize that this w o m a n is n o t what she seems. I also consider myself a breast m a n . Most guys are either ass m e n or breast m e n . Even t h o u g h m a n y guys like b o t h ( m e included), some guys lean t o w a r d one end of the s p e c t r u m . N o w I like nice asses, too, but like I said, if I have to choose, I tend to be m o r e of a breast m a n . You'll notice that the m o r e m o n e y a m a n makes, the m o r e of a breast m a n he becomes. Because of easy access to breast augmentation, a female with nice breasts can m a i n t a i n her overall looks

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m u c h longer t h a n a female with a nice ass. She's got to manually maintain that ass. And m o s t w o m e n don't have the discipline to go to the gym every day to keep their asses intact.

Top Five Celebrity Females I Would Consider My Type 1. Halle Berry 2. Christina Milian 3. Jessica Alba 4. Mya 5. Mariah Carey (A lot of people m a y criticize me for giving p r o p s to Mariah, b u t I t h i n k there's something sexy about her crazy ass.) And just to show that I don't discriminate, here's a list of females over the age of forty-five w h o I t h i n k are still "doable":

Top Five Celebrity Females over the Age of Forty-five I Would Consider My Type 1. Sheryl Lee Ralph 2. Beverly Johnson 3. Debbie Allen 4. Angela Bassett 5. Bernadette Stantis (Thelma from Good Times)

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My Final Piece of Mack Advice You are either a mack or a trick. W o m e n are either going to bring things to your table, or take things off your table. You are going to be a player, or you are going to pay her. A lot of m e n don't realize this, b u t m o s t w o m e n feel like you owe t h e m something if you have sex with t h e m . W o m e n feel if they have sex w i t h you, they don't have to b r i n g a n y t h i n g else to the table. As a mack, you can't accept this. You have to accept your status as a mack. A n d if y o u accept y o u r mack status, others will accept it, too.

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

ariq "King Flex" Nasheed is a former hustler a n d the a u t h o r of the bestseller The Art of Mackin' a n d Play or Be Played. He lives in Los Angeles, a n d you can find h i m online at www.kingflex.tv.